Happily Even After Betrayal with Life Coach Jen

Send us Fan Mail -This week Kevin and I discuss forgiveness. I believe forgiveness of each other and ourselves was the key ingredient Kevin and I needed. This enabled us to be able to keep our marriage together rather than end it in divorce.  Talk by Elder Dieter F. Uchtdorf   and  Forgiveness Story   We hope that as you live your life, marriage and raising kids that you will work on forgiving rat...

Send us Fan Mail This week Kevin and I discuss several things we and many couples do in their marriages that aren't healthy.  Some of these we did without realizing how destructive they were.  Once we gained awareness of them we had leverage and could begin to change. The marriage killers we came up with are defensiveness, the need to be right, resentment, possessiveness, criticism, unrealist...

Send us Fan Mail This week Kevin and I talk about a concept we learned from Brene Brown who is a renowned shame researcher and author.  If you want to take a deeper dive into this concept of living a wholehearted life, read her book “The Gifts of Imperfection”.  Also check out her wholehearted test to find out how you are doing with living wholeheartedly.  That can be found on her website www.bren...

Send us Fan Mail Buffering is a concept Jennifer first heard about when she went to The Life Coach school to become a life coach.  We discuss what buffering is and why everyone does some sort of buffering in their life.  Kevin and Jennifer share ways they buffer as well as talk about ways others might buffer.  Buffering is something we do to avoid difficult or uncomfortable emotions.  We hope this...

Send us Fan Mail This week we discuss the book written by Gary Chapman. We talk about the importance of learning your love language(s) as well as your spouse's love language(s) and if you have children theirs.  We share ideas and ways to show someone the way they want to be loved and to let others know how you want to be loved. We hope this inspires you to do something for the ones you love e...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode we discuss different experiences we have had in our life, especially in the last few years. We share how people have served us and how we have been able to serve others. We discuss the importance of giving as well as receiving service. Finally our message is that it’s much more important to DO something than not DO anything. Look for opportunities to serve they are...

Send us Fan Mail Life gets busy and our kids can start to take over our life if we let them.  However we discuss that in order to have a healthy marriage you need to make your marriage a priority. One way to do this is to schedule regular date nights.  We share ideas of things to do and not to do.  Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coachi...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode we discuss why people lie. We give reasons and share examples of what couples lie about.  We discuss that everyone tells lies and how it can hurt your relationship. Telling the truth is always the best policy but that can take practice and trust in yourself and your partner. Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see wh...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode we discuss what to do and what not to do when having a difficult conversation with someone.  We recommend starting with less serious topics if you need to. We will all have things that happen in life so the more we can be prepared to show up with compassion and love the better able we will be to discuss difficult topics.  We share our own experiences in the things...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode we discuss how we can become a warden or sheriff in our marriage when our spouse asks for something that we may not agree with.  We share examples of what this looks like as well as discuss how making your marriage win/ win is the way to go.  Learn to collaborate in your marriage and both of you will get what you want and more. We highlight going out with friends,...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode Kevin and I get  vulnerable and share some things we have had to change in ourselves. This was the tipping point of how we or I saved our marriage.  It seems natural to point out everything your spouse is doing wrong but really we need to point directly at ourselves and look at what we are or are not doing in our relationships with others.  This is definitely a key...

Send us Fan Mail We discuss the value we see in having family dinners and spending time at the dinner table .  We have four kids and discuss the various phases we have experienced with having family dinners.  We tell stories and give examples on how to implement family dinners in your life.  Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is a...

Send us Fan Mail We will discuss the most important and overlooked relationship and that is the relationship we have with ourselves.  We found after marriage and kids we lost ourselves in the everyday activities of life. Kevin and I discuss the importance of self care and how we stopped taking care of ourselves and then how we started to find ourselves again. This is such an overlooked but very im...

Send us Fan Mail This concept definitely was more Kevin, however I take full advantage of letting him treat me like his girlfriend. I have the best of both worlds since I am also his wife.  Honestly this concept has put our marriage on a whole other level.  We have to be intentional and engaged every day. It's a challenge but we are both ALL IN!  Please follow me on instagram and facebook @ha...

Send us Fan Mail This is a concept I came up with since I feel like I say the wrong thing a lot!   Who doesn't want a second chance sometimes, especially when the first time you show up as not your best self.  Don't worry I give Kevin lots of chances too. Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 30...

Send us Fan Mail Years ago Kevin and I read a book called " His needs, her needs: Building an affair proof marriage "  By Dr. Willard Harley. In this book he taught the concept of the LOVE BANK.  We share ways you can put deposits into your spouse's love bank and ways to make withdrawals.  Usually deposits are made bit by bit but when a withdrawal happens it can drain the bank or go...

Send us Fan Mail Kevin and Jennifer discuss a concept they learned years ago from their marriage counselor- Curtis Hooker.  He used the analogy of living in the school zone vs the Autobahn. Jennifer talks about how she lives her life more in the school zone and Kevin lives his life more in the Autobahn.  Through the years they both have had to either speed things up or slow things down. They share...

Send us Fan Mail Kevin and I first learned about this concept from one of Dr. John Lund's CD's I had purchased for a road trip to McCall, Idaho. http://drlund.com/cds/    I am pretty sure it was the " For Time and all Eternity "  After listening to this concept we decided we definitely needed to use this in our marriage.  We have used it ever since. We share examples that will...

Send us Fan Mail Episode 2- Jennifer interviews Kevin: I was born in South Bend, Indiana. My mom divorced my dad shortly after I was born and was left to raise my sister and me on her own. A few years later she met my step dad and they married and relocated to Galveston, Texas where I grew up.  I have a sister that is 8 years older than me and a half sister that is a year or so younger than me. I...

Send us Fan Mail Episode 1- Kevin Interviews Jennifer: I was born in Cuba which was a sign my life would be full of unique experiences.  I was the only girl in my family. I have 3 brothers.  My dad was an attorney and my mom was a homemaker. I loved to dance and did so from age 3-18. I was born and raised a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints.  My family was very active with...

Send us Fan Mail 25 Years of Marriage. 25 years of mistakes and successes. 4 kids. Trials and triumphs along our path.  Join us weekly to learn the lessons we've learned - sometimes the easy way - sometimes the hardest way possible. Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 30 min. clarity call via zoom....