Heal Your Story with Heidi Dellaire

 Being mindful of how you treat others can determine what kind of heart space you are opening up to others.  As humans, we carry a powerful darkness within. It is part of the human condition and when triggered it feels so natural we do not even realize when are allowing it enter into our being. When we treat others poorly, we are dehumanizing that person in our brains. Be the seeds of lo...

We are what we believe we are and when we can move past the roadblocks of self-sabotage and understand that we are the creating force behind the kind of life we want to live, we tap into our own magic. Let's talk about believing and creating your own magic. I would love to hear from you about your own magic story. You can reach me through the contact from on either HeidiDellaire.com or LoveWideOpe...

  All the negative thoughts, experiences, and situations are absorbed into the spirit, much like unhealthy toxins are absorbed into the body. Do you know how good it feels to stand in the hot shower and let the water run over your face after you’ve been crying? It’s a spiritual cleansing. That’s what we are talking about here. But saying one needs a spiritual cleanse and understanding how to go ab...

Are you an empathetic person? If so, you may have run into this problem before. I sure used to before I learned some healthier boundaries. When you take on another person‘s emotions or baggage as your own, it is very easy to lose yourself in the process. Where many empathetic people have a difficult time turning on and off their empathy, it is necessary to a certain extent or else you run the risk...

 People with a growth mindset have an underlying belief that their learning and intelligence can grow with time and experience. According to Dweck, when a student has a fixed mindset, they believe that their basic abilities, intelligence, and talents are fixed traits.  Let's talk about what it takes to have a growth mindset and a positive mindset to move forward in life and learn new thi...

When we tell our stories, we start to heal. It is through telling our stories that we realize that we are far more alike with others than we are different. I had the pleasure of speaking with Catherine B. Roy, the author of Live From the Heart and Mind.     Catherine B. Roy is a Human Potential Thought Leader, Bestselling Author, Personal Growth and Business Coach, MENSA member and...

So many of my clients find themselves in this place in life. Hell, I found myself in this place in life once. We wonder who the hell we are. Why did life get so off track? Is it too late? Can I change it? Do I have the power within myself to do something else?  Well, I am here to tell you, Yes! You do still have power to change your life, you just need to WANT to CHOOSE to change it. It's all...

I had the pleasure of hearing Elizabeth Gilbert speak on the last leg of her book tour for City of Girls at Memorial Church at Harvard last week. I got up and asked a question about something that Liz talks about a lot...being love in the room. Liz has been an inspiration to me in many ways and has been a part of my journey. Her book Big Magic was the push I needed to understand that Love Wide Ope...

How do you take control of your own life and make it what you want it to be? How do you become who you want to be? We are capable of becoming anything we want to be. It takes practice and diligence. I work with so many clients who get stuck in a self-limiting belief mindset and can't see that they have the ability to CHOOSE what happens next in their lives. They have the responsibility right in th...

We have all been through it. We have made mistakes. We have hurt people. What do we do when someone won't forgive us for what we have done to them? Is it our responsibility to try to make them understand and forgive us or do we need to forgive ourselves in the midst of taking responsibility for our actions and say that we are sorry?  I would love to hear more from you. You can find me at Heid...

Substance abuse is a topic that comes up a lot with clients, whether it be their personal addiction or the addiction of someone they love.  Whether the addict in your life is a partner, a parent, a sibling or a friend, maintaining a relationship with a person with a substance abuse issue will present challenges for you. If you love someone who abuses drugs or alcohol, their dependence becomes...

In the last two episodes, I have discussed negative and positive self-talk.  In this episode, I discuss how to put positivity into action and the practices that you can put into place to obtain a more positive mindset. If you are listening on the Anchor app, you can send me a message that may be read or played on a future episode. Thank you for listening and I can be reached through the conta...

Words have power. We can either use negative words or positive words. Negative words hold us back. Positive words propel us forward. The language we use with ourselves internally and with the world at large have a major impact on who we become. They can keep us struggling or they can empower us to strive for high achievement and a better life for ourselves and the world. There is power in getting...

Sometimes we aren't even aware that we have a negative internal dialogue that can also spill out to the Universe and become our reality. Negative words and thoughts become what we are.  If we believe we aren't good enough, then we aren't. The things we think and speak are important to our stagnation or our growth. Let's discuss those negative words and phrases and touch upon how to slowly shi...

If you knew you had one week to live, what would you do differently with your time? If it is different than your every day life, it is time to dig deeper. Let's talk about how death teaches us how to live instead of wasting our precious gift of life.  If you are listening on Anchor, you can send me a message about this episode or any previous episode. If you are listening on  Apple Podca...

Why are we so quick to fear change? Why do we get anxious about the things we can't control?  Change, often, brings us amazing periods of growth. So what must we do to embrace change and put fear aside?  I would love your feedback on this episode or any other episode. If you are listening on Apple Podcasts or another platform that allows reviews, I would also love your review. I can be r...

So many of us push away our discomforts and opt to stay only in our comfort zones. What we are ultimately doing is pushing away those things that we need to work through from past hurts, traumas or faulty beliefs. When we lean into the discomfort and allow ourselves to heal our "stuff", we free ourselves and allow are hearts to be more open. And when our hearts are more open, so are our minds and...

Many of you have heard me talk about chasing joy after getting out of a toxic relationship. I have made a few videos about it on both the Love Wide Open Channel on YouTube and also Love Wide Open on Facebook. How do you do it? How do you rebuild your life after losing yourself and giving yourself away to a toxic connection with someone else. It takes a lot of hard work and effort but it starts wit...

Just because you love someone doesn't mean that they are going to be able to receive it. You can't save someone with your love. Only they can save themselves. When we squeeze too hard, we can squash the love we are trying to give away and then it just becomes toxic for both parties involved. You can find me on LoveWideOpen.com or HeidiDellaire.com . Please reach you about this episode or something...

When facing great challenges in life it is very easy to blame other people and situations for our pain. Invariably, you will find that accepting responsibility for yourself and your life is the only way to bring about lasting change. I would love to hear from you about either this episode or other content you would love to hear. You can reach me LoveWideOpen.com or through HeidiDellaire.com . &nbs...

  “Vulnerability is about showing up and being seen. It’s tough to do that when we’re terrified about what people might see or think.” — Brené Brown   To contact me, you can reach out at hello@heididellaire.com or heidi@lovewideopen.com. You can also learn more about my book through the Roots and Tendrils page on HeidDellaire.com

We can learn a lot about ourselves and society in general if we choose to embrace the shadow self instead of ignore it or make it "not" part of who we actually are. Listen in as I discuss how embracing our shadow actually allows for us to be more compassionate with ourselves and others.  Feel free to reach out to discuss this topic at hello@heididellaire.com or heidi@lovewideopen.com.  Y...

Friendship is such a beautiful testiment and witness to who we really are in the eyes of another. Friendship can be fleeting or last beyond our own passing. Join me on a journey through what true friendship means through the words of one of my favorite poets, David Whyte. He has been one of the inspirations in my own writing and publishing of my poetry book, Roots and Tendrils . 

As we are moving through life, why does it become harder to find or express the joyful moments in life like when we were children? Where are you #chasingjoy?  How are you finding joy in your life? Have you forgotten to look around and see it everywhere in every present moment? You can connect with my more on HeidiDellaire.com or LoveWideOpen.com and reach out through email on either site. My...

We have all had painful moments that stay with us. Time can often heal these wounds and painful moments if we let it. In this episode, I discuss a break-up I went through  awhile back and how with time, the pain has lessened. I also read a poem from my book, Roots and Tendrils (available on Amazon) called Heart Cleanse . Heart Cleanse is a piece that talks about pain and releasing it to allow...