gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show

Send us Fan Mail Hey Super Sober Heroes— I’m back with another special update, this time joined by my longtime friend and guest, Phil from Here Queer Sober . Phil shares the exciting news about the first-ever Here Queer Sober Roundup , happening next month in New York City at the Marriott Marquis . What started as a small Facebook group in February 2024 has grown into a vibrant community of 2,200+...

Send us Fan Mail Hey Super Sober Heroes— I’m back on the mic with a long-overdue update! It’s been almost six months since my last episode, and so much has happened in my life and recovery journey. As of August 18, 2025, I’m 1,543 days sober, and I’m grateful for a listener message that reminded me just how much this podcast still matters. In this episode, I share: Why I paused the show and how I’...

Send us Fan Mail Hey there, Super Sober Heroes 💖 It’s your host, Sober Steve , checking in with 1,397 days of sobriety and a big announcement: gAy A is going on an indefinite hiatus . After nearly four amazing years , 225+ episodes , and hundreds of powerful stories from across the queer sober spectrum, it’s time for me to shift my energy inward—toward my local community in Sarasota, Florida . Wh...

Send us Fan Mail Super Sober Heroes, we’re back with another in-person interview, and this week, I’m sitting down with my friend Dillon! 🏳️‍🌈💜 Dillon opens up about his journey to sobriety, how a birthday wake-up call led him to quit drinking, and the powerful role of resilience in his recovery. We talk about: ✨ The moment he knew he had to change ✨ How sobriety has transformed his life and re...

Send us Fan Mail Hey there, Super Sober Heroes ! Your host Sober Steve is here with 1,357 days sober , and this episode is extra special because we are recording in person for the first time! I’m thrilled to welcome India X Miller , a powerful advocate, trans activist, and sober warrior who has been navigating the world of recovery for over 40 years. India shares their incredible journey of sobrie...

Send us Fan Mail Super Sober Heroes, we're back for Part 2 with Phil B, co-founder of Here Queer Sober ! 🎉 And this time, we’re shaking things up—AI is asking the questions! Phil and I tackle some of the biggest misconceptions and deeper truths about queer sobriety, including: ✨ Can queer and sober people actually have fun? (Spoiler: YES.) ✨ What’s it like dating and navigating relationshi...

Send us Fan Mail Super Sober Heroes, welcome back! Today, I’m joined once again by my dear friend and co-founder of Here Queer Sober , Phil B! With 7 years, 9 months, and 24 days sober , Phil shares about his whirlwind year—completing his master’s degree in counseling , navigating job offers, moving into his own apartment, and embracing the next chapter of his recovery and career. We also dive int...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of Gay A: The Queer Sober Hero Show , host Steve is joined by the amazing Holland, who shares his journey to recovery, approach to spirituality, and how sobriety has transformed his life. Holland, who celebrates a sobriety date of February 2, 2022, opens up about growing up in Hawaii and Alaska, their struggles with addiction, and finding their way back to recovery...

Send us Fan Mail Episode Highlights 🌍 Traveling Sober & Building Community: Johnny shares how he founded Sober Gay Adventures , offering intimate, 10-day trips for queer sober travelers to explore the world with accountability and connection. His goal was to create meaningful travel experiences for those in recovery, providing fellowship in small groups across the globe. 🏳️‍🌈 Embracing Queer...

Send us Fan Mail Super Sober Heroes, today I’m joined by Adam Schuler , a writer and advocate for addiction recovery, who shares his powerful journey through relapse, resilience, and ultimately rediscovering joy in sobriety. Adam gets candid about:  ✨ The role of relapse in his recovery journey —and why it's not a failure, but a teacher ✨ How connection & community helped him finally br...

Send us Fan Mail Hey there, Super Sober Heroes! This week on Gay A , I’m joined by returning guest and podcast favorite, Mark, as we dive into the transformative power of sobriety and how it’s helped him embrace his authentic queer self. From growing up in a Catholic family with strict gender norms to navigating the complexities of being openly gay in the workplace, Mark shares his journey of self...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of gAy A , your queer sober hero show, I’m sharing holiday tips and tricks to help you navigate the festive season while staying sober. Whether you’re celebrating your first holiday in recovery or just looking for a little extra support, this episode dives into advice from listeners and my own experience on avoiding triggers, setting boundaries, and thriving throug...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, originally released on April 22nd, 2022, Steve welcomes Scott to share their experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober. Follow Scott on Instagram @scotttgrasso and follow us while you are at it @gAyApodcast. Also check out their website: https://www.scottgrasso.com/ Thank you for listening. Please rate and review if yo...

Send us Fan Mail Episode Description: Hey there, Super Sober Heroes! This week on Gay A , I’m diving back into the vault to revisit one of my earliest episodes on astrology and addiction. Originally recorded at just 105 days sober, this episode explores how our zodiac signs might influence our relationship with alcohol. But that’s not all—I'm adding fresh insights and exploring a new article...

Send us Fan Mail Sober Steve is joined by Ralf Rasmussen, host of RealClearFetish! Talks RealClearPlay!  Ralf shares his journey from addiction to seven years of sobriety, delving into the challenges and triumphs of navigating the intersection of recovery, kink, and queer identity. We discuss: 🌈 The power of embracing authentic queer identity in sobriety. 🖤 Ralf’s journey through addiction, reco...

Send us Fan Mail Check out my guest appearance on RealClearTalk this week, and check out the show wherever you find this podcast!! Show notes from the episode: Steve B has been sober since May 28th, 2021, and is the host of gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show.  Having isolating during his drinking, he has only begun embracing his interests in leather, fetish, and kink in sobriety- something he believ...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of Gay A: The Queer Sober Hero Show , host Sober Steve welcomes Richard Dean, a fellow sober friend, to share his inspiring journey through addiction, recovery, and the exploration of codependence. Richard opens up about the challenges he faced in early sobriety, the lessons he learned from relapse, and the powerful transformation he experienced through programs li...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show , Sober Steve welcomes back Julianne Griffin, aka Jewels, the founder of Swift Steps—a unique sober community for Swifties in recovery. They dive deep into the therapeutic power of journaling, finding balance in sobriety, and the challenges of staying accountable in recovery. Jules shares how the love for Taylor Swift’s music, ly...

Send us Fan Mail Hey there, super sober heroes! 🦸🏽‍♂️ This week on Gay A, Sober Steve is thrilled to welcome back a fan-favorite guest and globetrotter, Frankie New! Steve and Frankie dive into a topic close to Frankie's heart: Traveling in Sobriety. In This Episode: Join Steve and Frankie as they discuss the unique adventures and perspectives that come with sober travel. From finding queer...

Send us Fan Mail Hey, Super Sober Heroes! In this episode of gAy A , Sober Steve welcomes back Jaycee K. Clark for a powerful conversation on the impact of social media on mental health and sobriety. With over 1,227 days sober, Steve sits down with Jaycee to discuss how social media plays a dual role in our lives—both as a tool for connection and a source of distraction. Jaycee, who will be one of...

Send us Fan Mail Hey there, Super Sober Heroes! In today’s episode of gAy A, host Sober Steve (with 1,227 days sober!) welcomes back Danielle—one of our long-time pod family members, to dive into a topic that many in the LGBTQ+ community can relate to: Being “Out” in Sobriety . What you’ll hear in this episode : Danielle reflects on her experiences of coming out in college and how it mirrors her s...

Send us Fan Mail In this week’s episode, host Steve Bennet-Martin, aka Sober Steve the Podcast Guy, continues the dive into gAy A 's archives with Part 2 of "Sober Support from the Vault." After more than 225 episodes, Steve brings back some powerful early interviews that still resonate today. Whether you’re a new listener or a longtime fan, this episode offers a chance to revisit i...

Send us Fan Mail In this exciting two-part special, gAy A is diving into the archives! Host Steve Bennet-Martin, aka Sober Steve the Podcast Guy, takes you on a journey back to some of the earliest episodes of the show. With over 225 episodes and more than three years of content, it’s easy to miss some of the incredible stories shared by guests who have since become part of the gAy A family. So, S...

Send us Fan Mail In this week’s episode of gAy A , Sober Steve the Podcast Guy sits down with his long-time sober sibling, Savannah. With 1,215 days sober for Steve and 1,365 days for Savannah, they share an honest conversation about surviving the challenges of sobriety—especially in a world where alcohol seems to be everywhere. From navigating social events and mocktails to processing personal tr...

Send us Fan Mail In this exciting and unconventional episode of gAy A, Steve Bennet-Martin, aka Sober Steve the Podcast Guy, puts AI to the test! Can AI really understand the intersections of queerness and sobriety? Steve and ChatGPT dive into some of the most powerful themes shared by LGBTQIA+ individuals in recovery, exploring how technology can shed light on these deep, personal experiences. Pl...