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EP55: Drownproof: Eight Life Lessons to Keep Your Head Above Water You've built your whole identity around what you accomplish, and it worked, until the day it didn't. This week, host Shelly Rood sits down a fellow Veteran - a retired Navy SEAL - who says the strongest people he's ever known are the first ones to ask for help, and who's still working out what it costs when you don't. Andy Stumpf s...

Episode 54: "Don't Be Boring, Here's the Fix: Storytelling 101" Ever watched someone's eyes glaze over the second you started talking? You're not imagining it. And it's fixable. Episode Description This year, two interviews landed on Shelly's calendar that felt like a dream to book. Both guests are good people living lives of real service. Both conversations still fell flat, and not because of who...

Episode 53: "What Strong Looks Like After the Hard Stuff" Strong is not the absence of hard stuff. It is what you build on the other side of it. This episode shows you what that looks like in practice. The leaders who perform at the highest level have usually been through the most. The question nobody asks out loud is how do you stay yourself through all of it — still sharp, still clear, still in...

FISDAP Study Guide: Paramedic Exam Prep Answers (Bonus Episode) What you're getting: This episode is a straight resource drop. We're going audio on the Fisdap Medical Study Guide—all the questions, all the answers, organized by medical topic so you can listen, study, and prepare without staring at a blank outline wondering where to start. The problem this solves: If you're studying for paramedic c...

Episode 52: "The Eight Relationships Every Ambitious Leader Needs" Hook: What if the people around you are the real difference between a career that's fine and a career that's legendary? Not your resume. Not your wins. The people who see your potential before you do. What You'll Discover In this episode, Shelly goes deep into Chapter 8 of Creator Capitalist by the Category Pirates to break down re...

Episode 51 - Kevin Barnhill: "When You've Gone Over the Edge (And How to Come Back)" You know exactly what you're doing—cutting people off mid-sentence, getting short, getting harsh—and you can't seem to stop. The people closest to you have noticed the shift. The question isn't whether you've drifted. It's whether you can actually come back. EPISODE DESCRIPTION You spend eight years in a high-pres...

Episode 50: "Why Women Veterans Keep Getting Misread: What 242 Just Told Us" You show up. You read the room. You fill what needs filling before anyone asks. And somehow you still leave feeling like nobody quite got you. That is not a character flaw. It is an unmapped pattern. And 242 women veterans just gave us the map. This episode brings you the results from 242 women veterans who completed the...

Episode 49: "When Opposite People Become Your Greatest Asset" You know that person at work who makes decisions the opposite way you do? Who needs things from people that you don't want to give? What if the problem isn't them at all—what if you actually need exactly what they bring? EPISODE DESCRIPTION Two women veterans with completely opposite operating systems spent years on separate paths in th...

Episode 48: "Building a Category Instead of Writing a Book: The Strategic Decisions That Shape It" The Book: The Wilderness and the Wildflower: Naming the Language of Women Veterans You're building something that matters. But you're torn between sending it and making it excellent. What if the difference between those two isn't what you think it is? This episode isn't about publishing a book—it's a...

Episode 47 — Adam Castillo: "Double Middle Fingers and a Homecoming" Hardcore and At Ease | Mission Ambition, LLC You gave everything to a country that claimed to want you back. So what do you do when it doesn't make room for you? You build something they can't take back. And then you come home. Adam Castillo came home from Afghanistan ready to work. Corporate America hung the banners. Hire a hero...

Episode 46: "Built for a Different Body: How to Claim the Skills Nobody Documented" Hardcore and At Ease | Powered by Others Over Self® You did the work. You figured it out. Everyone celebrated the result and nobody asked how you got there. If that sounds familiar, this episode is going to hit somewhere specific. In this solo episode, Shelly Rood breaks down what happens when you perform a standar...

Episode 45 — Angie Lommen: "How to Prove Your Value So Others Carve Out a Place for You" You have been putting in the work. Doing more than was asked. Saying yes before you had all the answers. And somehow nobody seems to notice until they can't afford to lose you. In this conversation, a 26-year defense industry leader pulls back the curtain on what it looks like to build a career by proving valu...

Episode 44: "The Curse of Knowledge Is Costing You Customers" of Hardcore and At Ease - powered by Others Over Self® You have poured yourself into your offer. You know every corner of it. So why are the right people not finding their way in? The answer might surprise you — and it has nothing to do with your content. In this solo episode, host Shelly Rood shares what happened when she brought in a...

Episode 43 - Melissa Washington: "Stop Waiting to Build What Only You Can See" You can see exactly what's missing. You know you're the one to fill it. But you're waiting for the plan, the money, the perfect moment. What if the gap itself is the signal to move? Melissa Washington didn't wait. With no business plan and no financial safety net, she built Women Veterans Alliance from a single Sacramen...

Episode 42: "How to Receive the Support You've Been Building for Everyone Else" You can see exactly what everyone around you needs. Recognizing it in yourself is a different skill entirely — and many high-performing leaders never develop it. Sarah Merwin is Executive Director of Holbrook Farms , a nonprofit retreat community serving military widows, women who have lost a sibling in service, and mo...

Episode 41: "The Caretaking Wilderness: How to Keep Your Edge Without Losing Yourself" Ever feel like you might be running on empty and nobody would even notice. Are you managing the household, the care, the business, the children — and the system designed to support the people you love doesn't even see you? That is the blind spot. That is where this wilderness lives. In this episode, Shelly Rood...

Hardcore and At Ease Episode 40 - John Stolz : "Selfridge Air Show Canceled: Whose Car Are You Looking For?" When the world is at war and the mission calls everyone away, what's left standing is everything you actually built. This week's cancellation of the Selfridge Air National Guard Base air show isn't just a local story. It's a live case study in what community identity costs and what it's wor...

Episode 39: "When the Path Disappears: Welcome to the Wilderness" You're not falling apart. You're in terrain that has no name yet. And that's exactly the problem. Most frameworks for ambitious people were built on one assumption: that hard things arrive one at a time. For you, they arrive in clusters. A diagnosis, a move, a relationship ending, a role change — not across a decade, but across a Tu...

Episode 38 - Erin Dunn: "When the World Won't Calm Down: Leading from Your Center" You can't eliminate the chaos. But you can stop letting it run you. What if the real leadership skill isn't handling pressure — it's building something inside you that pressure can't reach? Every ambitious leader knows what it feels like when everything hits at once. The demands stack, the environment is loud, and y...

Episode 37: "When the System Has You: Keeping Your Standards Intact Anyway" You did everything right. So why is the institution coming after you? What happens to your leadership identity when performing at 100% still isn't enough to change the outcome? In this solo episode, Shelly Rood tackles one of the most isolating experiences a high-performing leader can face: being falsely accused — not by o...

Episode 36 – Host Shelly Rood interviews Vicky Rowinski & Kelley Lovati: "How to Build Momentum Without Burning Out Your Mission" on Hardcore and At Ease - powered by Others Over Self® You're putting in the work. But some results are structurally unavailable until you build something bigger than yourself to achieve them. This episode is proof. Vicky Rowinski and Kelley Lovati have spent over a...

Episode 35: "How to Build Systems That Scale Your Expertise Without Waiting for Perfect" For eight years, you've been sitting on knowledge that could help thousands. But you're waiting for the perfect plan. Meanwhile, the people who need what you're building can't wait. What if the real problem isn't that your plan isn't good enough—it's that perfectionism is killing your impact? Episode Descripti...

Episode 34: "The Scent of Trauma: Reclaiming Control When Everything Feels Like Too Much" You're in the grocery store and suddenly you want to abandon your cart and run. The networking event has you wanting to throw punches. Your family gathering sends you spiraling. And you have no idea why—you just know you can't handle one more thing. What if your body isn't broken? What if it's doing exactly w...

Episode 33 - Vicki Selva: "When Competitors Multiply Impact: Building Regional Excellence Through Strategic Collaboration" What if your biggest competitors could become your greatest force multipliers? When you're exhausted from operating in isolation, trying to coordinate partners who won't coordinate, or watching potential collaborations die from friction—there's a different way. In this episode...

EPISODE 32 - "How to Set Boundaries Without Losing Your Mission-First Edge" If you're the person everyone counts on to hold the line, who's holding the line for you? This is the conversation we don't have enough in mission-driven leadership: boundaries aren't for weak people who can't handle pressure. Boundaries are for strong people who've been handling everyone else's pressure for so long they'v...