Healing through Pain

There are a host of reasons that things go sideways in our lives, but one thing each issue has in common is us! There are things that need to be unlearned, thought patterns that can be changed, and belief statements that need to be dismantled. Change begins with us and the brunt of the work has to be handled by us. Problems? We can look inward to figure out our complicity!

We need connection. It is a drive that social beings organically have. So what happens when we feel disconnected? There are choices to be made - prioritizing quantity looks different from prioritizing quality. Which makes more sense to you?

Listen for a few things to consider as we take on setting intentional habits in 2022! From domains and flexibility to choosing a theme, there are helpful ways to tackle new objectives.

In order to walk towards purpose and meaning, we are going to need to take ownership and responsibility in our stories - even the hard parts where we may have been victimized. It is an imperative piece of living well and intentionally.

Some have been taught people-pleasing and compliance as a life posture. Unfortunately, this can have a steep cost. If this is our normal, we can unlearn and better understand our right to say "No" as a complete idea.

For some, the holidays and special events can be especially stressful because receiving can be hard. For others, any form of generosity - like compliments, time spent & more - can also be stress inducing. Hear some reasons why this may be a struggle and how to practice receiving generosity!

Often, we give up our goals because we try to make too many changes and shifts all at once. Science says try again, but try smaller steps. Listen to hear a few anecdotes about how to engage long-term changes.

The headlines keep coming; school shootings are taking place with alarming regularity. Our kids need help processing through this. Here are a few tips to engage these tough conversations.

Something that is familiar to us and has been normalized may, in fact, be contributing to unhealth. We need to explore our stories and get comfortable unlearning some of our normal and replacing it with health. Let's normalize fighting for health and healing.

If we want to navigate conflict well, we need to stay in the tension and navigate the predictable process that unfolds. If reality TV personalities can do it, why can't we? Listen to hear more about how to engage conflict well.

One client anecdote helps weave understanding about how interconnected wellness is. Being an adult means discipline, making informed decisions, and weighing next steps based on accurate information. Take a listen!

Health - there are many areas to consider. While this list is not comprehensive, intentionality in each of the stated eight domains will help lead listeners to a life of wellness and health.

Do predators know the amount of damage that they do? Groping, molestation, coercion, assault, and rape are damaging choices that have huge consequences in the lives of both victims and those who victimize. Listen to better understand the lifelong damage that can be caused by mere moments of self-gratification behaviors.

There is one core question that we are asking to be answered as we engage life. When we have a trauma history, there is a primary question that needs to be answered first. Tune in to find out more.

Please enjoy an interview with Tiffany Horan, a local contributor to 92for22 and an advocate for veterans services. A core goal is to bring awareness and resources to veterans and their families who are affected by suicide. Here's her story! Show Notes & Non-Profit Sponsors: 92for22.org Coachman Training Hudsonville Winery/Pike 51 Blue Star Moms Pamela Alderman HAS Heart Kent County Veteran Servic...

Educators are in the thick of it right now answering to administrators, parents, and students while trying to tackle meeting diverse needs in a global pandemic. It is a recipe for exhaustion and burnout. Teachers, I see you! Remember your why! You are not in this alone.

Often, we give up on ourselves - or make allowances for ourselves - in the small day-to-day details. Listen for a strategy to help keep us more locked into health and less cavalier about our responsibilities.

We need to navigate self acceptance if we intend to walk towards health. Who we are has to be a reconciled part of how we live our lives. Our strengths, our weaknesses, our broken parts, and our wounds all combine into the uniqueness of being us. Self-acceptance is key.

Do you know your primary love language? How about your partner's language? Your kids? There is a lot of valuable relationship built when we learn to meet someone in the space of their love language. There are also some musings about why not learning can cause unintentional damage and what else might be needed for someone who is trauma-affected.

Each person with whom we intersect has a story. We have a story. Our stories provide understanding of who we are, why we do what we do, and what actions and reaction we choose to engage. So do other people's stories. Lean in to learn more about what's all in a story.

Showing up well in life means actively pursuing health. Listen to hear about the life domains and what it means to intentionally chase healthy habits and wellness.

When did we decide that success should be a part of our overnight story? Success is most often contingent on years of hard work, effort, consistency, trial-and-error, and practicing. Respect the process. Pay your dues. Persevere.

Struggling in relationships? Listen for types of manipulators around whom we should be guarded and boundaried. Here are some key personalities that are difficult to navigate - and as we get healthy, distance may be needed.

Not everything can be a crisis! Getting stuck in the spin cycle of our anxiety affects body, mind, and spirit. Listen to what our brains do when they land on a problem, and hear some tips to combat a perpetual state of anxiety.

Change happens over time, through a series of gentle shifts. Sometime, they are so subtle that we may need help to see them. That's one of the reasons why inviting a helper into our lives may be key! Listen to hear more about gradual changes adding up to big outcomes.