Habits on Purpose

On today's episode I'll be exploring what trauma truly means and how it is far more common than many realize. In fact, most exhausting habituated patterns can be traced back to trauma and those easy-to-discount experiences are, in fact, actually traumas. Allow me to help you recognize these traumas so you can name them and then begin to address them.     Listen in as I discuss the difference betwe...

We all suffer from painful, recurring thoughts from time to time. But I've noticed in my professional work (and even in my personal life) there are two especially common thoughts that plague our psyche and create so much day-to-day stress: 1) "I should know better" and 2) "I should be further along than I am right now."     These thoughts can impact us on a monthly, weekly, or even a daily basis....

Do you struggle to make decisions? Do you find yourself floundering with analysis, paralysis, second-guessing, and worrying about making the wrong move? If so, today's episode is just for you because I'm tackling, what I call, "decision block."     Listen in as I share this practical technique to help you be more decisive. Even better, I'll also be providing direction as to how to become more awar...

Today, we're getting curious. More than that we're engaging in pragmatic curiosity—a practice by which you can more effectively change your habits and patterns. But in order to fully grasp this concept (and implement it into your life), I'm sharing the connection between curiosity and your habits.      Tune into this episode as I describe how to employ pragmatic curiosity to make meaningful change...

It's certainly not uncommon to feel stuck and unsure of yourself. In fact, if you're constantly questioning your thoughts, acts, and decisions—and don't have the right answers—those feelings may only intensify. Thankfully, there is a solution: ask the right questions.     On today's episode, I'm sharing my Power of Productive Questions. They're questions intended to help you tap into your curiosit...

Are you an overthinker? Maybe a procrastinator or a perfectionist? We all have habits—things we do automatically without thinking much about them—that are deeply ingrained in us, but our habits are need indicators; they signal a need or desire. Luckily, there are steps you can take to uncover those needs and desires, which will allow you to identify, address, and then change those habits more effe...

It seems like the difference between a yes  and a  no  would be obvious, right? But the reality is, this discernment can be quite the riddle. So, why is telling the difference between a yes and a no tricky? Well, in this episode, I explain exactly how something seemingly so simple is actually quite complicated.   Tune in this week to learn why we struggle to tell a  yes  from a  no , and why it ca...

One common experience high-achieving women have is that their life looks perfect from the outside, but inside, they're struggling with burnout. This was exactly the case for this week's guest. But she's been on her own healing journey, and now she helps other female physician entrepreneurs create profitable, hustle-free businesses while also living in alignment with their values.   Dr. Sogol Pahla...

I used to think that I always gave people the benefit of the doubt. My natural default was to be extremely optimistic and always see the good in people. However, I have learned that, often, unbeknownst to me, my automatic response wasn't what I thought it was. Maybe you can relate.   Tune in this week to discover what it really means to give the benefit of the doubt, why it's important, and how to...

One of the most infuriating things that I've personally experienced, and my clients experience, is that feeling of being reactive, particularly to the people you're closest with, like your family or colleagues. Feeling reactionary can make you feel like you're out of control.   So, what can you do about your tendency to react? If you feel like you're reacting without intentionality, this episode i...

Any control freaks listening out there? Maybe you consider yourself more of a control enthusiast? If you loathe when things don't go according to plan, you severely dislike disorganization and chaos, and you enjoy controlling everything in your life, welcome to the club, and welcome to this episode of Habits on Purpose .   Tune in this week to hear me unpack the habit of being a control enthusiast...

If you have a conversation with someone and there is silence, how often do you make this mean that they don't like you, or you have annoyed them, or that you must have done something wrong? When you draw conclusions, you place something in a context and give it meaning, often based on past events and circumstances. Sometimes this meaning can be useful but other times it will weigh you down and mak...

To shoehorn is to force or compress something into an insufficient space, or an insufficient period of time. What does this look like when it comes to your habits? When you shoehorn, you're working hard to fit a lot of tasks into a span of time where they really don't fit.   Tune in this week to discover why shoehorning might be a good idea sometimes, but at other times, your shoehorning habit has...

If you have a goal in your life, adjusting your habits is the best way to start taking the steps towards where you want to go. However, there are some classic habit-building mistakes I see people making when trying to adopt new habits, and you'll learn how to avoid them by listening in this week.   Tune in this week to discover the most common habit-changing mistakes, and how to avoid them. You'll...

How much time do you spend trying to do thing you know you aren't good at? What if your habit could be doing more of what you're good at, instead of spending your time and energy trying to overcome your weaknesses?   Tune in today to discover how to start focusing on what comes easiest to you, and save time on the things you find hardest. You'll learn why spending your time trying to improve your...

For some of us, it's been a long time since we were a beginner at something. Sometimes, being new is exciting and the learning process can feel super fun. But oftentimes, being new at something is the opposite of fun.    Tune in this week to discover why being a beginner isn't easy, and a brilliant technique for what to do in these not-so-easy times. I'm showing you how to use a concept called FFT...

You might think that diluting the significance of a challenge you've faced and shrugging off your lived experience of a difficult situation is harmless. However, it's an insidious habit that has a huge impact on your emotional experience of life, so it's time to get clear on what you can do about it.   Tune in this week to discover where you're minimizing the difficulties you've faced. I'm discuss...

In our lives, it can sometimes feel like something's missing. However, we often have difficulty working out where this feeling of longing is coming from.    So, what are you missing out on, and why are you missing out on it? In this weeks episode I'm giving you simple, actionable tips to see what's missing in your life and I'm showing you how to change course if necessary. You'll also learn why wh...

How does persistence help us create more of what we want in our lives? Why do some people struggle to show up with persistence and persevere in pursuit of the things they want?    Today's episode is all about persistence, how to support it, and the things that block you from embodying persistence. Tune in this week to discover how to approach your life with kind, open-hearted, sustainable persever...

Often, we worry about what people will think of us as we navigate through difficult times. The reality, however, is that struggles are part of life and it's okay to not be okay.    In this episode, I talk about confidence, exploring the myths and paradoxes around it, and I discuss how to be more transparent about the struggles you are facing. I'm sharing four myths and lies about confidence, and p...

What can you do to really hear your inner critic without it stopping you in your tracks? Really hearing your inner critic requires an understanding of one important tool: un-blending.    Tune in this week to discover how to zoom out and get some perspective when listening to your inner critic. I'm sharing how understanding Internal Family Systems (IFS) can transform how you interact with your inne...

Fertility is a subject filled with mental and emotional challenges, and my guest this week is an expert on it. Whether you're facing fertility difficulties or any other type of difficulty, mindful self-compassion can help you navigate challenges where there are variables beyond your control.   Dr. Erica Bove is a Double Board-Certified OB/GYN and Reproductive Endocrinologist. She's also a certifie...

If you want to be as effective as possible as you navigate external challenges in your life, starting inside and doing the internal work is a critical piece of the puzzle.    The tools I share here on the podcast offer practical and effective ways to change your life. Tune in this week to discover how to do the internal work required to meet the circumstances of your life head on and begin to crea...

What exactly are boundaries, and why are they difficult to articulate and maintain? To help me unpack the complex topic of boundaries, I'm joined by Dr. Sasha Shillcutt.    Dr. Sasha Shillcutt is an international speaker on the subjects of gender equity and work-life balance. She's also a full-time cardiac anesthesiologist and CEO of her own organization Brave Enough, through which she leads confe...

Today's episode is all about keeping sight of what really matters. I have an approach that keeps the most important things in the forefront of my mind, and it will transform the way you deal with being in a slump.   Tune in this week to discover the three most important aspects when it comes to keeping sight of what matters. I'm showing you how to harness your intuition and be aware of what's esse...