Harness the Power of Planning

If life were a video game, then the goal would be to figure out how to manage the circumstances you've been "spawned" into to be happy. So says the Art3mis character in Ready Player Two (I've paraphrased of course). I agree completely which is why I have so many tools to keep my mindset positive, because the reality is, by the time you get to my age (52), life has thrown a lot of curveballs at you...

Play is powerful! It can completely shift your mindset from one of competition and stress to one of cooperation and joy. But how does that translate to the work space? Listen to my conversation with Positive Psychology and Play Expert Jeff Harry as we discuss his recent TEDx Talk and how the soccer team he plays on is able to create a more joyful, less competitive environment. RESOURCES Jeff's...

I believe that our relationships, with ourselves and with our loved ones, are the only thing that really matters. And so much of daily life pulls us away from that, which is why it's imperative that you make it a priority through planning. This is why a few of my closest friends and I plan an annual vacation so we can reconnect, because in doing so, we are also helping to feed our own mental w...

Many people use a planner or calendar simply as a collection of due dates. They write down when something has to be turned in or completed, but not all of the steps that it will take to accomplish that task. All of those steps are what I define as "invisible work". There is a broader definition of invisible work that I believe shares some components with my definition, however, it's...

Follow your happiness! That's the advice of my friend, fellow corporate trainer and comedian, Mark Decarlo. Join me as we discuss why following one's happiness is the only compass you need, our self-care practices, and the benefits of flow state. NEXT WEEK 06/11/2026 Make Invisible Work, Visible RESOURCES Season of Self-Care: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bywdreams.mailerpage.com/seasonselfcare⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Webs...

I used to be an over-packer, but then a 1-month trip to 3 countries and 12 cities converted me. I didn't want to worry about losing my luggage, nor did I want to pay $1,200 in checked luggage fees, so I decided to finally conquer the skill of "packing light". In the end, it worked out really well especially as we would have missed our return flight if we'd check luggage because o...

Sometimes starting is the hardest part. Here's how to get over that hump using brain science and some trickery to get your brain to help you rather than hinder you from "doing the thing". NEXT WEEK 05/28/26 A Conversation With My Friend Who is Finally Writing The Book She's Always Wanted to Write RESOURCES FREE tickets to the Lakewood, CA event I'm speaking at https://www.eve...

One of the defining traits of humans is that we are social creatures, and yet, how often to you prioritize quality time with people who matter to you? Self-care is defined as doing activities that make you feel good physically, emotionally, mentally, and quality time with people who matter to you is part of that. In this episode I give you a handful of ways to make sure you are making time for peo...

The more of your brain that you use, the more engaged you are. I've also found that the more engaged I am, the happier I am. Making things is fun...even if you aren't good at it. I have many forms of creative expression and I believe all of them contribute to my mental, emotional, and spiritual wellness which is the definition of self-care. In this episode, I discuss how easy it can be to work sel...

You know the expression "use it or lose it", perhaps nowhere else is that more obvious than the human body. As I've said before, the best way to ensure that you do the things you want to do is to make them a habit and today I talk about how to automate and habituate movement into your life. NEXT WEEK 05/07/26 Creativity as self-care: finding ways to express what's inside RESOURCE...

I had been doing "fascia work" for years before I knew what it was. I first learned about fascia about five years ago, but have been "working" it for about twenty going back to an injury that was diagnosed as a herniated disc at the L5/S1 juncture. (A reminder: I'm not a medical professional, this is just my experience.) When I had the injury, I was bedridden for three mont...

I had been doing "fascia work" for years before I knew what it was. I first learned about fascia about five years ago, but have been "working" it for about twenty going back to an injury that was diagnosed as a herniated disc at the L5/S1 juncture. (A reminder: I'm not a medical professional, this is just my experience.) However, it was only when I did much longer, deeper h...

I'm taking the day off for a little self-care after traveling out of state, and across multiple time zones, for a funeral. In the meantime, enjoy this rebroadcast about how you can get some quick hits of self-care. A glimmer is a small action that brings you joy or peace and knowing what your glimmers are is a powerful tool in your self-care kit! I've got a handful of glimmers that I can c...

Sleep hygiene? That's just a fancy term for making sure you get a good night's sleep. 😴 Having an evening ritual is the solution to ensuring you have good "sleep hygiene" so that your brain and body can get the rest and repair they need to function optimally. If you don't get enough sleep, you will be impaired. In fact, driving drowsy has been show to be as dangerous as driv...

I was not always a supplement taker, however, there were 3 different times in my life that I found benefits in supplements. They were: in my early-20s when my diet was horrible and I was sick all the time in my mid-30s when I wanted to ensure a healthy pregnancy in my mid-40s when perimenopause symptoms became intolerable Now that I'm 52, in year 11 of perimenopause (what?! I know!!!), I'm...

Deciding what to eat can absorb a lot of time and energy, not to mention the time spent shopping, cooking, and cleaning. I've found that eating simply and repetitively not only keeps me healthy but saves me a lot of time and energy. In this episode, I show you some of the healthy foods that make my life simply and delicious! Some background: Self-care is one of the pillars of my life. I've...

Having a morning ritual helps me start each day full of energy and good vibes. It also saves me a ton of time because I can just roll into my day without thinking about "what should I do next?" My AM hydration ritual keeps me hydrated and nourished until mid-day and is one of the key components of my morning ritual. In this episode, I walk you through my 3-step process. Some background:...

My PM skincare ritual is a key part of my "wind-down for bed" practice (aka "sleep hygiene") and sets me up to let go of the day that is ending and get a good night's sleep. Self-care is one of the pillars of my life. I've learned that if I don't make it a habit, I tend to run myself into the ground. In the next few months, I'm going to go into detail about my s...

I once heard a woman say that when her son was diagnosed with cancer, she knew she had to be impeccable with her self-care so she could show up as her best self. She needed to ensure her diet, sleep, and exercise fueled her with the bandwidth she needed. The state of the world is...a lot. It's easy to feel overwhelmed and anxious, and that's why I've decided to make self-care the focus...

I once heard a woman say that when her son was diagnosed with cancer, she knew she had to be impeccable with her self-care so she could show up as her best self. She needed to ensure her diet, sleep, and exercise fueled her with the bandwidth she needed. The state of the world is...a lot. It's easy to feel overwhelmed and anxious, and that's why I've decided to make self-care the focus of the next...

I once heard a woman say that when her son was diagnosed with cancer, she knew she had to be impeccable with her self-care so she could show up as her best self. She needed to ensure her diet, sleep, and exercise fueled her with the bandwidth she needed. The state of the world is...a lot. It's easy to feel overwhelmed and anxious, and that's why I've decided to make self-care the focus...

I once heard a woman say that when her son was diagnosed with cancer, she knew she had to be impeccable with her self-care so she could show up as her best self. She needed to ensure her diet, sleep, and exercise fueled her with the bandwidth she needed. The state of the world is...a lot. It's easy to feel overwhelmed and anxious, and that's why I've decided to make self-care the focus...

I once heard a woman say that when her son was diagnosed with cancer, she knew she had to be impeccable with her self-care so she could show up as her best self. She needed to ensure her diet, sleep, and exercise fueled her with the bandwidth she needed. The state of the world is...a lot. It's easy to feel overwhelmed and anxious, and that's why I've decided to make self-care the focus...

"Do or do not, there is no try." ~Yoda The same can be said for believing that the information you need is available to you. Whether you are trying to figure out your next professional move, or trying to figure out how to become neater (me!), or trying to figure out how to improve your skin (me 12 years ago!) -- the knowledge exists if only you are open to finding it. In this episode I t...

Originally I just planned to talk about tech boundaries related to when not to use it. It was all very binary, on or off.🕰️ However, given the current state of the world, I expanded this topic a bit to discuss content boundaries as well. ☮️ I can tell you from experience: tech boundaries are important for mental outlook and sleep because I haven't been as strict with my boundaries this past we...