God Attachment Healing

Send Me Questions on Attachment For my 50th episode, I decided to do an episode on answering questions about shame in relationships. This is an important topic, because I think most couples have something that they have experienced in their past which can be shameful to share in a relationship.  It can also breed fear, because if you share this experience from you past, you essentially place the b...

Send Me Questions on Attachment The Bible warns us about "wolves in sheep's clothing" and one of the most evident ways in which we see them at work is when they prey on women in the church. They find ways to integrate themselves into the functions of the church by being charismatic, ideas-filled, enthusiastic, and articulate speakers. For some, they may not see this as a problem, bu...

Send Me Questions on Attachment Christians love reading the Psalms! It brings us peace, comfort, truth, and joy. But, it also brings to the forefront the various emotions of everyday life: sadness, depression, anxiety, anger, and fear. The Psalms teach us much about how God interacts with us through the difficulties and tribulations of everyday life.  On today's episode, Dr. Gary Yates addres...

Send Me Questions on Attachment First of all, let me say that my guest, Patrick Hubbard, and I love the church. The church is the Bride of Christ and as Christians, we must learn to love her more and more as the day of Christ draws near when He will return for his Bride.  That being said, we also know that Christians who go to church have also caused a lot of pain for our own brothers and sisters...

Send Me Questions on Attachment Deconstruction has been a word we have been hearing more and more in Christians circles, and it is something that I both am empathetic towards but also very concerned for how common its become. Though a stage of questioning one's faith is expected in the life of a Christian, it seems that it has made many today turn away from their long-held beliefs than helpin...

Send Me Questions on Attachment Emotions. They're difficult to talk about, and even more difficult when you grew up in an environment where you were told to suppress them. Intimacy is even more difficult because in order to develop it, you have to be able to identify and regulate what you feel to communicate with others at a deeper level. This ultimately has an impact on how deep our relation...

Send Me Questions on Attachment Can your testimony to those around you be an idol in your life? Do you feel like God has been punishing you for past sins? Do you feel like you shouldn't be discipling others because you're not yet "perfect"? Do you feel shame when you have to meet with the person who is discipling you or keeping you accountable?  Then, this episode is for you!...

Send Me Questions on Attachment One of the most difficult discussions to have within the church has to be the issues surrounding spiritual, emotional, mental, and sexual abuse. So much damage and pain has been done by pastors and leaders who have not learned how to exercise godly authority over the flock they are supposed to protect and lead.  This is part 2 of a series where I am covering differe...

Send Me Questions on Attachment One of the most difficult discussions to have within the church has to be the issues surrounding spiritual, emotional, and sexual abuse. So much damage and pain has been done by pastors and leaders who have not learned how to exercise godly authority over the flock they are supposed to protect and lead. This is going to be part 1 of a series where I will be covering...

Send Me Questions on Attachment To understand the origin of sin is to understand the origin of shame. As we see in the garden of Eden, when Adam and Eve ate of the fruit that they were prohibited from eating, their eyes "were opened, and they knew that they were naked." This led them to "hide" themselves from God's presence when they heard Him walking in the garden."...

Send Me Questions on Attachment Christians who have been hurt, disregarded, or forgotten by the church can often conclude that going to church is no longer important, but in this episode, we hope to remind all believers that the body of Christ is essential for our walk with Christ. It is nearly impossible to mature without being able to confess our sins to one another, serve one another, be encour...

Send Me Questions on Attachment Are you a parent struggling with managing your child's anger? How about your own anger? Are you someone who wants to understand how your anger was affected by your upbringing? This is an episode you won't want to miss. Tune in today to see how parenting affects one's ability to manage and regulate their anger and overall emotions. We discuss: -Erin Wi...

Send Me Questions on Attachment How to Untangle the Complexities of Child-on-Child Abuse in the Context of the Church This is a very difficult topic, but a necessary one to protect our families and churches. Sexual abuse in the church has taken many forms, but the complexities grow even greater when children are involved. There are psychological, medical, legal, and spiritual concerns at play, and...

Send Me Questions on Attachment When you think about the church, you usually don't think about Christians shaming other Christians, right? Or, maybe you do?  This has definitely been the case when it comes to the church's involvement in social justice issues. Progressive Christians have strongly criticized and shamed conservative Christians for not being involved, while the concern that...

Send Me Questions on Attachment When it comes to counseling, minority communities face some interesting and dynamic challenges, much of which has to do with messaging that is received from family, culture, social media, and even political sources. It also doesn't help that there is a strong stigma attached to seeking help through counseling.  In this episode, John and I discuss: - what challe...

Send Me Questions on Attachment Dating has changed quite a bit since the early to late 2000s. In my counseling experience, there is no greater complaint I receive from Christian women about dating than when it comes to understanding whether or not they are actually in a relationship. The stages are so blurred nowadays that no one really knows how to proceed or how to define the relationship.  Dati...

Send Me Questions on Attachment It's really amazing to see how much of our childhood experiences with our parents shape how we view God when we become adults.  If our parents were uninvolved, harsh, or absent, then we will tend to see God the same way. If our parents were involved, loving, and present, then we can make an easy transition to seeing God be the same way.  The key to understandin...

Send Me Questions on Attachment Fear. It was the first emotion experienced after Adam and Eve sinned against God, and it is also the strongest emotion we experience in everyday life, though at different levels. Consequently, it has also significantly impacted how we understand ourselves in relationships. Fear stems from shame as we see in Genesis 3. And the fear that Adam and Eve experienced is th...

Send Me Questions on Attachment PORN....again!?! Yep, we're talking about it again this week, because this is an issue that has affected many marriages and families. Our hope with this episode is to bring clarity and wisdom in knowing how to biblically deal with this issue. The feelings are the same (betrayal, not being "good enough", anger, resentment, disillusionment, unworthiness...

Send Me Questions on Attachment PORN. Just seeing the word can trigger a lot of emotions.  For women, it can often spark feelings of betrayal, "not being good enough", anger, resentment, and disillusionment. For men, it can often stir feelings of unworthiness, loneliness, desperation, and of course, shame.  Pornography use has continued to increase with each passing year, and it has nega...

Send Me Questions on Attachment Many books and works of literature have themes and storylines that address culturally-relevant issues surrounding relationships, shame, and fear, and Dr. Prior makes many of those connections for us in today's discussion.  In today's episode, Dr. Prior and I discuss: how literature has elements of shame components,  class discussion on cultural issues,  th...

Send Me Questions on Attachment It's been said that leaders often travel alone due to feeling misunderstood, and this is especially true when it comes to ministry. Along with the feelings of loneliness and being misunderstood, there are moments where a pastor or leader may feel shame and fears in leading their teams.  It is in those times when one can exercise faith and know that "even i...

Send Me Questions on Attachment I hate hearing when abuse happens in the church. The reason for that is because those sins are not reflective of the bride of Christ that is described in the Bible, and every time the church fails in this, it makes Christians appear as though they don't take it seriously. Though there are various other forms in which abuse can take place, sexual and spiritual a...

Send Me Questions on Attachment Shame is such a powerful emotion, and it is seen everywhere, even in places where you would least expect it--the church. People who shame others are often experiencing shame themselves, and when you have a large group of hurt people, then you're likely going to see them hurt others as well.     In today's episode, Pastor Rob and I discuss: what shame is, h...

Send Me Questions on Attachment The topic of race is such a sensitive topic to discuss in almost any circumstance, but when you have a solid foundation of trust between the two individuals who are discussing it, it actually makes for an honest and productive conversation.  In today's episode, we discuss the following: how the black community experiences racism,  how culture affects how we tal...