Getting used to it, Midlife

Send us Fan Mail Suzee didn't know what Beth was going to ask her. That's what made it real. In this episode, Beth turns the mic on Suzee and goes deep — on what it actually felt like to grow up Korean American, caught between a traditional immigrant household and an American world that didn't quite fit either. The exhaustion of straddling two cultures, the love that looked like pre...

Send us Fan Mail Your partner watched you change — the heat, the fog, the mood, the dryness — and had no idea what was happening. But here's the uncomfortable part: neither did you, really. Not fully. Not at first. Suzee and Beth get into the strange reality that menopause is still something women are expected to announce — like it's news, like you scheduled it — to partners who grew up...

Send us Fan Mail The hardest part of losing family isn’t always the obvious grief. Sometimes it’s the identity shock: waking up to the fact that there’s no one left above you, no living witness who can say, “Here’s who you were,” or “That’s not how it happened.” Beth joins us for a candid, often darkly funny, deeply human talk about what it means to become the oldest woman in your family and how t...

Send us Fan Mail Female pleasure, women's anger, divorce — three things that were basically unspeakable when we were growing up. Nobody said don't talk about it. We just knew. This episode is about what it costs to swallow things that were always yours to feel. Thanks for tuning in to this episode of Getting Used To It! If you enjoyed today’s conversation, please consider subscribing, ra...

Send us Fan Mail "Not fair. I want that too." That's the first honest reaction we had reading Molly Roden Winter's writing about her open marriage — and it sent us somewhere way deeper than gossip. Because the real spark isn't who dates whom. It's the shock of watching someone actually pause , ask herself what she wanted, and make a conscious choice about her relation...

Send us Fan Mail Nobody in your house asked how you were doing today. Or yesterday. Sound familiar? In this episode, Beth and Suzee unpack why loving couples — especially men and women in midlife — still talk past each other. They dig into the "connect vs. report" communication gap, the secret relationship point system where one partner banks 40 points for a big trip while the other give...

Send us Fan Mail Nobody had a fight. Nobody did anything wrong. But somewhere in your 50s you looked up and realized the social life you thought you had was partly built on borrowed structure. The school run, the office, the neighborhood, the kids' activities. When the structure changed, the people went with it — and there's no ritual for that. No funeral, no casserole, nothing. Just a q...

Send us Fan Mail You love your partner. You've been together for decades. And lately... it's getting a little awkward. Not fighting. Not falling apart. Just... quiet in a way that's starting to feel like a question. This episode is for anyone who can see retirement on the horizon and is quietly wondering: are we going to be okay when the noise stops? Suzee and Beth get into what hap...

Send us Fan Mail Is your suitcase still packed with the ghost of travels past? It started as off-air banter about packing and turned into a full conversation about how travel changes in midlife. Suzee and Beth swap notes on ditched habits, capsule wardrobes, pre-trip routines, and the trips that brought them back to themselves — from Beth's 20-minute packing whirlwind to Suzee planning her re...

Send us Fan Mail The rules changed and no one handed us a new playbook. We sat down to compare what midlife really feels like in our bodies—what crept up, what hit like a freight train, and which fixes finally worked after the old standbys failed. If you’ve tried more walking, more Pilates, or a round of intermittent fasting and watched your middle thicken anyway, you’re not imagining it. Our phys...

Send us Fan Mail The year opens with a hot seat and a hard truth: loving your craft isn't enough when no one can find you. We pull back the curtain on Beth's midlife career crisis as a life coach whose former company folded, taking the client pipeline with it. Beth knows social media could help. But every time she tries to start, her brain floods with terror: What if I look stupid? What...

Send us Fan Mail What do you do when your parents aren't dying, but they're not really living either? And worse—what do you do with the guilty thought: when will this be over? Suzee's parents are in their 80s, healthy enough, but they've stopped doing anything. Just sitting. Watching YouTube. Existing. And watching it is surprisingly unbearable. But as Beth pushes, something ha...

Send us Fan Mail You know that feeling when your partner walks in stressed and your body knows before they even speak? That chest-tightening dread that feels like being pulled into a riptide? That's anxiety contagion—and it might be ruining your week. Suzee's husband spirals about money. Even though she does the budget and knows they're fine, his panic hijacks her. Two days of crisi...

Send us Fan Mail Your adult child is living at home. And instead of treating it like a failure, what if you designed it to actually work? In many cultures, kids stay home until marriage. In this economy, it's increasingly common. But we don't talk about HOW to make it work - the practical boundaries, the financial conversations, the design of a launch pad instead of a holding pattern. Su...

Send us Fan Mail We're revisiting this gem from Season 2 with a fresh perspective! Whether you missed it the first time or want a refresher, we're getting real about the 3 AM wake-ups and sharing what's genuinely made a difference for us.  If you're lying awake at 3 AM wondering why sleep suddenly got so complicated, you're not alone. We're right there with you. In th...

Send us Fan Mail This bonus episode was originally released in Season 2, but we felt it deserved another moment in the spotlight with you. Whether you missed it the first time or want a refresher, this episode reveals how deeply our body image and self-worth get entangled—and how to start separating them. We picked up Anuschka Rees' Beyond Beautiful thinking it was just another book about bod...

Send us Fan Mail Loneliness can sneak into the busiest years. We're exploring friendship in midlife—why connection feels harder now, what's really shifting, and how to build bonds that fit this season. We unpack the "friendship recession," trace how modern life rewires intimacy, and get practical: friendship is a skill, not a lightning strike. Learn simple moves like choosing a...

Send us Fan Mail Googling “what should I eat in midlife” at 2 AM? Suzee and Beth share their own diet detours, surprises, and laughs while figuring out what keeps them feeling strong, capable, and vibrant. Thanks for tuning in to this episode of Getting Used To It! If you enjoyed today’s conversation, please consider subscribing, rating, and leaving us a review—it helps others discover the show! W...

Send us Fan Mail "Cougar puberty"—aka perimenopause—has gone viral. Suzee and Beth share their own second-wave puberty stories with humor, honesty, and plenty of laughs about the midlife changes we’re all getting used to. Thanks for tuning in to this episode of Getting Used To It! If you enjoyed today’s conversation, please consider subscribing, rating, and leaving us a review—it helps o...

Send us Fan Mail Think your brain peaked at 25? Think again. Science says learning new stuff in midlife can actually make your brain act 30 years younger (Botox for your neurons, anyone?). In this episode, we dive into why midlife is prime time for picking up fresh skills, busting old “I’m bad at math” stories, and why Mahjong might just be the new pickleball. Thanks for tuning in to this episode...

Send us Fan Mail What happens when menopause meets culture? In this episode, we explore how midlife is understood—and misunderstood—across the globe. Some countries embrace it. Others hide it. And a few? They turn it into something sacred. From whispered taboos to public policy, herbal wisdom to spiritual awakening, we uncover surprising truths about how the world handles this universal transition...

Send us Fan Mail Ever felt like everyone else got the memo about their life's purpose except you? You're not alone. In this episode, we explore how purpose isn't something you find —it's something you create . We share how most of us don’t have a single, dramatic “aha” moment, but instead piece it together over time. Beth talks about how her natural pull toward building communi...

Send us Fan Mail Whether retirement feels distant or imminent for you, this episode offers a fresh perspective on crafting a post-work life filled with purpose, community, and joy. We explore the delicate balance between monk-like serenity and rock star adventures while acknowledging that proximity to family, weather preferences, and financial realities all shape our options. Join us as we reimagi...

Send us Fan Mail Two life coaches dive into the most devastating experiences they've faced as families, creating a powerful space for understanding grief, trauma, and healing. Suzee reveals the heart-wrenching journey through her teenage son's suicide attempt and subsequent hospitalization. She describes the surreal experience of having to surrender her child's care to professionals...

Send us Fan Mail Feeling stuck or deflated with your physical strength and fitness after 50? Join us as we explore the transformative journey of embracing wellness as we age. We tackle the mindset that keeps us immobilized and discusses practical strategies for making meaningful changes, whether minor tweaks or significant lifestyle shifts. Is it patience? Commitment to a plan? We’ll share stories...