Go Have Good Sex featuring The Christian Sexpert

Some of the best conversations happen when you ask the questions. In this Ask Me Anything episode, I tackle four honest questions that many Christians are asking but few feel comfortable saying out loud. What do you do when purity culture left you without the words to tell your spouse what you want in the bedroom? How do you reconnect after having a baby when exhaustion, different schedules, and a...

We spend a lot of time teaching kids about sex, boundaries, and dating. But how often do we intentionally teach them how to build a healthy relationship? In this episode, Angela sits down with licensed therapist and relationship coach Ruby Falk to discuss the relationship skills every child should learn long before they enter a romantic relationship. Together they explore what it means to maintain...

If you've ever wanted sex in theory but couldn't seem to get yourself interested in the moment, this episode may explain why. For years, conversations about desire have focused on libido, hormones, and responsive desire. But what if the problem isn't a lack of desire at all? What if the real issue is executive functioning? In this episode, I sit down with clinical sexologist, AASECT-ce...

Anxiety doesn't stay in your head—it follows you into your relationships, your marriage, and yes, your bedroom. In this episode, I sit down with licensed psychologist Dr. Karianne Bilsky to talk about the often-overlooked connection between anxiety and intimacy. Together, we unpack how anxiety affects desire, arousal, connection, and your ability to be present during sex. We discuss why "...

Disclaimer: Nothing in this episode is intended to be medical advice. Please take any information your learn in this episode to a discussion with your own personal doctor. Trigger warnings for discussion of depression and suicide.  Depression doesn’t just impact your mood. It impacts your body, your nervous system, your relationships, your energy, your intimacy, and sometimes even your ability to...

What happens to women’s sexuality as they age? Because contrary to what culture — and honestly, a lot of the church — would have us believe, women do not magically stop being sexual beings after 60. In this episode, I’m joined again by Ashley Odom Rodrigues to talk about her dissertation research interviewing women over the age of 60 about their sex lives, relationships, bodies, identity, and agin...

What happens to intimacy after birth when everyone is exhausted, touched out, overwhelmed, and trying to survive on broken sleep and cold coffee? In this episode, I’m joined by postpartum doula and educator Danielle Bruner for a conversation that every married couple needs to hear before the baby arrives — not after the damage is already done. We talk about why so many couples feel disconnected du...

Most women were never actually taught how their bodies work—we were just told to deal with them. Push through the exhaustion. Ignore the mood swings. Feel confused when your desire changes. And maybe blame yourself when your body doesn’t respond the same way every day. But what if nothing is wrong with you? In this episode, I’m joined by traditional midwife Lauren Hall to break down the four phase...

If purity culture was supposed to lead to healthy, fulfilling sex in marriage… why are so many couples still struggling? In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers to unpack the real impact of purity culture—where it came from, how it spread far beyond the Church, and why so many of us are still carrying its messages into our marriages today. We talk about: • How purity culture moved...

So… let’s talk about toys. For a lot of Christian couples, this conversation comes with immediate tension: Is this okay? Is this sinful? Are we crossing a line? In this episode, I break it all the way down—without shame, fear tactics, or vague “just pray about it” answers. We’re diving into: What the Bible actually says (and doesn’t say) about bringing outside tools into your intimate life Why dra...

You think she doesn’t want sex. But what if that’s not actually the problem? In this episode, we’re unpacking what I really mean when I say, “Healthy women, in safe marriages, don’t turn down good sex.” Because “healthy” is doing a lot more work in that sentence than most people realize. We’re talking about the real, often ignored factors that impact desire—mental health, trauma (including purity...

A lot of men think their marriage is safe because they’re a “good guy.” They don’t cheat. They don’t yell. They don’t hit her. So why doesn’t she want sex? In this episode, we’re breaking down what a safe marriage actually means—and why the absence of harm is not the same thing as the presence of safety. Because if a woman doesn’t feel emotionally, relationally, and sexually safe, her desire isn’t...

If you don’t talk to your kids about sex… someone else will. And chances are, they’re not going to do it with your values. In this episode, I’m joined by Kristen Miele, founder of Sex Ed Reclaimed, to talk about how to raise sexually healthy kids without shame, fear, or awkward one-time “talks" - all from a Biblical world view, but without the shame and guilt of purity culture. We’re covering...

What if the things you were taught about sex in church… are the very things making it harder to enjoy it in your marriage? In Part 2 of this series, we’re tackling three more damaging myths that quietly shape expectations, fuel shame, and leave couples feeling disconnected: That sex is only for procreation That having more sex will magically fix your marriage That struggling with sex means somethi...

Trying for a baby can put a spotlight on every part of your marriage—especially your sex life. What once felt spontaneous, playful, and connecting can quickly become scheduled, stressful, and painfully outcome-focused. And when month after month doesn’t go the way you hoped, sex can start to feel more like pressure than pleasure. In this episode, Kimberly Koll, LPC/LMHC discusses the realities of...

What if some of your core beliefs about sex in Christian marriage simply aren't true? For YEARS evangelical culture has repeated the same messages about men, women, and desire: Men are the only visually stimulated creatures. Men "need" sex constantly. And women are supposed to just tolerate it. But when you look at scientific research, Scripture, and real life, those myths start to fall apart. In...

Role play isn’t about pretending you’re someone else—it’s about giving your marriage permission to explore, play, and reconnect. In this episode, I explore why role play can be a powerful tool for married couples. From flirty scenarios to power dynamics like doctor/patient, role play allows couples to safely explore curiosity, communication, and desire inside the safety of marriage. As adults, we...

When it comes to sex, there's a lot of talk about "spicing things up." But what if you don't need another date night, a weekend away, a new toy, or more lingerie? What if all you need is more play? In this episode we are diving deep into the sort of ideas that originally made me go viral: Simple, accessible ways to turn your bedroom into the playground of your marriage. These aren’t gimmicks. They...

We’ve been told that date night is the cure for everything. Disconnected? Date night. Not having sex? Date night. Feeling like roommates? Definitely date night. But what if date night isn’t the problem - and was never the solution? In this episode we're going to talk about why a once a month night out isn't intimacy - it's performance, and performance doesn't build connection and never builds safe...

When did your marriage start feeling like a to-do list? Laundry. Logistics. Parenting. Work. Bills. Repeat. (And WHY do these people need to eat every single day!?) Somewhere along the way, creativity quietly packed its bags — and without it, intimacy starts to feel like just another obligation. In this episode, we’re talking about why creativity isn’t childish… it’s foundational. We unpack how co...

In this episode I chat with Nicole Lee, LMFT to unpack what’s actually happening when social media, online gaming, or constant scrolling starts to feel like emotional distance inside a relationship. Drawing from Nicole’s doctoral research, this conversation explores how perceived partner escapism —not just screen time—can significantly impact relationship satisfaction. Her study found that when on...

Talking about sex shouldn't feel scarier than the act itself - but for many couples, it does. In this solo episode, I explore why sexual communication feels so difficult for so many married couples, especially those shaped by silence, shame, or “don’t ask, don’t tell” messages around intimacy. If you love your spouse but freeze, fight, or shut down when sex comes up, this episode is for you. Y...

When a woman consistently avoids sex in marriage, she is accused of rebellion, sin, manipulation, or blamed for all manner of things. In this episode, I unpack one of the foundations of my work: Healthy women, in safe marriages, don't turn down good sex for no reason. Rather than placing blame, or spiritualizing obligation, let's frame sex avoidance as what it really is: Information. Your...

When your hormones shift, it’s easy to feel like your body is betraying you—but what if God designed midlife as an invitation, not a punishment? In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Tanya Paynter , a Naturopathic Doctor and founder of Psalm Medical, who blends faith and functional medicine to help women experience true whole-person healing. Together, we’re unpacking how menopause and perimenopause a...

Have you ever felt emotionally attached to someone you weren’t actually in a relationship with? Or caught yourself romanticizing a past connection—while feeling dissatisfied in your current one? In this episode, Angela sits down with journalist and author Amanda McCracken to talk about limerence —an intense state of longing that can masquerade as love, but often thrives on fantasy, distance, and e...