Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After Betrayal

Do you ever wonder what you should be focusing on after infidelity? This episode details the three areas that couples need to dive into in order to have a chance at building something better than what was there before -- or to go their separate ways as peacefully as possible. Tune in to check in with where you are, what to lean into and what to let go of. To work with me, go to: https://andreagile...

One of the biggest struggles in the aftermath of infidelity is not knowing what to do. Do I just wait on him to see what he does? How can I ever let this go? What if it happens again? Can I ever trust him again? All of these questions lead to endless rumination and winding up more confused than ever. In this episode you'll learn an effective strategy that will help you know the next step to take....

In this episode I go deep and personal with my journey since the ten year anniversary death of my first husband on July 9th. Many struggle in the aftermath of infidelity with how to let go. They find themselves un-intentionally sabotaging new relationships because they are still focused on all that went wrong. I did the same thing, and share in this episode how I learned to let things be so I coul...

After infidelity, you may believe your relationship is forever damaged. While you can never go back and undo it, there is an opportunity to build a wiser, stronger relationship than before. Whether you stay or not, the reflecting and internal introspection that can happen as part of the healing process carves out wisdom in us that can transform our relationships, whether with the person we are now...

As a follow-up to episode #138, "Losing Strategies," this episode will cover "Winning Strategies." There are five skills that, when used (and practiced!!), can make a massive difference not only in your relationship, but in how to view yourself. Self-respect is based on how we view ourselves, so growing our skills of being more relational will reflect right back on how we view ourselves. Tune in,...

For most people, any kind of infidelity or affair is quite a life-changing blow, but the reality is that not all affairs are the same. In this episode, I go through several different types of affairs so you can educate yourself on what it is you are dealing with. Knowledge can be painful to hear, but in the end it will empower you to know what action to take. You will know if it's time to double d...

Join me this week as I share a personal experience of taking on a major project. You'll hear some of the obstacles that made me want to quit, and the reasons why I kept going. This episode is less about a renovation and more about what it actually looks like in real time to make your dreams happen. It is hard work that requires more skill of you than what you may currently have. If you need some m...

A question I get asked a lot is, "Who should I tell?" After infidelity discovery, you may want to shout it to the rooftops, or tell absolutely no one. Tune in to this episode to get some ideas of who it might we wise to tell, and what to watch out for. To work with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ To lea...

As children raised by imperfect parents, we all have "core wounds" that inform much of our life. We may have had experiences we did not know how to process, and therefore made up stories of what those things meant that we still carry with us today. As we get older, we adapt and learn to navigate those painful stories through our various adaptations. Then as adults, we have an opportunity to look a...

In this episode, I cover 3 common myths circulating about infidelity, and 3 truths to counter them. With a lot of conflicting information out there, it can be quite confusing to navigate a clear path forward. By applying the principles discussed in this episode, you will be able to more clearly identify your own path and what is best for you. To work with me, go to:  https://andreagiles.com/get-yo...

Most of my podcast episodes have been geared toward women who have experienced betrayal, but this one is for the men. First I address men who have been betrayed by their spouse/partner. I cover how betrayal affects men differently than women and why that is. Second, I address men who have betrayed their spouse. In my many years of coaching, I have learned that there is no black and white, and peop...

Growing up, we all take on behaviors that we use when our safety feels threatened. In this episode, I will be covering five strategies we use to try to get back a sense of safety. While these behaviors are common and we all participate in some (or all) of them at times, you'll learn why they will ultimately not get you what you want. There may be a temporary feeling of "winning," but in the end, w...

While we all want to be in relationships that are trusting and loving, at the root of it all what we really want is to feel deeply chosen. In this episode, I'll share different examples (both personal and from clients) where the strong desire to know you are being chosen drives forward courageous action. I will also share how in order to feel deeply chosen, we have to strongly desire ourselves fir...

After having conversations with hundreds of people from all over the world in my five years of being an infidelity coach, there are some patterns, trends and truths I have learned. In this episode, I share those 5 truths and how they have changed some of my views around infidelity. This is one you do not want to miss as it may change some of your views, too. To work with me, go to: https://andreag...

In a world that celebrates independence, it can seem like "weakness" to build relationships that require vulnerability. With "cancel culture" being rampant, it goes against the messages of the day, especially after infidelity, to fully lean in to building something that will last the test of time. In this episode I go over two common ways we relate with each other in relationships, and one that is...

In the 2nd of this 2 part series, Sara Fisk and Andrea go deeper into people-pleasing. They go into more detail about how people-pleasing tendencies can put relationships at risk, and how stopping people-pleasing can help relationships heal. You will learn: How we are all deeply wired to people-please How it is likely affecting you post-infidelity to people-please How taking responsibility for our...

Do you struggle with people-pleasing? Is it getting in the way of making clear decisions for yourself in the after-math of infidelity? In this 2-part series, Andrea and Sara Fisk talk all things people-pleasing. You will learn: How we are all deeply wired to people-please How it is likely affecting you post-infidelity to people-please How taking responsibility for our own growth (and letting go of...

In this episode, I interview a former client, Lauren. Be prepared for an episode you will go back to again and again as there were so many gems and truths in her words. Lauren not only shares in depth her personal story with her spouse's infidelity, but she shares her journey of coming back to herself after years of feeling like she wasn't enough. I guarantee you will relate to many of the things...

How do you define healing? If you think it means never hurting again, you can be setting yourself up for even more pain in the future. In this episode, I cover various ways we can sabotage our own healing, and clearly define what it actually means. You will also learn how to evaluate how far you have come, and what to be focusing on next. When we learn to change our expectations, everything feels...

After infidelity, it is easy to fall into the trap of trying to take control of the healing and recovery of your partner. In this episode, you will learn why this is not a healthy, long-term solution and what to try instead. We will cover: Differences between men and women and why our healing looks different Why learning to create more internal safety will get you the best results Why trying to co...

Sometimes we can use popular opinion against ourselves. We can listen to the opinions of others, rather than deeply searching our own hearts for what is true. In this episode, I use a powerful analogy to teach you how to do your own "investigating" into what is true, beyond what outside sources may tell you. You will learn how to see the full scope of your situation, rather than focusing only on t...

Romantic infidelity and financial infidelity often go hand in hand. Money is frequently spent on the affair partner, and in high-control relationships, spouses can feel like they have no say about where the money goes. In this episode, guest Tracy Coenen and I discuss: Hidden money Financial rights for stay-at-home moms Divorce settlements Financial options, even if you are staying married Tracy h...

Infidelity is one of the few things that can change everything, forever. There is no going back. How we deal with the "after" in infidelity is crucial. It presents an opportunity to change old patterns, learn new ways of being, and new ways to interact with one another. In this episode, you'll learn how changing up the old patterns will serve you, whether you stay with your current spouse or not....

Do you often feel like you "should" try to stay after infidelity? Or maybe you feel pressure from others telling you to leave because, as the saying goes, "Once a cheater, always a cheater?" In this episode, I shine a light on how to listen for what is actually true for you. Other well-meaning people will always have their opinions, but in the end, you are the one that has to live in your life. De...

In this follow up to my last episode, "Intrusive Thoughts," I go into more depth as to how to navigate the thoughts that seem to take over and rob you of your peace. I share two points that will help you gain some traction and direction the next time an intrusive thought shows up. Point one is about how intrusive thoughts can keep us stuck in the past rather than seeing what is in front of us. I a...