Happy, Healthy & Healing

How often do you catch yourself saying, “I just need to get through this week,” “Once things settle down,” or “When the kids are older, I'll have more time”? But what happens when there's always something else to get through? In this episode, I'm exploring something I've been thinking about lately.  How have we become so good at managing our lives, organising everything and wor...

What happens when the people you love don’t believe in the life you’re trying to build? This week, after finding out our landlord is selling the house we’re living in, a few family conversations hit a nerve. I was told I needed to “get back to reality,” get a normal job and stop living in a dream state. And even though I know logically that someone else’s opinion doesn’t determine what I’m capable...

Shame is one of the most common spirals I see in the women I work with… and most of the time, they don’t even realise that’s what’s happening. It can sound like: “I should know better.” “Why am I like this?” “I should be able to handle this.” “I can’t believe I did that again.” “What is wrong with me?” We often think we’re dealing with overwhelm, overthinking, anger, procrastination or frustration...

I’ve been called a cult leader three separate times over the last couple of years. And while I can laugh about it now, it got me thinking about how quickly people form opinions about who we are, what we do, and what our choices mean,  often without actually knowing the full story. In this episode, I’m talking about perception, judgement and what happens when you start becoming a version of yoursel...

I’ve just wrapped my biggest retreat yet (August 2026) and in this episode, I’m taking you behind the scenes of what actually goes into holding a space like this. From accidentally overselling the retreat, to working with an incredible team, to making decisions in real time based on what was happening in the room, this weekend stretched me as a facilitator in ways I didn’t expect. I share some of...

In this episode, I’m joined by Chelsea Todd, a mother, coach, facilitator, writer and matrescence educator for a conversation about matrescence , the huge and often unspoken transition that happens when a woman becomes a mother. We talk about why motherhood can change so much more than your day-to-day life. Your identity can shift. Your relationships can change. Things from your own childhood can...

You say you want less pressure, a quieter mind and more space to actually enjoy your life. But then things finally calm down… and suddenly you’re checking emails, finding things to fix, starting another project, worrying about what you’ve forgotten or feeling strangely restless. In this episode, Stacey explores why peace can sometimes feel more uncomfortable than pressure when you’ve spent years b...

Gratitude is powerful. But what happens when “I should be grateful” becomes the sentence you use to shut down what you’re really feeling? In this episode, Stacey explores the pressure women feel to appreciate the life they have, even when parts of it are no longer working. Maybe you love your children deeply, but you’re exhausted by always being needed. Maybe your partner is a good person, but you...

If you’ve heard people talk about shadow work but still aren’t entirely sure what it is, or how it’s actually meant to help you.. this episode is a really beautiful place to start. In this conversation, Stacey is joined by Jessicka Anne to explore shadow work, energetics, emotional integration and the parts of ourselves we often learn to suppress, avoid or judge. Jess shares her own journey into t...

In this episode, Stacey challenges the way we've been taught to think about resilience and explores the difference between building true emotional capacity and simply becoming better at tolerating stress, overwhelm and self abandonment. She unpacks why so many successful women feel exhausted despite "coping," how your nervous system and window of tolerance influence the way you resp...

In this episode, I’m joined by Katie Martin, also known as Mrs Martin, the Mindset and Money Mentor. Katie helps women change the way they think, feel and behave with money, not from a place of shame, but from understanding the stories, beliefs and patterns that have been running in the background. In this conversation, we talk about why money is never just about the numbers. It’s about safety. Id...

What if the thing keeping you stuck isn't a lack of motivation, confidence, or discipline, but a belief you don't even know you're carrying? In this episode, Stacey Allison shares a powerful personal coaching experience that uncovered one of the deepest unconscious beliefs driving her life: if I fail, I'll die. While she knew logically it wasn't true, her nervous system ha...

Most women don’t stay stuck because they don’t know something needs to change. They stay stuck because changing direction brings up guilt, fear, shame and the question so many women are quietly carrying.. “What will people think?” In this episode, Stacey Allison explores the power in the pivot and why changing direction isn’t always failure.  Sometimes it’s growth. Sometimes it’s honesty. Sometime...

After every retreat, I like to sit down and reflect on what actually happened in the room. Because no two retreats are ever the same. Different women. Different ages. Different stories. And yet there are always a few themes that keep showing up. This retreat had women ranging from their 30s through to their 70s, many of whom had never done anything like this before. What surprised them most wasn&a...

This is my 100th episode… and when I sat down to record it, I didn’t want to just celebrate it. I wanted to say something that actually matters. Because after 100 conversations about mindset, patterns, confidence and emotional intelligence, there are certain things I see over and over again in women. Not the ones who are falling apart. The ones who look like they’ve got it together. The ones who a...

You’ve done a lot of inner work… so why does it still feel like this? Same overthinking. Same reactions. Same situations playing out in slightly different ways. At some point, you start to wonder, is it me… or is this just how life is? Here’s what most people don’t realise: You’re not stuck. You’re running a loop. And until you see it while it’s happening… you’ll keep ending up in the same place,...

After my latest retreat, I sat down and wrote out what actually came up for the women in the room… Different ages. Different lives. Different stories. But the same themes kept showing up. In this episode, I’m breaking down the 3 most common threads I see at every retreat — the patterns that sit underneath the overthinking, the exhaustion of holding it all, and that feeling of “I don’t quite feel l...

I’m not anti-school… but something about it didn’t sit right with me. In this episode, I share why I’ve chosen to homeschool my kids (for now) and why this conversation goes far beyond school vs homeschool. Because this isn’t just about education. It’s about what kids are actually being taught… and what’s being missed. I started noticing how early kids begin to: - look for the “right” answer - sec...

Most women think something is wrong with them when they start questioning their life. On paper, everything looks fine. You’ve built the life you thought you wanted. You’re doing all the “right” things. And yet… something feels off. You feel restless. Disconnected. Like the version of you who created this life… isn’t the version of you anymore. And that’s the part no one really talks about. In this...

Most women don’t realise how disconnected they’ve become… because on the outside, everything still looks like it’s working. They’re getting things done. Holding it all together. Showing up for everyone else. But internally? They’re in their head. Overthinking. Running on pressure. And completely disconnected from their body and intuition. In this episode, I sit down with past client and friend Eri...

This episode is a little different from the normal. I’ve just landed from a three-day immersion with Jessika Anne and honestly… my brain is still processing it. It wasn’t a fluffy “feel good” personal development weekend. It was confronting, eye-opening and at times uncomfortable in the best possible way. And it reminded me of something I think a lot of women misunderstand about growth. Most peopl...

Many women believe they’re confident. But if you look closely, that confidence is often built on something external -  achievement, approval, and external validation. The promotion. The praise. The gold star. And the moment those things disappear, so does the feeling of being “enough.” In this episode, Stacey explores the subtle way many women unknowingly tie their self-worth to performance.  You’...

You don’t stay stuck because you’re scared of change. You stay stuck because change asks you to let go of something that once kept you safe. In this episode, I unpack a truth most women never consider: Fear isn’t about the future. It’s about loyalty to the past. Loyalty to the identity that earned you approval. Loyalty to the role that kept the peace. Loyalty to the version of you that made everyo...

You get up. You show up. You handle things. You hold it together. From the outside, your life looks stable. Successful. Fine. But inside? It feels… flat. Not dramatic. Not chaotic. Just a quiet sense that you’re moving through your life instead of actually being in it. This episode isn’t for women whose lives are in crisis. It’s for the capable, intelligent, self-aware woman who’s starting to real...

In this heartfelt and expansive conversation, Kobi Pollock is joined by her dear friend and fellow women’s mindset coach, Stacey Allison, to dive deep into the magic and meaning behind their Reset & Rise Retreats. Together, they explore why Reset & Rise is so much more than a girls’ weekend away and why so many women feel the quiet (and sometimes loud) pull towards retreat when life starts...