Healing through Pain

When it is ruptured, reestablishing trust can be so difficult. What is trust anyways? Here is one perspective.

What happens when a spotlight shines on underdeveloped areas of our lives? Take a listen for how we can respond!

What happens when something horrific takes place and we couch it in loaded language like predator, narcissist, the patriarchy and more? Labels can immobilize us. Figuring out our needs and skill building is the order of operations to get us moving towards boundaries and health.

Immobilization is the breeding ground of hopelessness and despair! Take a listen to hear about just how vital movement is especially in seasons of high distress.

What happens when we withhold truth to avoid conflict? Take a listen to why this approach can be so relationally destructive!

It can be so easy to get caught up in the hard of life and fail to ask the key question of "who am I becoming in this process". Let suffering finish its work!

Over time, we can gain clarity and shift behaviors if we are willing to do the arduous work of exploring where we are at and envisioning where we want to go. Beware, though! The process is a lengthy one!

Affronted by someone else's confidence? Perhaps we explore where confidence tends to bloom. At least, in my story, there is a clear explanation.

Often, we are looking for the "next". The next answer. The next quick fix. The next overnight payoff. Perhaps that search for next will keep us in a perpetual spin cycle. So what's a better option? Take a listen.

Does 2024 have some changes afoot? Is there some healing that has to happen? Are there some skills to build? Might there be trust to rebuild? Take a listen for what happens in therapy. Perhaps it is time to invite a helper in!

What happens when we catapult towards outcomes and require our brain to problem solve on an imposed timeline? Perhaps urgency works against us. Listen for some reassurance in how patience is a part of the productivity puzzle!

There are ways we can push back against over-personalization, which is a common cognitive distortion. Take a listen!

When the brain conjures up fear, perhaps we are being invited to lean in instead of run away from it. Here are a few key questions to get us to move towards and through fear.

It is a question we should be answering honestly - are others safe inside our head? Are we respectful to others inside our heads? It is of utmost importance to curate a space of health and wellness and that includes our inner dialog and our inner world

When we arrive in adulthood and find ourselves mired in coping strategies and defense mechanisms, perhaps some understanding of our stories is paramount. What if we haven't been messing up all along, but we still have some work to do?

It is possible that we get some things about identity consistently wrong. What if it's not about deconstructing. What if we are for the first time constructing? And, if we are, what does that mean?

Desiring to live intentionally? Desiring to live a life of health and wellness? This is the starting point!

The sound quality is a little rough, but the message is a good one! Often, we segment people into good and evil. What if the inbetween is actually the biggest category, and perhaps the one that causes the most distress. Let's name it.

Today, there is visual to help recalibrate anxiety and to help recalibrate life! Take a listen. Be sure to share.

A frantic pace to connect with someone should give us insights that we are not dealing with healthy patterns.

We can often get stuck in our emotions, resenting what it takes to work through things. Sometimes, just acknowledging our process as OK is the best way to get unstuck. From there, we get choices.

We live in a time of abundance. Decision making can be tough. A systems approach is often the answer. If we don't draw some limits, what might be the consequences?

Sometimes we are in a supporting role. Sometimes we stretch towards the lead. It all matters. It is about cultivating ourselves in the journey, not racing for quick outcomes and paths of least resistance. Take a listen.

We've said it before and we'll say it again - sometimes the best self-care is actually community care. In search of community? Here is another reason to keep pursing it!

Often, we can see "otherness" as a challenge to ourselves. What if "otherness" is the very thing that makes each of us valuable, unique, and lovely. What if we celebrate diversity and highly value others?