Go With God

An opportunity may be good, but that doesn't mean it's right. As we get older, more doors swing open. New relationships, job opportunities, big moves - pivotal points hinge on our ability to discern direction. And, I'll be honest, sometimes my compass is off. In this episode, I'll share the moments I had to change direction after not-great decisions and the questions I now ask myself before walkin...

Over the past year, so many of my conversations have circled back around to one topic: Calling. How do you zero in on your purpose and what does it look like to actually live within that purpose? Something about the end of the year stirs all of those questions because deep down, we're a little scared we're missing it. Or that it's somehow passed us by. All I can do is what we aim to do every week...

Listen, the turns this episode takes...I could barely keep up. Two of my very favorite people, twin sisters Brooke and Brittany, unpack past and current Christmas traditions, and well, just a whole lot more. Skincare, shutting down unsolicited advice, navigating Santa + Jesus with your kids and how in the world do you combine and eliminate traditions once you get married. Grab your cocoa and Rudol...

I get it, that word - grief - is like a red flag to keep scrolling. Why would you voluntarily push play on an emotion we spend much of our time trying to avoid? But that's the exact reason why you should push play. Grief is the greatest emotion no one tells us about...because no one wants to talk about it. Makes sense. Until you find yourself trying to navigate the loss of a person, relationship,...

A few episodes ago, in For When You Feel Buried, we talked about how to keep doing what you know to do when you don't really feel like doing anything at all. Consider this a follow-up of sorts. These are lessons gleaned from a year I didn't really want to walk through. A year I wanted an escape route out of. These are lessons from letting go.

If you're new to No One Told Me, let me explain. Our Did Anyone Tell You episodes are a break from the norm, meant to give you all you need in any small-talk-required situation. NOTM friends, Kaley and Khari, jump in this time around to share their personal Halloween experiences...that will most likely surprise you. Take a breath, laugh a little and have the happiest of Halloweens.

You know what I'm ready for? What I'm doing my very best to build? A soft life. I'm tired of this life lived trying to prove something, you know? Because it never ends. There's always some new finish line to get to, and as I get older - I want less focus on where I'm finishing in the race and more focus on how I'm running it. The soft life is in not trying to live a life being who anyone else want...

Today we're rolling with my new friend, Stephanie May Wilson. She's an author, podcast host, coach and all around encourager - that's my kind of people. So, I think she's your kind of people too. We spend the next half hour talking about how much we want to back out of commitment when the time comes to execute on the commitment, how we hype ourselves up in really hard seasons, how to walk with oth...

Community is just...hard. Whether you’re rolling into a new chapter in life with a new job or a new city, new husband, new baby - these big life shifts create big emotional and mental shifts and really all you want is for someone to be like, “Yeah, I get it. Let’s walk through it together." We want to show up exactly how we are without having to perform or cover anything up. That’s the gold standa...

If you've ever found yourself shape shifting, becoming who someone else needs you to be, saying yes when you really want to say no... If you find yourself completely at a loss when someone asks, "What do you really want?" - you're in the best place to discover the best of you with our friend Dr Alison Cook.

If you, like me, feel a little buried in your season...by disappointment, expectations, uncertainty - push play. Let's be honest, push play even if you don't, because this is just one of those things that happens. And you'll be happy to know what to do when it does.

I didn't know. No one had ever told me how what starts with good intentions, can morph and grow into something you never meant for it to be.

Every now and again, you need a conversation the meanders. You know the kind? It starts at A, but ends up at Z without clear directives on how exactly we there. These Did Anyone Tell You episodes with NOTM Best Friends, Khari and Kaley, are full of the things you didn't know you wanted to know. Small tidbits of information that equip you to participate in the conversation around Jack Harlow's tran...

Bethny Ricks has over 18 years of leadership experience, most recently holding the position of Senior Vice President of Global Human Resources. Her ability to take that experience and equip those coming behind her has led to one of the most rich conversations I've had over the past three years of podcasting. These are the lessons I wish I'd leaned into sooner. The words I wish I'd thought to pay a...

Our mid-30's (first of all, how did we get here?!) - we are different than we were and in ten years, we'll be different than we are today. Looking back, what do we know now that we didn't then? What can we say with confidence and what are we still learning? College years to after college. Dating to marriage. Honeymoon to babies. NOTM favorite, Brooke, sits across from me at her kitchen table, comb...

Why do we feel like we have to explain ourselves? Why do we feel like we have to settle? What do we consistently lower our standards? And why do we buy into the narrative that we are, in fact, too much? What if...we didn't? My friend, Ainsley Britain, she's out to change the story. Addressing shame, self-worth and our ability to create - and keep - boundaries...she's not just changing the story, s...

We didn't know who we would be on the other side of a pandemic. How could we? Most of us are still trying to figure it out. But for all the loss we experienced over the past two years - what have we gained? A deeper understanding of who we are? Maybe, like my friend Emma, a better view of the role shame plays in your life and a decision to stop living as if you ever had control to begin with. Once...

Three years in, and these are still some of my favorite episodes. Khari & Kaley grab a mic and sit down to talk about the happenings of March...a week late. But, it still counts right? From the Oscars, to the forgotten/paused New Year Resolutions, to whether or not Millennials have already had their moment - we're checking off your "things to talk about when I don't know what to talk about" box.

It is difficult to know God’s ways if we are trying to make our own way.  When we push, pull and maneuver ourselves to a better view, the view we’ve decided we deserve, all we end up seeing is less than what we want.

Hey God, if what I’m walking in right now brings you the most glory…then this is where I want to be. Those are hard words to say. Especially when you feel like you’re walking through impossible circumstances. Especially when you’re in a season you don’t want to be on. A season you would’ve never picked for yourself. My friend Lauren, when she said those words a few weeks ago at The Collective, I j...

We wait for a feeling, a sign…a written letter addressed directly to us at “Please Tell Me What To Do, Apt 23”. We want to pray about it. We try to about it. But we wake up, or lay down…and our minds wander. The to-do lists, multiple texts, workload, laundry load…something is always in the wings, inching its way into our thoughts right when we bow our heads to address our Father. In steps Valerie....

Those seasons of life you don't know what to do with. The ones that aren't defined by anything specific, you're just on the way to the next specific thing. You know what I mean? These are the seasons we grab at, cling to, run toward anything that feels definitive. And usually? It just slides through our hands because it really was never meant to define us.

When all you want to do is throw it in reverse. When you're looking for a way out - any way out - of where you are right now. When the wilderness feels more like a punishment than a path to the promised land. What then?

Today, we continue our conversation with my friend, Brooke Phillips. She speaks from her pain points, sharing the kind of wisdom and clarity gained only from walking through suffering. And the greatest gift? She pours it back out into our seasons, our pain - pointing us toward what's on the other side: Hope.

We spend a lot of time thinking about, dreaming of, maybe writing down what we want our relationships to look like, BE like. And then we're in a relationship and we have to figure out - what of this really matters, and what is just a part of the deal? When you strip everything away - and in this case e v e r y t h i n g is stripped away - how do you rebuild? There's still hope. Because our God onl...