Gay Men Going Deeper

For many LGBTQ+ people, coming out to family is a pivotal moment and significant step toward self-acceptance and living authentically. However, regardless of your age, coming out to family members can be extra challenging due to cultural reasons, family dynamics, and a fear of not being accepted.  Even once we have come out to our family members, we must navigate the delicate balance of how much a...

In this extra special episode, Michael welcomes members of his own chosen family to explore the unique dynamics that make chosen families such an important part of the LGBTQ+ experience. While providing a candid look at their own family dynamics, they delve into various subjects including: The importance of chosen family compared to biological family  How bonds evolve over time and what makes them...

In this heartfelt episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we are sharing poignant stories of our family relationships. Join us as we explore the triumphs and tribulations of the intricate bonds that tie us to our biological family dynamics. Some of the questions we’ll be answering today are: 1. What do you find challenging about family? 2. How has your family shaped who you are? 3. What matters most to y...

In this episode, Matt speaks with Nyle Biondi , a trans and queer psychotherapist, about protecting their peace. In a world that is divisive and full of violence, oppression and hatred, how can we protect our peace?  This episode explores ways in which we might be giving away our power and how we can stop doing this and learn to protect our peace. Come spend an hour with Matt and Nyle and learn ho...

In this enriching episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we are delving deep into the world of personal finance and exploring the often underestimated power of your money mindset.  Everyone has a money mindset, which consists of your thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes about money.  Whether you realize it or not, this mindset is creating your financial well-being. Our goal today is to inspire you to create...

Making friends can feel like a complex puzzle in the gay world - and when you're an introvert, the pieces fit differently. In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, Michael DiIorio and friendship coach, Zayne Khan explore the distinctive hurdles faced by introverts in their quest for companionship. We’ll cover topics such as: The unique challenges introverts face in making friends How being gay imp...

In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we tackle a topic that's become increasingly important in our fast-paced, interconnected world: work-life balance.  Throughout this episode, we explore the causes of the work-life balance struggle, including societal expectations and the constant connectivity enabled by technology. We’ll also share stories and practical advice on how we set boundaries, prio...

In this episode Matt speaks with Indie Author and Counselor, Jonathan Lee about dating as a gay man. Jonathan wrote his debut book 40 Single Gay where he over-shares his experience in the hostile gay dating world and what he learned about himself through the process. Matt and Jonathan unpack everything from hookup culture and non-monogamy, to intimacy and how to get our emotional needs met as gay...

Every human being has a unique purpose: something you and only you can bring to this world. In today’s episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we are sharing our personal journeys towards our purpose. We’ll share how moments of clarity, inspiration, and even adversity provided invaluable insights into our true calling. Some of the questions we’ll be answering are: How did you discover your purpose? What...

In this provocative episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, Michael DiIorio and Pepper pushing boundaries, sparking discussion, and providing helpful tips on sharing NSFW pics. Some of the topics we’ll be covering today are: Why do we send NSFW pics?  What are the risks in doing so?  Does it impact how our relationships unfold? Are we too desensitized to nudity? What are some best practices for sending a...

In this episode Matt speaks with Scott Blackwood about healing their traumatic pasts. They talk about the impacts of relational and attachment trauma on their lives and how this led to Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD), shame, low self-esteem and social isolation. They talk about how the unresolved trauma impacted their relationship with themselves and others and the steps they are ta...

Today we are diving deep into the profound practice of inner child work, a transformative journey that has the power to heal wounds from our past and pave the way for a brighter future. Join us as we delve into various techniques and exercises that can help you connect with your inner child, nurture them, and ultimately begin the process of healing any unresolved childhood pain. Some of the questi...

Bullying is defined as an ongoing and deliberate misuse of power in relationships through repeated verbal, physical and/or social behaviour that intends to cause physical, social and/or psychological harm. Why this conversation is important: It is said that approximately ⅓ people will experience some form of bullying in their lifetime; in the home, in the community, in the classroom, in the workpl...

In today’s episode, Michael DiIorio invites special guest Jeremy Russo to explore how spiritual abuse can manifest within religious communities, causing harm to individuals' mental, emotional, and even physical well-being. We also touch upon religious trauma, discussing its lasting impact on survivors, and the journey towards healing and forgiveness.  While this is a deeply sensitive topic, we bel...

In this episode, Matt Landsiedel takes you on a guided meditative journey to discover the relationship between your masculine and feminine energies. The guided meditation is designed to help you restore balance between your masculine and feminine energy. When we use the terms masculine and feminine, we are not referring to the gender or sex of an individual, we are referring to the energetic duali...

Expressing your feminine energy does not diminish your masculinity or make you less of a man. Each person is a unique expression of masculine and feminine energies, and this expression is a natural and valid part of our identity. In today's episode, we are sharing our own experiences of discovering and expressing our feminine energy. We'll explore various aspects of embracing our inner femininity,...

Gay culture has historically idolized traditional masculinity in the context of societal norms, which includes traits like physical strength, assertiveness, and stoicism.  But we must remember that there isn't a single, fixed definition of masculinity. While some embrace traditional concepts of masculinity, others may lean towards more non-conforming presentations.  Lately, there has been a growin...

Libido, or sex drive, is our natural instinctual inclination for sexual activity. Libido varies person to person and fluctuates over time.  It’s not uncommon for men to put a high value on their sex drive, especially if they associate it with their masculinity and self-esteem.  In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, Michael welcomes Dr. Hector Rodriguez to answer your questions about libido.  So...

Attraction is a fickle matter. Call it a vibe or energy or aura, it is indeed a powerful unseen force that influences our relationships. In the metaphysical sense, energetic attraction stems from the belief that everything in the universe is made up of energy, including human beings, and that this energy can interact and create connections between people. In this episode, we're going deeper into t...

In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Michael DiIorio unpack the concept of the spiritual awakening. They both share their personal experiences with spiritual awakenings and how they navigated these really challenging periods in their lives. If you are struggling in life right now, you might be going through a spiritual awakening. The best way through one of these experiences is to learn about its...

Attracting a romantic relationship is as much about energy as it is about the practical steps. Directing your thoughts and emotions towards finding love adds an energetic boost to any tangible action steps you’re taking. In this episode, we’re sharing our experiences with attracting love including: Manifestation basics Artificial desire vs. authentic desire How to recognize your 'ideal' partner Wh...

Body confidence is the ability to feel good in your body, regardless of its size or shape. But there are many reasons why gay men in particular struggle in this area.  Wanting to work on your body is perfectly natural, but having the right mindset is crucial to this process.   How can you work on your body goals without it being harmful to your mental health? In today’s episode of Gay Men Going De...

Aging is an inevitable part of life, but we each have a unique relationship with it. Some of us embrace it with open arms and don't buy into the idea of a "gay death" at a certain age. Others struggle with aging and cling to our youth and relevance as each year passes. In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we’re talking about our own relationship to aging and what it means to “age well.” Some o...

In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Theo Bill have a heartfelt conversation about the struggles and joys of being a gay man. They discuss the core wounds of growing up gay, the impact this has on the gay community, and what we can do to start to heal these wounds.  We explore these topics in the episode: The wounds gay men may experience in their development  Toxic Shame Attachment trauma  Gay me...

It’s a sad reality that older gay men face stereotypes about their attractiveness, desirability, or relevance as they age.  Age discrimination, or ageism, can result in feeling isolated, undervalued, and even invisible.  In today’s episode, we are having a panel discussion about age discrimination with 3 of our community members.  We’ll cover topics such as: Being judged by younger gay men The dis...