Havilah's Podcast

Why do so many of us feel disconnected from our emotions—or overwhelmed by them? Welcome to Day 2 of I Do Feelings. Today, Havilah explores why we learned to ignore, suppress, or distrust our emotions and how those patterns often started early in life. In today’s video, we’ll look at:👉 How family systems, faith culture, and survival strategies shape our emotional responses👉 Why disconnecting fro...

Have you ever wondered if your emotions are something you’re supposed to control, hide, or overcome? What if they’re actually part of how God designed you? Welcome to Day 1 of I Do Feelings—a 15-day Bible study on discerning your emotions with God so you can stop stuffing, spiraling, and second-guessing yourself. In today’s video, Havilah lays the foundation for the entire study by answering one c...

In today’s episode, we’re digging into the real story behind rejection, abandonment, and the confidence it takes to shut down the negative narratives trying to shape your life. I share how my dad’s early years were marked by abandonment and self-rejection—and how everything changed when he met Jesus. I was raised in love and safety, but that same generational thread still tried to attach itself to...

God’s voice doesn’t just speak to your present—it calls you from your future. He already sees the life He designed for you, and He’s inviting you to step into it. What does it look like to live a life you actually want to wake up to? How might unprocessed grief or disappointment be holding you back from pursuing your God-given dreams? In this episode, Havilah unpacks the power of Spirit-led living...

This week, I’m wrapping up our series on The Art of Preaching by talking about something that’s so close to my heart: sustainable preaching. After almost 30 years of ministry, I’ve learned that it’s not just about having a great message—it’s about protecting the rhythm of your life so you can last for the long haul. In this episode, I share practical ways to guard your energy, keep your connection...

This week on the podcast, I’m diving into what it really looks like to preach like it matters. After decades of communicating, I’ve realized how easy it is to fall into patterns and lose that sense of urgency and purpose. But when I sat with a pastor in Brazil who said, “I preach every message like it’s my last,” it stirred something in me. In this episode, I’m sharing the practical ways we can br...

On this episode, I’m talking all about what it looks like to preach without fear. If you’ve ever found yourself holding back because you’re worried about what people might think, or editing your message to make it safer, you’re not alone—I’ve been there too. But the truth is, fear dulls our words and keeps us from carrying the authority God has given us. In this episode, I share my own journey of...

This week on the podcast, I’m diving into something that’s been on my heart for all of us who have been preaching for a while—how to find our unique voice again. After 30 years of speaking, I’ve learned that it’s so easy to slip into mimicking others, chasing applause, or just running on autopilot. But borrowed voices don’t carry breakthrough—only authenticity does. In this episode, I’m sharing my...

This week, I’m wrapping up our very first season of The Art of Preaching by talking about what it really means to stay in this for the long haul. We live in a culture that loves viral moments and big stages, but God’s call isn’t about one-hit wonders—it’s about faithfulness over decades. In this episode, I share my own journey of preaching in living rooms, group homes, and small youth groups long...

In this episode of The Art of Preaching, I’m diving into something every communicator faces but few talk about—what if I bomb? What happens when the mic doesn’t work, the slides are wrong, the room is dead silent, or worse—when you just totally miss it? I’ve had those moments (more than once!), and I’m sharing one of my most humiliating fails and what God taught me through it. We’ll talk about red...

In today’s episode, we’re talking all about what it means to preach like a human. If you’ve ever felt like you need to sound like someone else to be effective—this is for you. I’m sharing how comparison and mimicry can steal your confidence, and why your quirks, your tone, your pace—your actual personality—are not obstacles, but part of your pulpit. God didn’t call the polished version of you; He...

In this first episode of The Art of Preaching series, I’m sharing the real and raw beginnings of my preaching journey—how I never thought I’d be a communicator, why insecurity doesn’t disqualify you, and how saying “yes” in hidden places is where the real calling begins. Whether you’ve never picked up a mic or you’ve been preaching for years, this episode is for anyone who’s ever whispered, “I thi...

A couple months ago I spoke a message called False Endings, and we have heard so much feedback about this message, I wanted you to hear it. Stay to the end because the last story - might surprise you. Learn more and connect with Havilah: + Havilah's Site: http://havilahcunnington.com + Truth to Table: http://truthtotable.com + Truth Academy: https://thetruthacademy.com/

This week, we’re talking about hitting a relational wall—you know, when you love the people in your life but also kind of can’t stand being around them? Yep, that one. It’s one of the hardest walls to face because we’re only half of the equation, and it can feel messy, exhausting, and honestly, pretty lonely. In this episode, I open up about how I’ve navigated relational shutdown, what Proverbs sa...

This week, we’re talking about what it feels like when your body hits a wall—when you’re doing all the things, but still feel like you’re dragging yourself through the day. I’ve been there. From chronic exhaustion to physical pain that forced me to stop everything, I’m sharing my own story of burnout and the wake-up call it gave me. If your body is waving the white flag, this is your reminder that...

This week, we’re talking about hitting a mental wall—when your brain feels like it has 67 tabs open and half of them are buffering. You’re doing the things: sleeping, hydrating, showing up... and still, you're exhausted, foggy, and stuck in thought loops that won’t quit. I’ve been there too. In this episode, I share real strategies that help me when my brain taps out, from interrupting the spi...

This week, I’m kicking off a brand new series all about hitting the invisible walls in our lives—you know, the ones that show up out of nowhere and leave us stuck, exhausted, and wondering what just happened. I had a whole different plan for this month, but I hit one of those walls myself and knew we needed to talk about it. Whether it’s mental, spiritual, physical, or even environmental, these wa...

This week, I’m talking about what it feels like to think you’ve missed your moment—like maybe God handed your calling to someone with a prettier feed or better timing. If you’ve ever found yourself scrolling and spiraling, thinking “I should be further along by now,” you are not alone. I’ve been there. I share a personal story about a big opportunity I turned down, how it looked like I got left be...

This week, I’m talking about something we don’t often say out loud—what happens when burnout starts to look spiritual? You know that moment where you’re still called, still committed, but your capacity feels like it got hit by a truck? Yep, we’re going there. I open up about my own experiences with soul fatigue, what Scripture really says about growing weary in well-doing, and how to recognize the...

Waiting on God can feel like watching water boil—slow, frustrating, and honestly, a little painful. In this episode, I get super real about what it’s like to be in a waiting season and the lies we start to believe when things don’t move fast enough. I share how God used my single years and silent seasons to build something in me that couldn’t be rushed. So if you’ve ever thought, “If God loved me,...

In this episode, I open up about what it feels like when God goes silent—and how that silence can shake our faith to the core. If you've ever felt like your prayers are hitting the ceiling or like you're on “read” with heaven, you’re not alone. I talk about how silence doesn’t mean absence, and how divine delays are often God’s strategy to develop us in hidden places. I also share some honest refl...

Hey friends! I’m so glad you’re here for this parenting episode—it’s a special one because I’ve got my husband, Ben, joining me, and we’re diving into your top parenting questions. From navigating the dating convo with your kids (yes, even the 6-year-olds asking about boyfriends!) to figuring out when and how to discipline without losing your mind—we’re going there. We're not claiming to have...

Hey friends! This week on the podcast, I get to have a really special guest—my dad! We’re talking all about the power of a praying parent, especially when it feels like you can’t do anything else. If you’ve ever felt heartbroken watching your kids or grandkids wander away from God or unsure how to reach them as they grow, this episode is for you. My dad shares his wild testimony—from atheism to ra...

Hey friends — this episode is one of those raw, real conversations straight out of my own life, and honestly, I think you're going to feel so seen. I sat down with Jason and Lauren Vallotton and what started as a chat on marriage turned into me getting super honest about something I’ve been walking through as a mom of boys. We unpacked the tension of raising strong, healthy men while still hol...

Today we're kicking off a brand new parenting series, and listen — it's not just about raising "good kids" or making sure you don't mess them up (because hello, no pressure, right?!). What if God’s plan for parenting is actually about transforming us just as much as it is about raising them? I’m sharing some real talk from my own life — the mess, the beauty, the discipleship...