Heal Your Heartbreak

In today's episode I interview therapist Sheva Rajaee. Sheva is an expert in anxiety, obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), and specifically relationship OCD which is what we discuss in this episode. In our interview we talk about what OCD is, what's the difference between relationship OCD and anxious attachment style, Sheva's thoughts on soulmates and "the one", how to work through relationship OC...

In today's solo episode I talk about what it means to get stuck in breakup limbo or breakup purgatory. We discuss why it is so harmful to get stuck in this place, why it causes so much anxiety, and why even though it's so painful it's a place we'd prefer to be because then we don't have to come to terms with the relationship actually being over. I also talk about what to do if you find yourself in...

In today's episode I talk with author, therapist, and speaker Todd Baratz (@ yourdiagnonsense ). We talk about his new book How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind. We talked a lot about the ideals that social media gives us for relationships and how so much of that is not true, we talk about how certain terms are overused on social media like narcissism and what that has meant for people in...

Today I interview a duo, Jennifer Mann and Karden Rabin- founders of Somia and experts on holistic nervous system regulation. In this interview we talk about the physical sensations that come with not feeling our feelings, the difference between thinking about feelings and feeling feelings. Karden leads us through a beautiful visualization exercise leading to where you feel feelings in your body,...

In today's episode I interview entrepreneur, podcaster, author, and speaker Lisa Bilyeu on all things confidence. We talk about how important a partner can be in either fueling or draining your energy, why breakups can be such a drain on confidence, how to actually increase your confidence through competency, why breakups can be so powerful, and much more. Be sure to check out Lisa's book Radical...

In today's episode I interview country singer and songwriter Tiffany Woys. We talk about how she got into being a country singer and songwriter, we talk about her broken engagement (her ex called off the wedding 6 weeks before the big day) and how she navigated that, where she gets her confidence from, how songwriting has helped through her healing process, and much more! To listen to Tiffany's la...

Today we have a juicy interview with Thais Gibson where we talk about attachment style (in a new way you probably haven't heard), we talk about how our subconscious mind plays such a big part in both heartbreak in healing, we talk about how to reprogram around deep wounds and shadows that we all have, and we talk about the concept of limerence and what that means. Link to a free Attachment Style Q...

In today's episode I give a long list of ideas of how to make it through each day as you're going through a breakup. Ideas ranging from morning routine, how to handle work, what to do if a panic attack hits, how to not be tempted to stalk social media, and so much more. Many of the ideas in this episode are from my Instagram followers and there were so many great tips and tricks in here! To find o...

In today's episode I interview a listener who went through a difficult breakup and employed a variety of traditional tools to heal from a breakup and got to a place of feeling very stuck in the process. After researching he decided to try psychedelic assisted therapy under supervision of a therapist and it completely opened up his perspective and healing in a new way. Please note this is not an op...

In today's episode I interview DBT expert therapist Dr. Maddy Ellberger. We talk all about what DBT therapy is and how it differs from traditional CBT therapy. Dr. Maddy shares insight into how to deal with difficult emotions, why distraction is actually a good thing, how to interrupt obsessive thought patterns, her tools for mindfulness and much more. To connect with Dr. Maddy follow her on Insta...

Breakups can cause such intense and obsessive thoughts, some of which can feel very scary. In today's solo episode I go through all the different thoughts you can expect after going through a breakup, why you shouldn't trust your thoughts, reminders that you're far from the only person feeling the way that you can, and how to break those obsessive thought loops, and more. To find out which Break U...

In today's listener episode I'm talking with Hal about not one but two breakups that happened in the span of 2 years. Hal was married to his ex husband after 13 years and he was able to walk away from that marriage after infidelity and then after leaving his marriage he had a difficult time staying single and got into another relationship very shortly after. That relationship became intense quickl...

In today's episode I'm joined by psychologist and author of Run Like Hell , Dr. Nadine Macaluso . You may know her as the ex wife to Wolf of Wall Street Jordan Belfort. In this interview we talk all about trauma bonds, what they are, why they form, why they're so hard to break free from, and much more. Dr. Nadine shares how her experience in an abusive trauma bonded relationship inspired her to he...

In today's episode I'm joined by Julia Mazur, host of the Pretty Much Done Podcast and we talk about Julia's journey through letting go of the societal expectations of needing to find a partner and have kids by a certain age, how she not only found peace in being single, but learned how to actually enjoy being on her own. We talk about how once you're able to let go of societal expectations and li...

In today's episode I interview the highly requested guest Najwa Zebian about her newest book The Only Constant. In this interview we talk about why change is so hard to accept and navigate, why change that you choose (ie when you end the relationship) can also be incredibly hard to deal with, how to become better at accepting change, and much more. If you're not already following Najwa be sure to...

In today's solo episode I talk all about dating after going through a breakup and answer all of the most commonly asked questions. From how long should you wait before you start dating again to is it ok to bring up your ex and your breakup on a date. Dating can feel scary after going through heartbreak but there are ways to go into it feeling confident! In the episode I mention my Moving On After...

Today on the podcast I'm joined by Erin Falconer, author of the book How to Breakup With Your Friends and we're discussing all things friendship breakups. In this episode we talk about why it's so important to take a regular inventory of your friendships and how they are serving you (similar to how we need to do this for romantic relationships after a breakup), why friendships drift apart, how to...

In today's episode I'm joined by dating expert Bela Gandhi, founder of the Smart Dating Academy and coined the "Fairy Godmother of Dating" by Steve Harvey. We talk all things dating especially when it comes to dating after a breakup- we discuss how long to wait after a breakup, how to change the conversation in your head around dating, how to stay positive, why it's so important to have help and c...

In today's episode I'm talking with listener Sarah who is going through the breakup of a 12 year relationship from her ex girlfriend. Sarah found out her partner was seeing someone else and was then left in an emotional limbo not knowing where she stood with her partner and ultimately she was the one to end it. We talk about how to untangle your life from someone you've been with for so long, when...

In today's episode I'm talking about what you might expect when you're around the 1 year mark after your breakup (although this can also apply to other milestones like 6 months). I talk about how the 1 year mark can bring up a lot of feelings about your ex, it can make you feel bad that you haven't made enough progress, and can sometimes feel discouraging. But I give tips and perspective shift ide...

In today's listener episode I speak with a female listener who went through her breakup 2 years ago after a 3 year relationship. Even though the relationship wasn't great at the end she talks about how it still shocked her when he ended it, and we talk a lot about the pain of finding out her ex was in a new relationship almost right away. We also discuss coming to terms with realizing how much you...

Today I am joined by Nicole Vignola who is a neuroscientist, corporate consultant, and author and we're talking all about neuroscience and self hypnosis on today's episode. We talk about what happens in the brain when you're in a relationship, what happens in the brain when going through a breakup, why you go down memory lane, why you feel an intense compulsion to look at your ex's social media, a...

In today's listener episode I have Jana from Slovakia on the show and she tells the story of her relationship which was a great relationship for the first 7 months and then her partner was diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder which ultimately led to the demise of the relationship. We talk about what it's like to ultimately have to leave a relationship due to a partners mental health struggles,...

In today's episode I talk all about hindsight when it comes to your breakup. I talk a lot about how hindsight can be used as a way to beat yourself up, how it shouldn't be used, and why it can make the breakup feel harder on you than it should. I also talk about how hindsight can be used effectively when it comes to learning from your breakup (after an appropriate amount of time) and how it can be...

Today's listener episode was such a moving interview for me. Kristin was married for 17 years and has two older children with her ex, and we talk about the internal journey she had to go through to be able to not only walk away from her ex husband but also totally break the hearts of her children and how she handled that journey. We talk about becoming unrecognizable in a relationship, how to gain...