Get Out of Your Own Way with April Yee: And get what you want through transformative self-care

What if you're not actually getting in your own way? What if the parts of you that seem to hold you back are actually trying to protect you? In this episode, I talk with licensed marriage and family therapist Amber Masselot to explore Internal Family Systems (IFS), a powerful approach to self-awareness and healing. Amber shares how recognizing and working with our different “parts” can help us nav...

Does perfectionism keep you stuck, second-guessing yourself, or afraid to take action? In this episode, I talk with life coach Terri Hayes to explore how perfectionism shows up in our lives—through fear, an overactive inner critic, and suppressing emotions—and how we can break free. Terri shares her journey of shifting from self-judgment to self-acceptance, learning to process emotions instead of...

In this episode of Get Out of Your Own Way, I’m joined by Dr. Sweta Chawla, a Leadership Coach and Vocal Empowerment Facilitator, who shares her journey of breaking free from people-pleasing and discovering her authentic voice. Dr. Sweta opens up about how she followed a career path in pharmacy to fulfill her mother’s dream, only to realize later that it wasn’t aligned with her true passions. Thro...

In this episode of Get Out of Your Own Way, we’re joined by realtor and entrepreneur Jordan Golani, who shares how taking responsibility for our choices is the foundation for creating the life we truly want. Drawing on his experience in real estate, Jordan explains how self-discipline, delayed gratification, and daily commitment can lead to monumental personal growth.   From embracing the question...

Have you ever felt like perfectionism is both your superpower and your biggest obstacle? Sometimes our lives look “perfect” from the outside–we have a level of success in our career, we have the home, car, clothes, luxurious vacations, and we can buy what we want. But at what cost to us on the inside? In this episode, Ming Chen (Executive Leadership and Career Pivot Coach), shares how she got out...

We all want deeper, more authentic connections - but how do we create them? What if we viewed connection not as a matter of luck or circumstance, but an art that we can practice? In this episode, leadership coach and facilitator Dalglish Chew shares how he got out of his own way by embracing self-awareness, challenging the limiting beliefs he held about himself, and working with the mental and emo...

Do you think your life is out of control? Are other people’s opinions more important than your own? Do you feel powerless and that everything is happening TO you? In this episode, Jennifer Bulbrook shares how she got out of her own way by recognizing that she has power and agency in her life - just by choosing a different thought about her circumstances. In the past, she used to blame everyone and...

Are you tired of second-guessing yourself? Do you feel “imposter syndrome” sometimes? Does it feel easier to stay where you are, even if it doesn’t feel great, than to do the hard work of changing your life from the inside out? In this episode, Chris Johnson shares how he got out of his own way by recognizing that he is responsible for creating his life the way he wants. In the past, he used to lo...

Have you ever overstayed your time in a job, relationship, at an apartment, in an organization, or anywhere else? In this episode, Claire Baker shares how she got out of her own way by recognizing that she was gaslighting herself into staying in untenable work situations. She talks about how she decided on purpose to think about her circumstances in ways that motivated her and benefited her instea...

How do you learn to be your authentic self? In this chat with Coach Lee Hopkins, he talks about how he got in his own way in the past by contorting himself to fit into relationships so that people would like him. But he never asked himself if he liked those people in his life that he was trying so hard to please. He talks about being your authentic self in relationships and how to actually do that...

Do you know what your boundaries are? Do you have a hard time communicating what your boundaries are to others? How does setting boundaries benefit you and your relationships? In this episode, I talk about boundaries: what they are, how to set them, how to communicate them, how to maintain them, what gets in the way of setting boundaries, and how to overcome these obstacles.       Watch April live...

In this episode, I share the concepts of unconditional love and lovability. Do you know that love and loving never hurts? Loving is the opposite of hurt. When we think we can protect ourselves from being hurt by not loving someone who we want to love, we’re just hurting ourselves ahead of time. And when we think our lovability is related to whether someone loves us or not, we’re getting it wrong....

In this episode, you’ll find out how your relationship manuals may be creating problems for you / getting in your way. What are relationship manuals? They’re basically instruction manuals that we have in our minds about how others are supposed to behave and how we are supposed to behave. However, we don’t usually tell others what all our instructions are for them, yet we still expect them to know...

In this episode, you’ll find out how your relationship with your Future Self can be a powerful source of guidance and motivation for your Present Self. We’ll look at how your relationship with your Past Self also has an important role in relating to your Present Self. Let’s find out how these relationships with our Selves affect how we show up each day, for ourselves and for others.   Watch April...

In this episode, I talk about how so many of us have stories about our lives or about ourselves, which we base on facts and circumstances that have happened. The difference between facts and stories is that facts do not cause us pain, but our stories about the facts do cause us pain. Let’s see how we can unravel our stories from the facts so that we stop creating suffering for ourselves. We get to...

 In this episode, I talk about how many of us prefer to stay in confusion and indecision because it feels safer than making an actual decision. What? Well, have you ever found yourself analyzing the pros and cons of a decision for days, weeks, even months instead of actually making the decision? It’s because it feels “safer” to think “I don’t know what to do” or “I don’t know what the right decisi...

In this episode, I talk about how our beliefs impact what we think is possible for us and our lives. I share why it’s important for us to be able to change the way we think about things that are no longer serving us. I also share a method about how to believe new things.   In this episode, learn more about: Why our beliefs help or hinder us Why it’s important to be able to believe new things How t...

In this episode, I share the concept that it’s not better over there than it is right here. What does that mean? When we’re focused on achieving our goals and we think that once we achieve them, our life will be better, we may be in for a surprise. Things will be different, not necessarily better. Life will still be 50/50 - yes, certain things may be “better” and other problems may arise that have...

In this episode, I talk about the concept that life is 50/50 - 50% positive emotions, 50% negative emotions - and what happens when we try to deny the 50% that is negative. When we don’t know or understand that our lives are 50/50, when we’re experiencing the 50% negative aspects, we think something terribly wrong is happening. But if that 50% is part of our lives, we’re just experiencing THAT par...

In this episode, I talk about why emotions are important in our lives and how we’ve been taught to deal with them in unhelpful ways. We look at what we usually do with emotions and I share a more beneficial way to be with and look at our emotions.  Some things you’ll hear about: All of our emotions, including happiness, are created in our minds. How to identify how you actually want to feel. Whate...

In this episode, I talk about the Motivational Triad and how the primitive part of our brains have evolved to survive. The Motivational Triad was helpful for survival, but not helpful when we want to create healthier habits, start a new venture, find a romantic partner, or do anything new. The primitive part of our brain wants to keep us safe, and this safety can become self-sabotage when we’re tr...

In this episode, I share a self-awareness tool called The Model. Do you wonder why you try to take certain actions, but don’t end up doing them? There’s a thought that’s getting in the way. We’ll talk about the five components of The Model and how they apply to our lives. We’ll see that we’re creating the results we’re currently getting in our lives. If we don’t like the current results we have, w...

In this episode, I talk about the three pillars of transformative self-care. The word “self-care” has been co-opted and thrown about somewhat recklessly lately. I’ve heard commercials that talk about how getting a sugar-filled frothy drink is self-care. And it CAN be if you’re not worried about sugar intake or weight struggles. But for most people, a sugar-filled frothy drink likely doesn’t align...

In this episode, I share about the traumatic emergency open-heart surgery I underwent that saved and transformed my life. I talk about who I was before the surgery and how I got in my own way by trying to hustle and DO to prove my worth and value to others. Ultimately, that contributed to the health emergency I experienced. I share about who I became through recovery from the emergency surgery and...