Frustrated And Exhausted

In this episode of Frustrated and Exhausted , Ruth dives deep into the performative nature of workplace meetings, exploring why so many of us feel compelled to "act" in these spaces and what organizational factors drive this behavior. Ruth unpacks the cultural, political, and emotional layers that shape how we show up in meetings, and shares actionable strategies for making meetings more effective...

In this episode, Ruth sits down with Naveli Ahuja-Mehta, an accomplished finance director whose career has spanned continents and industries—from India to Kenya to Austria to the UK, and from engineering consultancies to investment management and transformation leadership. The conversation explores what it means to trust yourself, embrace risk, and forge a career path that goes beyond expectations...

In this episode, Ruth explores the underlying reasons why intelligent, experienced people often hold back from saying what they really think at work—especially on leadership teams. What looks like workplace “niceness” may actually be a way of managing social threat, not genuine trust or alignment. Ruth explains how neuroscience (specifically the SCARF model) sheds light on why disagreement feels s...

In this episode, Ruth is joined by Kathryn Eade, Head of Strategic Change at the University of Salford and founder of the Female Leadership Collective. With over 20 years' experience in leading change and supporting growth, Kathryn Eade shares her insights on what really makes change possible within organizations. The conversation covers the realities of driving sustainable transformation, the hum...

In this episode, Ruth explores the hidden drivers behind team and organizational performance that are rarely discussed—conditions and systems rather than just individual leadership strengths. Rather than focusing solely on whether “we have the right people,” Ruth challenges leaders to consider the environment and structures shaping behavior and outcomes. Key Topics Why performance issues aren’t al...

In this episode, Ruth is joined by Tina Muglani Siddiqui, whose dynamic career has spanned the aviation, hospitality, and construction industries, as well as her current role in fintech and her charity work as treasurer and board trustee at the Asian Women's Resource Centre. Together, they explore the complexities leaders face when deciding whether to persist or pivot in their careers, and discuss...

In this episode, Ruth unpacks the subtle dynamics that emerge when highly capable people in organizations become hesitant to speak up in team settings. Drawing from a recent experience observing a leadership team, Ruth explores why discussions become constrained and what really underlies this common organizational challenge. Key Topics Discussed The Phenomenon: Smart, experienced team members hold...

In this episode, Ruth dives into a pervasive issue she’s observed in high-performing organizations: why even the most capable, committed people end up feeling exhausted at work. Drawing on real-life conversations with senior leaders and research like Christina Maslach’s work on burnout, Ruth explores how exhaustion isn’t always about personal resilience, but frequently about weary, outdated system...

In this episode of "Frustrated and Exhausted," Ruth returns after a brief pause to reflect on what’s really at the root of burnout, frustration, and stagnation—especially for women in leadership. Rather than focusing solely on personal development, Ruth explores how broader organizational systems and workplace conditions profoundly shape individual experience and behavior. Key Topics Evolution of...

In this episode I explore a tough but hopeful topic: why trust can erode in organizations even when leaders have the best intentions. Drawing from real conversations and coaching experiences with senior leaders, the episode unpacks the difference between a leader’s intent and the reality employees experience on the ground. Intent vs. Impact: Good intent is important, but employees don’t experience...

Welcome to Frustrated and Exhausted, In this episode, we dig into an important leadership topic: the difference between genuine trust and simply being “nice” within senior teams. Why do so many organizations confuse harmony and collegiality with real, risk-taking trust, and what does this confusion cost? Trust vs. Niceness Why being “nice” and avoiding conflict isn’t the same as building trust. Te...

Welcome back to another episode of Frustrated and Exhausted. In this episode, I dive deep into the reasons why leaders often shy away from clarity—and the real costs this can have on teams and organizations. Clarity vs. Certainty: I explain how clarity is often mistaken for certainty or the illusion of having all the answers. Instead, clarity is really about reducing unnecessary anxiety by being t...

Welcome back to Frustrated and Exhausted ! In this insightful episode, I dive into the reality behind those endlessly repetitive leadership conversations that never seem to spark real change. If you’ve ever left a meeting feeling like “everything was said but nothing changed,” this one’s for you. Why so many leadership conversations feel unsatisfying and unproductive. The difference between stated...

In this episode, I explore the often-overlooked connection between belonging and performance at work. Rather than framing belonging as something "nice" or optional, I make the case that real belonging is foundational for teams and organizations to function at their best. Belonging’s Branding Problem: How belonging has been misunderstood as comfort or indulgence, rather than a core driver of decisi...

In this episode of Frustrated and Exhausted , Speaker I dive into the powerful topic of how unreliable leadership impacts women, their well-being, and their performance at work. Instead of focusing on personal shortcomings, I challenge the common narrative around burnout and exhaustion, encouraging listeners to look at the environments and conditions that drive these feelings. A Different View on...

In this reflective year-end episode, I take listeners on a gentle pause to sit with the reality of the year they've just carried. It's not the polished, social-media version of the year, but an honest look at what women, especially in leadership and career spaces, have held—often invisibly. From emotional loads and endless mental tabs to the weight of responsibilities, self-doubt, and cu...

Welcome to "Frustrated and Exhausted, a podcast dedicated to empowering women in their careers and leadership journeys without compromising well-being or sanity. In this heartfelt holiday episode, Resonate Leadership I offer listeners a gentle, much-needed "permission slip" for Christmas Eve—a reminder that self-care is just as important as caring for others. It’s an invitation to pause,...

Welcome to another episode of "Frustrated and Exhausted," where we talk all things women, career, and leadership without sacrificing well-being. This episode, “The Inclusion Edit,” is a special compilation celebrating two years of bold, honest, and insightful conversations. This time, we look at inclusion as more than a corporate initiative—it's a human practice, an engine for performance, trust,...

Welcome to the two-year anniversary of Frustrated and Exhausted! In this special “Purpose Edit” episode, we’re taking a grounded look at what purpose really means for women’s careers and leadership—well beyond the usual cliches. This episode features conversations with three remarkable women whose leadership journeys show that purpose is shaped by everyday choices, resilience, courage, and deep-ro...

Welcome to a special two-year anniversary compilation episode of "Frustrated and Exhausted." This week, the focus is on  resilience —but not in the “just carry on” sense. The conversation centers on women, career, and leadership, celebrating how real resilience is about self-knowledge, owning your experience, and resisting the urge to shrink. Featured Guests and Themes: Hilary Ross:  Ope...

In this thoughtful episode, I explore the familiar pressure to “finish strong” as the year winds down. I unpacks the sense of collective urgency that builds in workplaces and homes as December approaches—from inboxes full of end-of-year reviews to the desire for neat conclusions on projects, goals, and even holiday celebrations. Key Topics: The culture of closure: Why do we crave hitting...

In this insightful episode, I dive deep into the theme of self-reflection and authenticity in leadership. I explore how leaders can become distanced from their true selves, often falling for a curated and polished version that feels safe and familiar. Through personal stories and coaching anecdotes, I unpack the subtle dangers of self-delusion and the ego’s protective fog. 00:01:00 – 00:02:14 Disc...

In this inspiring conversation, Lucy Barnes shares her personal journey from growing up in the care system to her current role as a pupil barrister and founder of Lawyers who Care—the UK’s first organisation creating mentoring and paid work experience for care experienced aspiring lawyers. Lucy talks candidly about overcoming adversity, the importance of high expectations for care experienced youn...

Today, we’re diving deep into the lesser-talked-about “shadowy side” of leadership. While leadership is often framed around positivity, strength, and values, there’s a whole set of unseen influences—the parts of ourselves we’d rather not acknowledge—that shape the way we lead. Drawing on ideas from Freud, Carl Jung, and practical leadership coaching, we explore how ignoring our shadows can come ba...

Welcome to “Frustrated and Exhausted,” the podcast supporting women in career and leadership. In this reflective October episode, I dive deep into how past experiences can quietly haunt us in our professional lives—especially as the season shifts and we find ourselves reflecting more. Recognizing these patterns is crucial. I advise listeners to name the beliefs that haunt them and examine if they'...