Healing Relationships: With Ourselves, Others & The World

In this episode I talk of the financial cost of being a therapist in private practice.  There are many overheads for therapists, which isn't always taken into consideration when it comes to charging a fee for therapy.  In this episode I list many outgoings a therapist has solely to run the practice alone. Please let me know if I have missed any out!  Connect with Claire on: Website:  https://...

When we think of being single, it can sometimes come with negative connotations. And so many of us can put our lives on hold while we wait for 'our person' before doing the things that we would really love to do.  Have you ever thought that you would never dream of going to a certain restaurant or visit a holiday destination unless you were in a relationship? If so, this episode is for y...

We can manifest and create vision boards, but if our nervous system does not feel like we are safe to have financial abundance, it will stop us from getting to the place we truly desire.  In this episode, I talk about: - What having money means to you - What are the earlier messages you received growing up about money - How you imagine yourself to be with more money - Looking at our historical pat...

At the start of the year, many of us like to set new goals for ourselves, but sometimes they don't always work out.  In this episode I talk about: - Ways to set new goals for ourselves, and how to break them down. - How creating new goals can challenge our script beliefs. - How younger parts of us are activated when it comes to creating change and how we can manage this.  - How our self prote...

Christmas can stir up lots of grief, whether it is grief we are experiencing now, or grief from many years ago.  In this episode, I cover: - Why Christmas can intensify the feelings of grief.  - Why it's important to give ourselves permission to do things differently.  - Reduce pressure and expectations of ourselves during the festive season.  - How our nervous system handles grief.   - How c...

Christmas can be a tough time for so many of us. This season can stir up so many emotional memories from our past.  In this episode I talk about ways in which our inner child and younger parts can show up, how to soothe and take care of those parts, and how to give our inner child the Christmas they deserve.  Connect with Claire on: Website:  https://www.claireratcliffepsychotherapy.co.uk/ Instagr...

In this episode I am sharing ways to help support yourself and your partner(s) if you are in a relationship, through the holiday season.  Christmas time can be stressful with many expectations and pressures, so I wanted to share some ways you can look after and soothe yourself, and one another during the festive period. Connect with Claire on: Website:  https://www.claireratcliffepsychotherapy.co....

In this episode I talk about how to get the most from your couples and relationship therapy sessions.  Therapy can be expensive and a long process, so I want to offer some ways which may help the process along.  I talk about: Ways in which you can utilise the therapy process in between sessions. Learn how to self reflect and discover what you would like to change for yourself, the kind of partner...

In this episode, I talk about the power of appreciations in relationships. In long term relationships, we can often reduce the amount of appreciations we give compared to when the relationship started.  I cover: - Why giving appreciations is so important - How appreciations can make you feel more connected and valued in your relationship.  - How to give an effective appreciation.  - Practical step...

This episode is answering questions that have been sent to me via social media.  Here, I respond to questions:  - How can I manage living with a Narcissist? What should and shouldn't I do? - I am attracted to someone at work.. What can I do? - I have anxiety when dating and feel so much better alone - What should I do? Please note the answers to these questions are not to give you advice but...

In this episode I talk about The Developmental Approach to couples and relationship therapy. I look at the different developmental stages that partners go through in their relationship, and the stages that partners can find the most challenging.  I also talk about the reasons I find this approach to be helpful in supporting couples and relationships, and why it's one of my favourites!  Connec...

In this episode, I talk about burnout therapists can experience.  I look at  - How to recognise signs of burnout - How isolation as a therapist can contrite to this - The ways in which burnout can impact your therapy practice.  - Ways to take care of yourself and prevent burnout in the future.  Being a therapist can be very emotionally demanding, and it's important that you are fully taking c...

In this episode, I explore: - What burnout is - Ways we might experience burnout - Ways to slowly come out of burnout through regulating resources and reconnection.  - How to prevent yourself from experiencing burnout again.  Connect with Claire on: Website:  https://www.claireratcliffepsychotherapy.co.uk/ Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/cr_psychotherapy/?hl=en   &  @relationshiptherapyu...

In this episode I explore: - How we experience love - and why it can sometimes feel unfamiliar or uncomfortable. - The protective parts of us that rise up to keep us safe, but also keep love at a distance. - The subtle ways others might be trying to show us love (and why it doesn't always land). - How we can begin to soften, to notice, and to let love in.. slowly, gently, in small, titrated s...

Are you tired and frustrated of repeating the same patterns in relationships? You keep falling for the same sort of partners and are left feeling alone, isolated and deeply unsatisfied? In this episode I cover: - The pattern we experience of falling for the same kind of person/personality. - What makes us drawn to these partners in the first place - How our younger parts or 'inner child'...

Do you find it difficult to spend time alone? In this episode, I talk about what we do when we find it hard to be by ourselves, and how we 'fill the space'.  I also cover: - How we can feel activated by having time alone - How to show our nervous system it is safe to be by ourselves.  - How our attachment style contributes to the feeling of being 'unsafe' alone.   - Tips and to...

Welcome to this weeks episode where I talk about Emotional Infidelity. Here I'll be exploring what starts to happen when we enter into infidelity territory and the blurring of boundaries.  I also cover: How Emotional Infidelity can make us feel. How our 'younger parts' or 'inner child' can be active during this process Signs to look out for that we are entering into Emotio...

In this episode I talk about self trust, and the reasons why we stop trusting ourselves.  I talk about the ways this may show up in our relationships and also explore how we can take small steps towards building trust within ourselves.  I also reflect on how childhood experiences can lead us to rely on external validation and influence above our own wants, needs and desires.  Connect with Claire o...

Hi, I'm Claire Ratcliffe, a Psychotherapist, Couples & Relationship Therapist and host of Healing Relationships.  This podcast is your guide to understanding and healing your relationships - starting with the one you have with yourself, so you can feel a deeper sense of peace, trust and security in yourself and your life.  Each week, I'll share insights, tools and real conversations...