Get Unruly

Send us Fan Mail This time of year, the pressure to be grateful is everywhere. But what if gratitude is being used to keep you small? In this episode, Kim Bolourtchi breaks open the false choice so many high-achievers are stuck in — that you can either be thankful for what you have or reach for something more. You’ll hear real stories of clients who stopped performing gratitude and started buildin...

Send us Fan Mail I’ll never forget standing backstage before one of my first big keynotes — mic on, ready to go, heart racing — when a single thought hit me: “What if they booked the wrong person?” That moment cracked something open. Because up until then, I had been obsessed with proving I belonged. I didn’t fully believe it — but I wanted everyone else to. This episode is about what happened nex...

Send us Fan Mail Kim Bolourtchi thought she’d built the perfect version of success—until one moment in the Missouri Supreme Court exposed the rule that had quietly been running her life: Be exactly who they expect you to be… and if you’re anything different than that, hide it.   In this first episode of Season 6: Get Unruly , Kim shares the real story behind her new book, Strategic Unruliness™ —an...

Send us Fan Mail 🔥 What if rejection could be your greatest advantage? In this powerful episode, host Kim Bolourtchi sits down with publicity powerhouse and “My Rejection Story” founder Alice Draper, who reveals how re-framing failure and daring to break the rules transformed her life. Discover the hidden stories behind big successes, why rule-breakers might just change the world, and practical s...

Send us Fan Mail I swore I was deathly allergic to cats — until I wasn’t. A week in Greece — and a few fearless kittens — made me realize how much of my life had been shaped by a story that was no longer true. This episode explores what happens when you outgrow your own limits and discover that changing your mind might be the most powerful leadership move of all. Because sometimes, the only thing...

Send us Fan Mail It started in an airport bathroom line. A kind gesture turned into a full-blown meltdown — and a masterclass in how people use “rules” to feel in control.  In this episode of Get Unruly , Kim Bolourtchi breaks down why people cling to rules, how they mistake predictability for morality, and why challenging those invisible limits is often the most human thing you can do.  You’ll he...

Send us Fan Mail Ever had an idea you believed in—until someone else’s doubt made you second-guess yourself?  | In this episode, Kim shares why waiting for approval can shrink your vision, how she learned to trust her own belief (even when it was hard), and the one question that can help you move forward without anyone else’s permission. Let’s talk about what happens when you stop outsourcing your...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Kim Bolourtchi gets real about the fear of failure as she launches her most personal project yet. You’ll see why shrinking to avoid failure is just a slow-motion collapse—and how flipping failure into feedback is the only way to set yourself free.  If you’re ready to stop buffering, go all in, and smash the rules holding you back, this one’s for you. Plus: your Un...

Send us Fan Mail In this powerful and thought-provoking episode, Kim Bolourtchi and Chris West dive deep into what it truly means to live authentically and put yourself first—even when it means going against social expectations or risking disappointment.  Through candid stories and practical wisdom, Chris reveals the secret to exceptional personal branding and the transformative benefits of radica...

Send us Fan Mail Tired of fear holding you back? Anne Bonney—professional change-maker and keynote speaker—is about to drop the most dangerous weapon in your personal development arsenal: a 5-second courage hack that will transform how you approach change forever. In this raw, hilarious conversation, Anne reveals how she went from a rebellious teenager sent to boarding school to a keynote speaker...

Send us Fan Mail It wasn’t actually about the coffee. It was about being real — and what happens when leaders stop performing and start actually connecting.  In this episode, I unpack the egg white moment that sparked 80,000+ views… and why it resonated so deeply. We’ll talk about the pressure to be polished, the power of sharing the unfiltered truth, and why being human is one of the most strateg...

Send us Fan Mail What happens when you drop the filter and say exactly what you're thinking?  In this explosive episode of Get Unruly, I reveal how a single post with an F-bomb turned into a viral sensation - not because of the swearing, but because of the raw, unfiltered truth.  Learn how breaking the rules can set you free, why playing it safe is killing your authenticity, and how one momen...

Send us Fan Mail You’re not broken. You’re not bored.  But something feels off — and it won’t go away.  You’re still showing up. Still performing. Still carrying the room.  But under the surface? There’s a quiet pull. A sense of… unsomething.   That pull? It’s not a problem.  It’s a signal.  And what happens next — the voice in your head that says: “Be realistic. Don’t ruin a good thing. Now’s not...

Send us Fan Mail She’s been on the mic with me before — but never quite like this. In this powerful return episode, I sit down with my daughter, Samantha, for a raw, unscripted conversation about something we’ve both lived: the pressure to shrink. To dim our light.  To tone it down.  To make ourselves smaller — so other people feel more comfortable. We talk about what that’s looked like in our liv...

Send us Fan Mail In this raw and electrifying episode, entrepreneur Frankie Russo reveals the counterintuitive secret to success: radical generosity.  After hitting rock bottom with addiction and rebuilding his life, Frankie discovered what he calls the "limitless drug" - helping others unconditionally. Learn how embracing failure, releasing ego, and serving without expectation can trans...

Send us Fan Mail In this raw, unfiltered episode, Kim Bolourtchi exposes the invisible rule that’s been keeping high-achievers stuck:  The lie that wanting more makes you ungrateful. Desire isn’t selfish — it’s sacred. And silencing it in the name of “being content” is the surest way to shrink your power. If you’ve ever felt a quiet whisper that this isn’t it — that there’s more for you — this is...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Janice Burt shares her inspiring journey from being a rule-following people pleaser to becoming strategically unruly.  She discusses the courage it took to break free from the prison of fear, including publishing a memoir that revealed family secrets, to competing in a body building competition, to running a marathon. Janice offers powerful insights on overcoming...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, host Kim Bolourtchi sits down with Chris Jordan, a former top podcast producer and content strategist for thought leaders. Chris shares his insights on why it's so important for everyone to uncover and share their impactful stories - even if they don't see themselves as natural storytellers. Chris explains how the most meaningful stories often come from...

Send us Fan Mail Get Unruly returns for a 5th Season with Cait Donovan, host of the top global podcast: "Fried, the Burnout Podcast." In this episode, Cait shares how she's harnessed resentment to uncover her true needs and boundaries, challenging societal expectations along the way. Discover Cait's unconventional approach to life and business decisions, and learn how to use yo...

Send us Fan Mail Do you tune out your significant other when you are tired? Do you wonder why your partner rarely seems to hear what you actually said?  Do you get SO frustrated that they have time for stupid cat videos but not a 5 minute conversation with you?  If you ever wonder why listening to each other is so  freaking difficult... this episode is for you. In this candid and often hilarious e...

Send us Fan Mail We are told to be authentic and confident, but to go ahead and "fake it til you make it" if needed. Although widely accepted and even catchy to say, "fake it til you make it" is actually terrible advice, undermining the very things it is supposed to help you achieve.  In this week's fiery episode, Kim and Ray hotly debate exactly why it is so damaging, and...

Send us Fan Mail With one month left until college graduation, senior Samantha Bolourtchi gets real about how she's feeling. In this vulnerable and honest conversation, Sam speaks truth about her college experience interrupted by the pandemic, and the ways it has shaped her.  Unrehearsed and barely edited, this is one of my favorite conversations to date.  Get Strategic Unruliness on Amazon C...

Send us Fan Mail 85% of us walk around feeling, at some point or another, like we can't show the world who we truly are. For a long time, I was part of that statistic, while in complete denial about the toll it was taking. The reason we feel the need to hide parts of ourselves, and the solution, are not what you think. Listen in as Kim and Ray get real, and talk candidly about imposter phenom...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever said something clearly- and had someone react in a way that leaves you baffled and confused?  You might have wondered just HOW they could be so clueless. You wouldn't be alone.  And.... it might not be a them issue at all.   In the humorous (and personal) premiere of Season 4 of Boldly Stated, Ray and I unpack miscommunication, at work and at home.  Listen in, a...

Send us Fan Mail According to an op ed this weekend, telling new graduates to seek "passion and purpose in their work" is the "worst advice" we can give them.  In 12 minutes, I attempt to shred every part of this ridiculous argument.  Listen in, and decide for yourself.  Get Strategic Unruliness on Amazon Curious what unwelcome rule is running your leadership? Take the 90 secon...