Gist with Tofu

A heartfelt return to what matters most: connection, storytelling, and the simple magic of shared moments. When life pulls you away, the memory of late night radio in Lagos reminds you why you started. This episode is a nostalgic journey through the stories, songs, and moments that made us feel less alone, and how those experiences sparked a lifelong love for authentic, intimate conversations. We...

Valentine’s Day can be loud. And if you’ve ever looked in the mirror and felt like your body was the reason love hasn’t found you yet… this episode is for you. We’re talking body dysmorphia, desire, being wanted but not valued, and the quiet fear of being fully seen. Why do compliments feel suspicious? Why do we accept crumbs? And why does February 14th amplify every insecurity? This is a soft, ho...

We’re back 😊 and we’re starting the year easy, no pressure, no stress, just real life and good energy. In this episode I’m talking about the little things that have been carrying me lately. Quiet moments, random comfort, music that feels like a hug, ordinary days that are actually doing more for us than we think. Nothing heavy, just a cozy conversation you can listen to while you’re doing your th...

Sukanmi and Ini dynamic from Phases and using it as a starting point to talk about the times we let people who don’t really want us have too much power in our lives. Why do we stay? Why do we bend? Why is confusion sometimes more familiar than clarity? I also react to some of your messages: the gym guy who’s doing too much, the fiancé who makes decisions alone, the girl whose friends are somehow,...

Ever felt like everyone else is doing better than you? Or like you’re stuck in the same spot, just trying to figure life out? This episode is for you. 💛 In this honest and heartfelt conversation, I talk about comparison, jealousy, feeling stuck, and learning to trust your own timing. From navigating life changes to finding my footing in a new country, I’m sharing real experiences, gentle reminder...

The conversation explores the dynamics between friendships and romantic relationships, particularly focusing on the boundaries that should exist between friends and partners. It discusses the potential insecurities that arise when friends become too close to a partner and the importance of maintaining healthy boundaries.

In this engaging podcast episode, Tofunmi and Harriet discuss the complexities of friendships, particularly in the context of moving to a new country. They explore themes of loneliness, the challenges of making new friends, and the importance of recognizing toxic relationships. The conversation delves into the emotional dynamics of friendships, including the impact of celebrating wins and the feel...

We finally decided to join them on the white and red app. The podcast handy really been doing well and we decided on what better way to save it than to start video podcasting. Go check out gist with tofu on YouTube Link below: https://youtu.be/roO0OgKxq1A?si=Di4rn2ks_k_dEp3w

2015 to 2019 was a golden era in Nigerian music, no arguments. From Mr Eazi’s Banku vibes to Runtown’s Mad Over You, Maleek Berry’s endless jams, Nonso Amadi’s soft hits, and the rise of the alte scene with SDC, Lady Donli, Odunsi, and more… every day in that period felt like summer. In this episode, I take you back to the songs that raised us, the soundtracks to our teenage years, and why that er...

That Place in Surulere A memory, a song, a quiet street in Surulere. This episode is a nostalgic stroll through a place that once held laughter, music, and the soft ache of growing up. Pour a glass of wine, press play, and let The Cavemen hum in the background as we talk about lost places, who we used to be, and the cities that remember us even when we forget ourselves. Best enjoyed on a rainy day...

Who got her pregnant? A goat? A ghost? Abi wind blew and baby appeared? In this episode, I’m calmly unpacking society’s obsession with blaming single mothers, while the men who got them pregnant magically vanish from the conversation. We talk about accountability, respectability politics, parental responsibility, and why this blame game is tired. If it stings, maybe it’s meant to.

In this episode, Tofu breaks down the chaos that happens when people jump into relationships before healing from past trauma. From projecting insecurities to turning partners into unpaid therapists, we get into the gists, the drama, and the necessary self-awareness. If your idea of a relationship is “I can change them,” or “they complete me,” you definitely need to listen to this one. Therapy isn’...

Have you ever paused mid-rant and asked yourself, “Wait… what if I’m actually the toxic one?” In this episode of Gist with Tofu, i get real about accountability, exes, and the kind of growth that only comes after messy lessons. It’s honest. It’s funny. It might sting a little. But it’s the gist you didn’t know you needed. New episodes every week, follow so you don’t miss a thing.

In this episode, we’re keeping it real (and hilarious) about the soft life some people are born into — and the hustle many of us are still deep inside. From jumping buses in Lagos to dreaming of spontaneous trips to Marrakesh, I’m sharing personal stories, struggles, and why I’ve vowed that my children must be trust fund kids by the grace of God. But beyond the laughs, there’s a lesson: don’t hate...

As we get older, friendships can slip through the cracks of our busy lives. In this episode of Gist with Tofu, we’re talking about those distant friends—the ones who used to be at the table but slowly faded into the background. From the simple joy of gathering around for a meal to the quiet, unspoken distance that can grow between even the closest of friends, this episode is a reflection on how we...

Bills, responsibilities, traffic, and somehow still trying to be a responsible adult—why is nobody talking about how hard this thing is? In this episode, I’m breaking down the struggles of adulting, from the constant debit alerts to trying (and sometimes failing) to balance faith, friendships, and just keeping it together. But don’t worry, we’re not here to cry—this is a fun, lighthearted, and fai...

Friendship is meant to be a two-way street, but what happens when you’re always the one listening, supporting, and carrying the weight of someone else’s emotions—while they barely check in on you? In this episode of Gist with Tofu, we’re diving into the tricky dynamics of one-sided friendships and emotional dumping. Are you being a good friend, or are you just a free therapist? How do you set boun...

If overthinking was a sport, I’d be a world champion—gold medalist, undefeated, back-to-back winner! In this episode, I’m finally tackling the thing that has been holding me hostage: overthinking. From stressing over what content to post (even when I have plenty stacked up) to turning simple decisions into full-blown projects, I’m exposing all the ridiculous ways our brains like to do extra. Why d...

Why do we do this thing where we just ‘manage’? Manage relationships that drain us, manage jobs we hate, manage friendships that don’t pour into us? Even small things—why are we buying clothes we don’t like just because ‘it’s on sale’? It’s giving struggle, and honestly, we deserve better.” “In this episode, we’re having a real, funny, and eye-opening conversation about settling—why we do it, how...

Big changes, big feelings. In this episode, I’m sharing the highs and lows of my recent move from Nigeria to Canada—what it’s teaching me about growth, faith, and adapting to the unexpected. If you’re navigating a new chapter in life, this one’s for you. Let’s gist! Background music: String of pearls by Alex Isley Drop a comment and follow us on instagram @gistwithtofu and also click the link in o...

In this debut episode of the Young & Thriving series, we sit down with Olusegun Dele Ajegunle, a dynamic IT professional and an accomplished photographer. Segun shares his inspiring journey of navigating two demanding career paths while staying true to his passions. We dive deep into the realities of balancing creative dreams with corporate expectations, overcoming rejection, and finding purpose i...

In today’s episode of Gist with Tofu, we’re diving into a topic that touches every one of us: understanding our self-worth through the lens of God’s love. With so many pressures around us, it’s easy to feel like we don’t measure up. But what if our worth wasn’t based on achievements, looks, or the opinions of others? Join me as we explore what it means to see ourselves as God sees us fearfully and...

In this episode of Gist with Tofu, we explore the intense pressure to “blow” in Lagos’ fast-paced hustle culture. From social media flexing to real-life burnout, I dive into the emotional toll of chasing success and how to stay grounded. Tune in for tips on balancing ambition with self-care and keeping your peace while still pursuing your dreams. Don’t miss this real talk!

In this episode of *Gist with Tofu*, we dive deep into the real and often overwhelming experience of anxiety. From personal reflections to practical tips, I’ll share how anxiety shows up in our daily lives, the pressures we face, and ways to manage the stress that comes with it. Whether you’re feeling stuck, lost, or just need a reminder that you’re not alone, this episode offers a safe space to e...

This is a comeback episode talking about reflecting on life. Please leave a message in the comment to share any experience or story. We will talk about it in the next episode My Instagram handle: Phe_bian The podcast ig: gistwithtofu