Grit and Grace: Real Conversatons on Resilience, Growth and Living in Alignment

The beliefs running your life are rarely the ones you'd say out loud. In this episode, Pam Rader and Erin Payne pull back the curtain on the beliefs hiding beneath the surface — the ones disguised as gratitude, independence, or "good enough" — and hand you a real framework for finding them. This is self-trust in action: instead of borrowing someone else's story about money, love, or worthiness, yo...

Are you actually living your life — or just checking off someone else's itinerary? In this episode, Pam and Erin unpack Sadhguru's powerful Tourist vs. Traveler teaching and ask the question most of us have never dared to answer honestly: whose map am I following? Tourists go where everyone says to go. They gather evidence they were there, post the photo, and move on. Travelers slow down, follow t...

Are you chasing freedom — or running from fear? In this episode, Pam and Erin are joined by returning guest Brian Thiessen 🤠 for a raw and real conversation about one of the most misunderstood concepts in personal growth: freedom. Most of us treat freedom like a destination with a locked gate — something we'll finally reach when the debt is gone, the relationship changes, the kids grow up, or the...

Have you ever sent a text, gotten silence back — and immediately decided it meant the worst? That gap between what actually happened and the meaning you assigned it? That's where most of our suffering lives. And it might be costing you some of the most important relationships in your life. In this episode, Pam Rader and Erin Payne unpack a powerful yogic teaching — the Snake and the Rope — and exp...

You Are Not Your Story: Setting Down the Past to Step Into Who You're Becoming Have you ever caught yourself leading with your hardest chapters — the divorce, the breakdown, the business that fell apart — as proof you've earned the right to be taken seriously? In this episode, Pam Rader and embodiment coach Erin Payne pull apart a pattern that shows up in even the most self-aware people: the story...

What if the thing quietly killing your relationship isn't the big blowouts — but the small patterns you've never even noticed? In this episode of Grit and Grace, Pam and Erin sit down with Aftin Jolly, Registered Clinical Counselor and Level 2 Gottman-trained couples therapist based in Kelowna, BC. Aftin brings clinical expertise and raw honesty to one of our most requested topics — relationships....

What if the life you're living right now isn't happening to you — but because of you? In this episode, Pam and Erin dive deep into the Law of Assumption — the teaching made famous by Neville Goddard and later built upon by Bob Proctor — and explore how our unconscious assumptions about love, money, worthiness, and belonging quietly shape every outcome in our lives. This one gets personal. Pam shar...

You’re not just “irritated.” You’re not just “tired of people.” You might be resentful… and it’s costing you more than you think. In this raw and honest conversation, Pam and Erin unpack one of the most misunderstood emotional patterns: resentment. Not as something someone else is doing to you… But as a powerful signal that you’ve abandoned yourself somewhere along the way. Because here’s the trut...

What if the stuff you're holding onto isn't just clutter — it's proof you haven't fully chosen yourself yet? In this episode, Pam and Erin get real about the deeper meaning behind the things we just can't seem to let go of — from engagement rings and grandma's China to love letters from exes and shoes that don't even fit. What starts as a conversation about spring cleaning quickly becomes a raw, h...

Are we unknowingly shaping our lives around advice from wounded people? In this thought-provoking episode of Grit & Grace , Pam and Erin dive into the hidden risks of blindly following popular ideas — from relationship trends and parenting philosophies to spiritual influencers and self-help movements. Together, they explore how easily we can outsource our inner authority when charisma, belongi...

Grit & Grace with Pam Rader & Erin Payne What if the thing causing the most chaos in your relationships… isn’t what happened — but what you told yourself it meant ? In this honest (and hilariously cringey) episode, Pam and Erin pull back the curtain on the emotional spirals we all experience — from insecurity and jealousy to over-processing childhood wounds and defending feelings that may...

In a world where everyone seems to have an opinion about how we should live, the real work is learning to trust ourselves—even when others don’t understand our choices. In this episode of Grit & Grace , Pam and Erin reflect on their experience at the Pathmaker Awards on International Women’s Day and explore a powerful truth about living an authentic life: If you’re truly walking in alignment,...

In this episode of Grit & Grace , Pam Rader and Erin Payne sit down with anxiety and panic expert Silvia Araya for a real, grounding conversation about what panic attacks actually feel like—and how to stop letting anxiety run your life. If you’ve ever wondered “Am I in danger… or is my nervous system just convinced I am?” this episode will land. What a panic attack feels like in the body (and...

What if the most mature thing you could do this week… is not respond? In this episode, Pam and Erin slow it right down and talk about something deceptively simple—but wildly life-changing: the pause. Not the “I’m biting my tongue so I don’t lose it” kind of pause… but the kind that becomes a ritual —a way of living that creates depth, dignity, and way fewer “I can’t believe I said that” moments. T...

Grit & Grace Podcast — The Quiet Power of Being Unimpressive (feat. our resident Cowboy, Brian Thiessen) What if the most aligned version of you… isn’t the flashiest one? In this episode, Pam and Erin are joined by our resident cowboy, Brian Thiessen, for a funny-as-hell and surprisingly profound conversation about the difference between being impressive and being inspiring —and why “choosing...

Addicted to Intensity? Here's how to stop letting it run your life. Ever notice how things can be good … and then your brain is like, “Cool cool cool—let’s ruin it”? 🙃 In this episode, Pam and Erin get hilariously honest about the sneaky ways a dysregulated nervous system can become addicted to intensity —creating drama, urgency, and “problems” where none exist… even when our wise adult knows bet...

This episode was inspired by a powerful conversation between Mel Robbins and Terry Real , whose work has deeply shaped how we understand relationships, conflict, and repair. We took their brilliant insights and pulled them apart through our own lived experience — sharing real examples, honest reflections, and what this work actually looks like inside long-term relationships. From the pull of the a...

Reasonable Is Just Fear in a Nice Outfit In this episode of Grit & Grace , Pam Rader and Erin Payne dive into a conversation many of us didn’t realize we needed— the hidden cost of being “reasonable.” You know the pendulum: On one end, emotional chaos and oversharing. On the other, being so calm, regulated, and “mature” that you quietly disappear. Somewhere along the way, emotional regulation...

As the year comes to a close and Christmas approaches, Pam Rader and Erin Payne invite you into an honest, compassionate conversation about forgiveness—not as a moral obligation, but as a pathway to freedom, peace, and reclaimed energy . This episode is for anyone who has had a hard year —marked by endings, grief, disappointment, or emotional exhaustion—and is ready to stop carrying the weight of...

What if sadness, anger, doubt, and anxiety weren’t problems to fix—but teachers inviting us into deeper truth? In this honest and timely conversation, Pam Rader and Erin Payne explore why our culture’s obsession with “being happy” often disconnects us from our humanity—and how so-called undesirable emotions can actually become portals for healing, clarity, and personal power. As the holidays appro...

In this rich and deeply human conversation, Pam and Erin sit down with Dr. Rebecca Reid —family physician, embodiment coach, and wise guide in the realms of healing, attachment, spirituality, and conscious relationship. Together, they explore what it truly takes to grow, to listen inwardly, and to show up for relationships as places of transformation. This episode goes far beyond theory. It’s a he...

Big life shifts come with a thousand “firsts”—first holiday alone, first mortgage in your own name, first week without the kids, first date after years, first time setting a real boundary. In this raw, hopeful conversation, Pam and Erin unpack the messy middle of change and how to meet it with self-compassion, sovereignty, and a dash of courage. We explore: Expanding capacity when life suddenly do...

This week on Grit & Grace , the Cowboy rides in. Pam sits down with Brian for a straight-talk conversation about masculine and feminine energy—minus the jargon and the rented Lamborghinis. What starts as a discussion about polarity quickly turns into something much more honest: how men and women can actually understand each other, communicate better, and meet in authenticity instead of blame....

Pam and Erin get real about “invisible contracts”—the unconscious promises we made (often as kids or in intense moments) to keep ourselves safe… that now keep us small. From “I’ll never need anyone” to “If I’m chosen, I’m worthy,” they unpack how these agreements live in the body, show up in relationships, and how to renegotiate them with awareness, compassion, and new action. Expect nervous-syste...

If you can’t look back and cringe… are you even growing? In this light-hearted (but real) conversation, Pam and Erin open their “outtakes” folder—dating while high on accident, parenting meltdowns in Costco, telling an Italian mother-in-law her pasta feedback should be “nice,” and more—to show how naming our messes dissolves shame. We unpack why shame is so sticky (comparison, perfection, validati...