Happily Even After Betrayal with Life Coach Jen

Send us Fan Mail Today I am so excited to introduce you to my new friend Susan Astle- We met on Instagram and now she is on my podcast!  We discuss what to know when considering divorce- She has so many great tips and tools that are a must to know.  This is really great information for all women! Enjoy learning a little bit more about Susan.  Susan Astle is a Licensed Paralegal Practitioner, licen...

Send us Fan Mail This week, I discuss  the 2022 word of the year, Gaslighting. I think it is important to understand what it is so you can know if it is something you or someone else in your relationship does.  I give examples of what this looks like.  Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse although many times it isn't intentional. The person doing it is trying to protect themselves however...

Send us Fan Mail This week I dive into how science has discovered that the chemicals released in our body as we fall into love, mimic a drug addict getting High. Which makes sense, right.  It is even more prevalent in an affair because that adds a layer of secrecy which makes it all that more exciting-Just like falling in love releases chemicals into the body when we get divorced, break up or fall...

Send us Fan Mail Pointillism is a form of art - I discuss how thousands of dots make up a picture. However, it isn't until we stand back that we can see what it is.  Sometimes we need someone like a coach to help us with our perception of a situation.  Especially when it involves our marriage or our kids or other family members.  When we stand too close we only see the dots or problems.  We c...

Send us Fan Mail So many of us don't like to talk about our feelings.  The world would rather numb out to all emotion than to feel any of it. I promise in the short term it might feel better but if we don't deal with all of our emotions they will eventually deal with us.  That gets ugly.  Betrayal is an emotion I wouldn't wish for anyone but for those of us that have felt it I hope...

Send us Fan Mail This week I talk about an analogy my therapist shared with me on boundaries.  I hope it makes as much sense to you as it did to me.  So often we let our guard down (boundaries) when communicating with someone that we have clear boundaries with.  When that happens sometimes things are said and we start showing up in a way that is not the best version of ourselves. Or we talk to som...

Send us Fan Mail This week I share the seven stages of grief as it applies to divorce.  Divorce is a process that you go through and it feels a lot like a death.  It is a death of hopes and dreams, your marriage, the person you planned to spend eternity with.  The only difference is they aren't dead.  That is the tricky part.  It is a lot of emotions all tied up into the word DIVORCE.  I am t...

Send us Fan Mail This week I wanted to get you thinking about intentionally creating your life. January is always a great time to reset and think about things you want to keep doing or start doing.  I ask you to close your eyes and think about things you are already doing and want to continue as well as things you want to stop or start doing.  I think it's important to do this with your physi...

Send us Fan Mail This week I wanted to share the version of my story that I have been working on.  We all have a past and it can either propel us forward or hold us back.  I chose the word TRANSFORMATION to be my word of the year and to start that off I wanted to share the version of my story that brings me peace and confidence. There are many ways to tell a story and for me I want to focus on all...

Send us Fan Mail Today I am introducing the new name of my podcast.  I decided to change my name for many reasons, mainly it aligned better with what I want to teach people about and secondly that I wanted a fresh start since I originally created this podcast with my former husband. I am really excited to begin 2023 with the idea that through life's greatest challenges that we can still live...

Send us Fan Mail This week I share some ideas and tools to begin talking to yourself as if you were talking to your best friend.  Most people talk to themselves in a very negative way. To change this you need to become aware of what you are saying to yourself and I found a great way to do this is ask yourself- Would I ever say this to my best friend?  I am guessing the answer is NO.  As always fol...

Send us Fan Mail This week I talk about how to enjoy the holidays and get rid of the have to's and should's.  I also discuss what JOY stands for and how to bring it into your holiday. Create a list of your priorities and non-negotiables and go from there.  Merry Christmas and thanks so much for supporting me and listening to my podcast. As always follow me @relationship411podcast on Inst...

Send us Fan Mail This week on the podcast I talk about values and what they are.  Many of us go into a relationship looking to see if the person meets all the things on our checklist. However I think we need to focus more on looking to see if our values match up. I challenge you to do this with your kids, spouse or others and see if your checklist items match up to your values. As always follow me...

Send us Fan Mail This week I talk about courage- I discuss 10 things we can do to have courage in our lives. I also discuss the opposite and that is being a coward and what the difference is. Courage can feel risky but I promise it is worth it even if you fail. As always follow me @relationship411podcast on Instagram and Facebook- email Jennifer@relationship411podcast.com to get the 411 every week...

Send us Fan Mail This week I discuss different things you can do to set yourself up for an enjoyable holiday season. Did you know you get to create whatever you want the holidays to look like for you and your family.  Good luck this week and Happy Thanksgiving.  We have a lot to be grateful for! As always follow me @relationship411podcast on Instagram and Facebook- email Jennifer@relationship411po...

Send us Fan Mail This week I discuss 7 green flags to look for when dating or in your marriage and then 7 red flags to look for in a person you are dating or married too. Nobody is perfect so if you see green flags in your partner be sure to let them know and how much you appreciate that. If there are red flags these are also things to discuss and make your partner aware of. If they don't thi...

Send us Fan Mail This week I discuss how, The grass is greener syndrome and FOMO (Fear of missing out) will not bring true happiness. We all have thought this with some aspect of our life, whether it is a job, our home, our relationships, our bodies.  The answer to the question is yes and no. Yes if you aren't nurturing and taking care of yourself and no if you are looking inward to grow and...

Send us Fan Mail Today I talk a little about my brother Justin who passed away in 2014. His birthday was October 7th and he loved Halloween and hosted the best parties. I share a story that a friend of his left us on his headstone in 2020 as well as share some thoughts by President Dieter F. Uchtdorf. I reference a talk he gave in General Conference https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bl0KPl8h3XY .  A...

Send us Fan Mail This week I discuss why it is important to a marriage to have regular check-ins or CTJ's in your marriage.  Divorce is always an option when you get married but somehow we have made it into a topic to never discuss.  My thought is - if it was discussed more (not as a threat or a weapon) but more like a - Hey how are you feeling in our marriage, it is possible there would be a...

Send us Fan Mail  Today I discuss how many couples get caught up in the right and wrong way to do things.  This can cause a lot of hurt feelings and resentment,  Are you always needing to be on the right train or always being told you are doing it wrong train. I give some thoughts you can think instead of needing to be right in any situation. As always follow me @relationship411podcast on Instagra...

Send us Fan Mail This week I share this concept I learned from Colin O'brady who was one of the founders of 29029 Everesting as well as many other things.  I loved this concept so much because I don't think we create enough fun in our lives.  I give examples of both and share some ways to create more fun in the mundane of life. My business and life coach Jody Moore always thinks "Th...

Send us Fan Mail This week I share several ways that I have used discomfort as a way to progress and become a better version of myself.  I recently participated in 29029 Everesting and that was discomfort on steroids.  I also got divorced which has been a whole new way to get uncomfortable. I encourage you to find ways to create a bit of discomfort into your life.  I'd love for you to share t...

Send us Fan Mail This week I decided to have a conversation with one of my daughters. Meghan has recently moved back in with us and we have been having some amazing conversations about different topics and how parents tend to focus on the wrong thing when they are offering advice or their opinions.  Instead of building a closer relationship with their children they alienate them or disconnect from...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever felt like you don't have any confidence? Then you think how am I going to learn to be confident.  This episode I share my experience with confidence and how I became confident. It is an art and takes practice every day but I know you can do it too! As always follow me @relationship411podcast on Instagram and Facebook- email Jennifer@relationship411podcast.com to...

Send us Fan Mail This week I dive into some ways to reinvent yourself.  There are opportunities throughout our life that we can re decide who we want to be and what we want our life to look like.  I give you ideas and questions to ask yourself.  Why wait! You can decide to change anything in your life if you want.  Let me know how you are reinventing yourself. As always follow me @relationship411p...