Healing Broken Trust In Your Marriage After Infidelity

Join me, Brad Robinson, LMFT as I dive into the complex emotions and challenges faced by betrayed partners in the aftermath of infidelity. In this episode, I explore why those who have been betrayed often struggle without answers and how the quest for truth is crucial for healing. Discover the common patterns and needs of betrayed partners, and learn why understanding the details of an affair is n...

Why do they shut down when you're falling apart? Why do they say the exact wrong thing when you need comfort the most? In this episode, we step inside the aftermath of infidelity and unpack a question many betrayed partners silently ask: Why does the person who hurt me seem incapable of showing up now? We explore the emotional paralysis that often overtakes the unfaithful partner — the freezing, d...

In this episode, we delve into the profound challenges faced by partners who have been betrayed. Discover the ten most significant pain points that arise after infidelity, from feeling unsafe and grappling with trickle truths to dealing with intrusive thoughts and the loss of self-worth. We share insights and practical steps to help you navigate these emotional hurdles and find a path to healing....

In this episode we delve into the complexities of healing after betrayal. Discover how couples can break free from the negative cycles that hinder recovery and learn the importance of shifting from defensiveness to responsibility. We explore the dynamics of pursuers and distancers, the dangers of minimizing behaviors, and the critical role of interpretation in the healing process. Whether you're s...

In this episode of Healing Broken Trust, we tackle the complex issue of affair nostalgia, a significant emotional roadblock in the journey to reconciliation after infidelity. We explore the listener's question about dealing with a partner who still holds an affair in a positive light, making reconciliation challenging. The discussion delves into the emotional struggles of both the betrayed and the...

In this podcast, we break down a powerful research-based model for how trust gets rebuilt after it's been broken—and why "just apologize" often isn't enough. The research we reference explains trust repair as a two-way, back-and-forth process between the person who was hurt (the trustor) and the person who caused the damage (the trustee), where repair happens when efforts to prove trustworthiness...

In this episode, we delve into the complex dynamics of apologies following intentional betrayal in relationships. Discover why apologies often fail after deliberate choices and learn what constitutes a healing apology. We explore the emotional disconnect between partners, the impact of guilt and anger, and the psychological needs driving reconciliation.  Join us as we break down the needs-based mo...

In this episode, Brad and Morgan Robinson delve into the complex dynamics of memory and betrayal in relationships. Discover why both partners remember infidelity differently and how these memory gaps can impact healing and reconciliation. Explore the roles of victim and perpetrator, and learn about the psychological and emotional processes that occur after trust is broken. With insights from histo...

In this episode of "Healing Broken Trust," Brad and Morgan Robinson discuss the concept of "pre-assurance," a proactive approach to offering reassurance to a partner before they are triggered, especially during the holiday season. They explore how pre-assurance can help partners feel emotionally safe and valued, emphasizing the importance of understanding and discussing each other's triggers. The...

Brad Robinson, LMFT delves into the complexities of supporting a betrayed spouse during the emotionally charged holiday season. Discover ten actionable strategies to help navigate the festive period with empathy and understanding. From initiating open conversations and creating new traditions to offering reassurance and protecting boundaries, this episode provides a comprehensive guide to turning...

In this episode we discuss the differences between "fantasy love" or "limerence" and "companionship love" or "real love".  We explain how limerence is an intense, emotionally volatile form of love driven by attraction and fantasy, while companionship love is a deeper, more stable form of love built on mutual commitment, trust, and shared values.  The speakers emphasize that companionship love, whi...

Friendships are a normal and healthy part of life. We all need people outside of our romantic relationships who support us, make us laugh, and share our interests. But sometimes, a close friendship can slowly turn into something more—even without us realizing it. Emotional affairs don't happen overnight. They start off innocent—just good conversations, just inside jokes, just feeling understood. B...

Trigger warning: this episode can be difficult to hear especially for those who are still raw after discovery.   If that is you consider reading the transcript on our blog here: EPISODE TRANSCRIPT >>>   Get the podcast downloads here: PODCAST DOWNLOADS >>>   Join us for the next couple's workshop here: SIGN UP FOR THE COUPLE'S PROGRAM >>>

In episode 76 Brad and Morgan discuss a new way to look at negative cycles.  If you haven't yet listened to episode 3 called "Why Do We Fight and Avoid Difficult Topics" that episode will help you understand negative cycles. You can check that out HERE: https://healingbrokentrust.com/podcast-blog/ep-3-why-do-we-fight-or-avoid-talking-about-the-affair   We are available to help you heal broken trus...

Every couple I've encountered as a relationship therapist has been dealing with this specific issue, but they didn't have a concept for it to describe or explain it.  This episode will help you do that. Before we jump into our episode I wanted to take a moment to speak to those of you who are looking for resources. Some of you are in therapy or coaching and you're finding: Your therapist is nice b...

Erik Rasmussen shares with Brad Robinson how he found hope after discovering his wife's infidelity. Erik shares what those early days were like and what he did that created the transformation he was looking for.  Get the 21 Things the Unfaithful Want to Tell You But Don't Know How to Say free download here: https://healingbrokentrust.com/21-things-the-unfaithful-want-to-tell-you Attend a 3 day Hea...

This episode sheds light on what your spouse was thinking about you and your relationship during their affair.  Did they love you?  Did they love the affair partner?  Could they have loved you both?   Enroll in our 3 day workshop here: https://healingbrokentrust.com/hbtworkshop  

Brad and Morgan outline 20 things the unfaithful partner want the betrayed partner to know but don't know how to say it.  We can help you find your voice and that is the goal of this episode.  To help you find the words you've been looking for.  Listen to the very end because you'll have a chance to hear from other couples. Look for more resources at healingbrokentrust.com Start your transformatio...

This episode is like a mini-letter to the unfaithful spouse.  Our goal is to help you articulate many of the things you might be feeling but can't seem to put your finger on. Also, you may have heard about our workshops and master class programs… You may be listening to this wondering why would we join the Healing Broken Trust workshop and program? "We're already in counseling, or something else,...

Dan and Lynn are participants in the Healing Broken Trust program and they talk about their experience healing after infidelity.  A memorable moment in the conversation was when Lynn talked about how people comment on how others are noticing the changes in them.   Speak with us about your situation Schedule a Discovery Call Couples Program:  https://healingbrokentrust.com/contact-us Stop My Divorc...

Missing this one thing could mean you stay stuck unable to repair the negative cycle. Check out our website for info about the workshop, blog, coaching, and other helpful tools: Healingbrokentrust.com

From feeling hopeless and defeated to a completely new and fresh take on the relationship.  Cody and Chaisley attended our healing broken trust workshop and now they have something to share with you about what they discovered.  Learn more at healingbrokentrust.com

We hit pause on the podcast but not on the practice of helping couples heal broken trust.  Since the last episode we had another baby.  We call him our pandemic baby.   While we've been away from recording new content we haven't taken a break from helping couples.  In fact, we counted the number of couples Brad has worked with 1-on-1 in just the last 10 years and we found the number to be a stagge...

This episode Brad and Morgan talk about Brad's recent TEDx Talk about what makes love last.  We're so excited to share this with you! If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop HERE: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/ You can do it in person or from home.  We hope to see you soon!

Discovering that your partner has been unfaithful or needing to reveal unfaithfulness to your partner is beyond STRESSFUL.  But this episode doesn't ignore the very real truth that it can still cause the coolest cucumber to wilt.  Listen in as Brad and Morgan talk about managing stress incredibly difficult circumstances. At the time of this episode, we are experiencing a pandemic and we're all qua...