Gilmore & Green: Where Healing and Hope Meet

Check out our website for more resources! www.gilmoreandgreen.com Do you hate unexpected change? Even positive life events—like a new job, a move, or a graduation—can leave us feeling destabilized, grieving, and anxious. In this episode of Gilmore & Green, Dr. Debi Gilmore and Sharilyn Green dive into the deep emotional undercurrents of life transitions. They explore how change touches our fun...

What does it mean to support a loved one suffering from mental illness or addiction without losing yourself in the process? If you are quietly carrying the heavy burden of caring for someone in deep struggle, this episode is designed to be a gentle place to land. Today, Dr. Debi Gilmore and Sharilyn Green focus entirely on you—the caregiver, the parent, the spouse, or the friend. They tenderly exp...

Navigating modern dating for marriage? In Part 2, Sharilyn and Debi explore the psychology of dating, attachment styles, vulnerability, and how to build a healthy, lasting relationship in the era of dating apps. Welcome back to Part Two of our deep dive into the modern dating landscape. While Part One validated the objective difficulties of dating today—from dating app fatigue to delayed marriage...

Episode Overview Dating today looks vastly different than it did just a few decades ago, and if you are feeling overwhelmed by the modern dating landscape, you are not alone. In Part 1 of this two-part series, Sharilyn and Debi unpack exactly why finding a spouse feels so complicated right now. From the rise of dating apps and the "paradox of choice" to shifting cultural expectations and the bagga...

Are you struggling with feelings of jealousy in your relationships? While we all experience envy, understanding the psychological difference between envy and jealousy is vital for your mental health and emotional wellbeing. In this episode, licensed marriage and family therapists Dr. Debi Gilmore and Sharilyn Green explore the true roots of jealousy. Moving past the stigma of jealousy being "petty...

Many boys begin life emotionally open, expressive, and eager for connection, but somewhere along the way, they learn that their feelings aren’t welcome or safe to show. In this episode of Gilmore and Green, licensed marriage and family therapists Dr. Debi Gilmore and Sharilyn Green explore the quiet struggles adolescent boys and young men carry inside. Backed by attachment science and deep clinica...

It's Not About Us: The Power of Looking Outward Last week, we talked about the critical importance of saying "no" and protecting your peace when you are severely overwhelmed. But what do you do once you’ve established those boundaries and caught your breath? You look outward. In today’s episode, we explore the beautiful paradox of the human experience: sometimes the very thing that heals our own h...

Do you ever find yourself saying yes when you really mean no, only to walk away feeling resentful, overwhelmed, and exhausted? If you struggle with setting boundaries—even when you know you are running on empty—you are not alone. In this episode of Gilmore & Green, Dr. Debi Gilmore and Sharilyn Green share expert therapist advice on the heavy weight of people-pleasing and the incredible power...

You’re probably betraying yourself more often than you think! You stay quiet when you actually want to bring up a problem. You stay up late even though you promised yourself more sleep this time. You keep helping others even though you know you’re way too exhausted. Welcome back to Gilmore & Green! In this episode licensed marriage and family therapists, Dr. Debi Gilmore and Sharilyn Green, ex...

If your world feels like it's spinning and something unexpected has shaken your sense of safety, this episode is for you. In this episode of Gilmore & Green: Where Healing and Hope Meet, Sharilyn Green and Dr. Debi Gilmore discuss how to stay grounded when life throws you a change you didn’t sign up for. From relationship ruptures and health diagnoses to faith crises and financial strain, stor...

What does it really mean to be a peacemaker? Often, we mistake peacemaking for passivity, conflict avoidance, or shrinking ourselves to keep others comfortable. In this episode, Dr. Debi Gilmore and Sharilyn Green dismantle that myth. Through the lens of attachment theory, neuroscience, and spirituality, they discuss how true peacemaking is an active, courageous practice. It isn't about pretending...

Caring for an aging parent is a profound life transition that often brings a complex mix of fear, grief, exhaustion, and deep connection. In this tender episode of Gilmore and Green, we discuss with compassion and intention: caregiver burnout, the sandwich generation, assisted living transition, and navigating end of life care with your siblings for your aging parents. Key Takeaways The Sandwich G...

In this episode of Gilmore & Green, Dr. Debi Gilmore and Sharilyn Green shine a light on a group that is frequently overlooked in mental health conversations: women in their thirties. On the outside, these women often look capable, successful, and high-achieving. But on the inside, many are quietly overwhelmed, stretched thin, and navigating one of the most psychologically demanding seasons of...

Do you feel like rest is something you have to "earn"? Many of us carry an internal script that says we can only take care of ourselves once everyone else is happy. In this episode, Debi and Sharilyn reframe self-care from a luxury or a "reward" into a stewardship—a vital responsibility to maintain the bodies and spirits we’ve been given. The Blocks: Why is it so hard? Even when we know self-care...

What happens when your once-close daughter suddenly becomes a stranger? If you’re navigating the heartache of teen anxiety, mood swings, or a daughter who has stopped sharing her world, you are not alone. Join therapists Dr. Debi Gilmore and Sharilyn Green as they dive deep into adolescent development to explain the "brain renovation" happening in teen girls. Learn how to navigate these developmen...

In this episode of Mindful Moments: Insights to Empower the Soul, Sharilyn Green and Dr. Debi Gilmore dive deep into the often-misunderstood world of self-compassion. Many of us operate under the belief that being a harsh critic is the only way to stay accountable. However, Debi and Sharilyn challenge this narrative, exploring how self-kindness actually builds the resilience and emotional safety n...

Ep 19 of Mindful Moments: Insights to Empower the Soul, soon to be Gilmore&Green Why do couples feel exhausted and resentful even when both are working hard? Today Gilmore and Green explore "Second Shift Couple’s Syndrome"—the phenomenon where one or both partners "clock out" of their professional job only to "clock in" to a mountain of household labor. Today we discuss how to move away from r...

Regret & Rumination: Shifting from Self-Punishment to Self-Compassion In this episode, licensed marriage and family therapists Dr. Debi Gilmore and Sharilyn Green dive deep into the heavy, often misunderstood emotion of regret. Rather than seeing it as a source of shame, they reframe regret as a powerful "alarm system" for our core values—a signal that helps us course-correct and live more aut...

In this episode of Mindful Moments: Insights to Empower the Soul, hosts Sharilyn Green and Dr. Debi GIlmore (experts in Emotionally Focused Therapy or EFT) dive deep into the mechanics of relationship conflict. They pull back the curtain on why we argue and reveal that the "content" of the fight is rarely the real problem—it’s the "dance" or the negative cycle we get stuck in. Whether you are a pu...

In this episode, marriage and family therapists Sharilyn Green and Dr. Debi Gilmore explore the essential journey of finding your voice in relationships. Drawing on attachment science and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), they discuss why many women feel that "silence is safer" and how to overcome the fear of speaking up. From historical barriers to modern mental health challenges, this conversat...

Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal: A Roadmap to Relationship Repair Can a relationship survive betrayal? In this episode, marriage and family therapists Dr. Debi Gilmore and Sharilyn Green debunk the myth that broken trust is the "death" of a relationship. They explore why rebuilding trust after infidelity or deception requires more than just a simple "I’m sorry"—it requires a new track record of co...

In Part 1, we talked about the shame we carry. Today, we’re talking about the shame we throw—often at the people we love most, thinking it's a shortcut to getting what we want. Today in Part 2 of our deep dive into Shame and Guilt, Sharilyn Green and Dr. Debi Gilmore explore the external side of the coin: Shaming others. We often use shame as a shortcut to express hurt or disappointment, but it al...

When you do something wrong, do you numb out your emotions? Do you beat yourself up? Or do you try to repair what's been broken? Are you feeling guilt or shame? While we often use these words interchangeably, Sharilyn Green and Dr. Debi Gilmore explain why separating them is the key to healthier relationships and a more resilient sense of self. In this episode, we break down the "Brick vs. Backpac...

Family Estrangement: Hope, Healing, and the Path to Reconnection When an adult child severs ties, the silence that follows can be deafening. On this episode of Mindful Moments: Insights to Empower the Soul, licensed marriage and family therapists Sharilyn Green and Dr. Debi Gilmore step into the "silent epidemic" of family estrangement. While the pain is profound, there is a path forward. This con...

What Makes a Great Friend? How to be one and how to find one Struggling with loneliness or wondering how to make friends as an adult? Join Dr. Debi Gilmore and Sharilyn Green as they discuss the life-saving power of friendship and share a practical guide to building healthy friendships for emotional wellbeing. Find our podcast on your favorite platform: https://tr.ee/BH7nQdpheW Key Discussion Poin...