Heal Your Heartbreak

In today's listener episode I interviewed Lauren and heard about her relationship and breakup story that happened last year. She was with her ex for 7 years and about 6 years into the relationship she realized she was not happy but kept trying to ignore it so she could stay in the relationship. Ultimately she ended the relationship and finally went no contact. We discuss how difficult it is to end...

In today's solo episode I'm talking about whether you should let your ex know the impact the breakup has had on you. We talk about whether or not you're letting your ex "get away" with something or getting away with hurting you because you stay silent and don't tell them your hurt. We talk about how you can process your pain and anger without your ex having to be involved at all, and much more! To...

Today I'm joined by Nick Thompson who was on Season 2 of Love is Blind. In this episode we talk about how Nick handled going through his separation while being scrutinized by the public and the media and how he was able to heal with all of the outside noise. In this episode we talk a lot about boundaries, having a strong sense of self, and how to validate your own emotions. You can listen to Nick'...

In today's episode I'm sharing five ways that going through breakups and learning how to be single have improved my relationship and marriage. We talk a lot about the short term tips and impacts of breakups but we don't talk a lot about how everything you're doing in your breakup right now is also a long term investment that will pay off down the road when you do find your person. To find out whic...

In today's episode I'm interviewing Jake who has a really inspirational breakup story. His 4.5 year relationship ended 6 months ago, they had looked at rings and he pictured spending the rest of his life with his ex. Then a combination of things led to the breakup, and he talks about owning his part in the breakup, and how he worked through those things. He also talked about finding a life HE love...

I recently asked my Instagram community "if you were the one to end the relationship, why did you do it?" and in today's podcast episode I read through some of the answers. The purpose of today's episode is to give you a different perspective on the "dumper". It's easy to assume that the person who ends the relationship does so without much consideration, but I know that's not the truth. To find o...

In today’s episode I interview Maya who shares about her breakup that happened at the end of last year. We talk about all the things that led to the breakup, the main one being them trying to get back to the beginning high they felt when they first got together and hoping that someday it would come back. We talk about her experience going through an abortion early in their relationship and how the...

I talk a lot in this podcast about practicing the no contact rule but I wanted to do an episode on what to do IF you do hear from your ex and how to handle it. I go through when to respond, when not to respond, how to set proper boundaries, what it "means" if you hear from them, and more! To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched wit...

In today's episode I'm joined by writer, comedian, food blogger, and owner of Misfit Creatives Dara Pollak. Dara went through a completely blindsided breakup a few years ago and wrote a blog post about it that attracted thousands of readers so I interviewed her about that breakup today. What happened, how she dealt with it, what closure means to her, and how she's moved forward from it. I loved ta...

In today's episode I'm joined by relationship coach, author, and blogger Natasha Adamo, author of Win Your Breakup. And before you judge a book by its name, winning your breakup doesn't necessarily mean what you think it does. We talk about how to navigate your breakup with self respect and dignity, we talk about how someone can be toxic to you and for you. We talk about Natasha's concept of stayi...

In today's episode I'm interviewing relationship expert Terri Cole and we're talking all about boundaries. We discuss why boundaries are so important to stay true and authentic to yourself, how lack of boundaries can hurt relationships, why learning how to set boundaries is a great skill to learn after a breakup, and how boundaries can be helpful once you start dating again. To take Terri's Bounda...

In today's listener episode I'm interviewing UK journalist Eve Simmons to talk about her divorce she went through 6 months ago. Her and her ex were together for nearly 10 years and their relationship ended just 6 months after getting married. Eve talks about her history with an eating disorder and how her ex was a big part of her recovery from that. We talk about her fear of being on her own for t...

I often talk on Instagram and the podcast that "acting as if" is the best way to move forward from the breakup when you don't fully accept the circumstances yet, but what does that mean? In this episode I talk all about how the best way to change your thinking is to first act as if and change your actions. What actions should you take when you're trying to move forward? What if I don't want to mov...

In today's episode I talk about the phrase I respond to so many DM's and questions with which is "it's because you're human". I talk about how we hold ourselves to an unrealistic expectation when going through a breakup and don't take into account that we're human beings with a broken heart. This episode encourages a lot of self compassion and grace and is great for anyone who finds themselves que...

Today is a very highly requested guest, I'm joined by relationship coach Jillian Turecki. In this episode we talk about what she thinks the biggest issue in relationships are, what causes the majority of breakups, why we get so obsessed on exes instead of focusing on ourselves post breakup, and so much more! If you're not already following Jillian on Instagram be sure to follow her @jillianturecki...

I'm so excited to share today's episode with author, podcaster, and writer Natalie Lue. She's written multiple books but today we explore her book The Joy of Saying No and all about people pleasing. Natalie talks about the different kinds of people pleasing (I had no idea there were different kinds), how people pleasing affects how impactful a breakup can feel, how to prevent people pleasing in fu...

In today's solo episode I'm talking all about the difference between giving up on a relationship and surrendering. I often get messages saying that I'm promoting people breaking up which isn't at all the case, I'm all about doing the work to make a relationship work but there comes a time when we have to let go and surrender when something is no longer working. I talk about why surrendering doesn'...

In today's episode I share my thoughts on the idea of conscious uncoupling and I talk about why it's so common that celebrities say that they're remaining friends in their public statements, and why the way breakups are portrayed in the media can be harmful to those actively going through breakups. I also share my journey in the beginning of Break Up Bestie when conscious uncoupling first became a...

Today I interviewed Chanel Dokun who is an author, life planner, and relationship expert and we talk all about purpose. We discuss why the word purpose can be so overwhelming, why it's important to think about your purpose, what to do if your ex felt like your sole purpose in life, and how to start getting to know yourself in a new way. You can learn more about Chanel's teachings in her book, Life...

In today's solo episode I'm breaking down the myth that going no contact with your ex requires will power or strength. I talk about how you'll almost always have to go no contact before you want to or before you think you're ready but by doing so you GAIN strength. I also talk about how maintaining No Contact doesn't have to do with your will power it has to do with the systems in place you have t...

Today I'm joined by Brittany Allyn although you may have seen her on TikTok or Instagram as @thirtywaves and in this episode we talk all about Brittany's journey of letting go of her quest to find a partner and instead using that energy and focusing on having her best life possible. We talk about how Brittany got used to spending time alone, the shifts in perspective she had around being single, h...

In today's solo episode I talk about the popular tagline you hear all over social media of "if they wanted to they would". I talk about why it's a way oversimplification and how I really don't believe it applies to breakups. I also talk about why this line of thinking can be helpful when you're newly dating someone but why it can be really harmful when we're talking about breakups. To find out whi...

In today's episode I'm talking with psychologist, author, and speak Dr. Cortney Warren about going through a love addicted breakup. She taught me so much about what love addiction actually is, different techniques to break that addiction, how to stop constantly obsessing about your ex, and so much more. Dr. Cortney Warren has a new book out called Letting Go Of Your Ex: CBT Skills to Heal the Pain...

I talk a lot on this podcast about the No Contact Rule and how pivotal it is in helping you get over your ex. But what happens if you do contact them? In this episode I go over what is and isn't considered breaking no contact, how to be compassionate towards yourself, and how to turn it into a learning experience. To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take th...

We're back with a listener episode! Today I talked to Zack who is a 33 year old male from Los Angeles. He is 6 months post breakup out of an 8 year relationship where they were engaged and had much of their wedding planned. We talk about why they broke up which came down to Zack wanting kids and his ex not wanting kids. How Zack healed from his breakup, the biggest lessons he's learned and the goo...