Grown Girl Confessions

You were told it was “too grown” when you were a child, and now that you’re grown… they’re calling it “childish”. Which one is it? The truth is, societal expectations about how you should show up are arbitrary and contradictory. I had to realize that part of my healing was giving myself permission to wear what I wanted-to AND explore the phases I was denied when I was younger. Reclaiming your iden...

I was filling out my TEDx application when I caught myself doing it again. “What category would your talk fall into?” My brain immediately went to “I don’t know”, right before I proceeded to explain exactly what I do and who I help. That’s the pattern. “I don’t know” becomes an exit door, a way to soften the blow of stepping into something that makes us visible. But everything that comes after “I...

The JP Mom Program reached out years ago. I wasn’t ready then. My son was waiting for a transplant, life was lifing. Years later I finally committed, got waitlisted, got in and almost immediately felt out of place. I’d already lived every lesson. But I stayed and while I was pouring into the other women in the program, the facilitator, the cohort, all of them started reflecting something back to m...

We celebrate women for being strong and silent, but stopping the tears isn’t the same as healing the wound. In this episode, we’re breaking down the dangerous difference between true emotional recovery and simply getting better at hiding your pain. what we cover: - the myth of “quiet healing” and why bleeding privately is still bleeding - how we confuse silencing our pain with finding peace - when...

You already know what’s wrong. You can name the pattern. You can see the cycle. And you’re still stuck in it. Everybody keeps telling you how self-aware you are like that’s supposed to fix something. It doesn’t. In this episode I talk about why knowing isn’t enough, what actually has to shift underneath the awareness, and what happened when I realized the tools I was using to heal weren’t built fo...

If you have to ask how to submit to a man who isn’t leading, that’s your answer. Nine times out of ten, the woman who built him is not the woman who benefits. So why are we still having this conversation? Your desire for a relationship should never outweigh your standards for yourself. Stop shrinking your standards to fit a man who isn’t showing up. Stop building men who aren’t ready. Find the one...

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