Go With God

I like the word yes way more than I like the word no. Saying no makes my stomach turn and my mind jumps about 10 steps ahead, ending in believing whoever I've just said no to has ex-communicated me from their lives as a whole. The word "boundary" sounds so final, doesn't it? It sounds like a punishment. But I'm getting older - and while the retinol is doing its best to delay those effects physical...

Let’s take a look back at the year with our friends Khari and Kaley in our last Did Anyone Tell You of 2019.

I don’t understand grief or loss. Pain that is triggered by a song, street, place as a memory you thought you’d stuffed down suddenly shoots to the front of your mind. I don’t think we’ll understand it in this life. But I know we’ll experience it. All of us. And something about the holidays stirs up those memories, subtlety forcing us to live what we just want to forget. I asked my friend Don Wils...

What lie are you believing? Do you know how to silence it? Do you know how to take Scripture and use it as a shield from the parts of the world aiming to devalue you? I love this conversation with Gretchen Saffles, creator of Well Watered Women. Here’s No One Told Me How To Stop Believing The Lies.

The story of the holiday season: We scroll and see the best and we feel like the worst. So this year, I’m laying down some boundaries. Some standards we Hollands are going to live by. Hopefully. Until I see someone with a well-placed ‘Welcome Santa’ on their front porch and demand we turn our front yard into a poor man’s Dollywood. But, until then, these are the things I will and will not do this...

We've lost the art of small talk. Our phones have robbed us of the ability to make idle conversation. So, today, we’re going to help with that. Whether it’s storing up information to keep the conversation going at the Thanksgiving dinner table or just having something to talk about at the copier..these Did Anyone Tell You episodes are here to give you some entertainment and some information you di...

Your burdens aren't yours alone to carry. Sometimes, we struggle to let loose of the control we're white knuckle gripping in our hands. But Jesus never wanted that for us. Here's No One Told Me I'm Not Alone.

Some people forget to eat and some people plan every single meal down to the mashed cauliflower with cheese substitute sprinkled on top. I’ve fallen in both categories. Our relationship with food, good or bad, runs over into much of our lives. But what if we stopped looking at food with the mindset of good or bad, healthy or unhealthy. Maybe this topic doesn’t necessarily strike a chord with you b...

Have you ever felt like you should definitely do something, made a huge decision, threw yourself into uncertainty because you knew it was the right thing...and then nothing? It didn’t immediately work out. Whatever your expectations were became distant dreams but you still knew it was the right thing. For Michael and Heather, that’s what their journey into international adoption has been. Lots of...

When I get to record some episodes, I feel almost like I need to write down every word that’s said because I want to remember it. This is one of those episodes. My friend, Heather, put a voice to a lot of the lessons I’ve learned, but need to be reminded of - and a whole lot more that I need to learn. Here’s No One Told Me How To Step Into A Calling.

Whether you’ve been to a wedding, have been in a wedding or you’re the reason the wedding is happening in the first place...this episode is the real deal when it comes to talking through the planning, the juggling and the real or imagined pressure you feel to dance to songs other than the Cupid Shuffle. We talked about it all in No One Told Me What Really Matters About Weddings.

Making decisions only seems to get harder as we get older. The pressures change but the emotions linger...fear and doubt. They give a steady rhythm to our decision making process...or maybe it can be more accurately called our decision-stalling process. How I walk into these seasons of my life has been completely changed by the insight Pastor Don has been pouring into my life over the past year. I...

Do you really need to know everything in this episode? That’s debatable. It’s a chance to take a breath, realize there’s room in your day to remember some things you’ve tried to forget - like my “I’m becoming an adult haircut” from my first year out of college - and admit you actually do have strong opinions about what should and should not have the word pumpkin on it. Coming up are just few thing...

In today's episode, we're going to go another round on hormones. Hormones impact us physically and emotionally and in ways I think many of us don't even realize. You'll be surprised when you hear some of the causes of what we just deem as "crazy". Dr. Mariza Snyder is a hormone specialist with loads of information. This episode's goal is to give you a foundation in hormone health, to really learn...

My friend Lyndsey will be a mom for the first time late this fall and she has some questions. Those questions led to others she didn’t even know to ask. I pulled in my friend, Natalie, a trained labor/delivery nurse and mom of three. We’re just going to mom-splain a few things and pull back the curtain on this whole “I’m going to bring a human being into the world” thing. Here’s No One Told Me Abo...

In our longest and hardest seasons, we forget about the seasons we’ve already walked through that were tough...but worth it. We think, all of a sudden, goodness has run out for us. We are no longer worthy of or willing to wait for the better. We settle in. Settling keeps us from great. It leaves us in the land of just okay. Last year, Caroline jumped on an episode about being Friend Zoned and all...

Do you know how many children are waiting for homes in your city? The answer will surprise you. It surprised me. Foster care can feel intimidating, but my friend, Amy, and her daughter, Lexy, show us why a home matters.

We don’t have to live overwhelmed lives. Our environments feed our hearts and minds more than we realize. The good news? We can actually control a lot of it. No one told me I don’t have to be overwhelmed.

When we asked what topics to cover this summer, I was honestly surprised by the amount of people who asked about community. In high school and college, friendships generally come pretty easily, in the sense that you're continually around people in the same stage of life as you, mostly dealing with the same things you're dealing with. But then you get older and everything that was so easily lined u...

Here we are, spending too much money on our kid's lunch box so it has their name on it and trying to figure out if we actually have to buy everything on the teacher's supply list. If you're in college, you're trying to figure out if you really need the books for class, or if you should've read the assigned reading that, come on professors, you know we're not reading. To celebrate, or commiserate,...

Welcome to Season Two of No One Told Me!

So, today, we’re taking it back to the very basics with one person who has helped shape me, my beloved Mrs. Jacque, who talks about how three years of intentional gratitude has changed her life. And another person joins us who is reminding me of the incredible seasons of growth you experience in your 20’s. My friend Sam shares about finding your people when you’ve never had to seek out community b...

On the majority of the episodes up to this point, I’ve had a vague notion of the subject. Nutrition, anxiety, mom-ing - I knew just enough to be a somewhat meaningful part of the conversation. But not now. You’ll hear the phrases “I didn’t even realize that” and “I have never thought of that” a lot of times. My friends Tom and Brooke walked a unique journey for years. They have taught me so much i...

The process of buying a house, finding a place to live your life, that’s stressful enough. But then you get through that process and you’re left with a house. A big, ideally empty, house. Then what? There’s so much space! So many walls! What goes where?! Our house sat like a blank canvas for several months before I knew I wanted it to be more inviting, more comfortable and a place of rest. So, I c...

An episode that will make you relevant at the Mother's Day brunch or your cousin's graduation. Enjoy!