From The Desk of Khalia Stokes

If you feel like the life you used to love suddenly doesn't fit anymore, you're not broken — you're becoming. This episode is for every woman standing in the "in-between" space — where the old version of you is fading, the new one hasn't fully emerged, and everything feels quiet, weird, and uncomfortable. Khalia Deborah Stokes pulls back the curtain on her own transition season — the breaking, the...

Legacy is more than the money and material items you leave behind. It's more than money, businesses, or property passed down—it is also the everyday moments that shape who we are and who comes after us. In this episode, Khalia shares how she's changed her mind about legacy—not as a transaction, but as transformation. From morning routines to private prayers, from forgiveness to consistency, she ex...

We hear about imposter syndrome all the time—like it's just a confidence issue or a personal flaw. But what if it's not just you doubting you ? What if it's the world around you, the systems you move through, and the silent expectations you've internalized? In this episode, I'm unpacking my personal journey with imposter syndrome—and why I've changed my mind about what really causes it. From navig...

Ever catch yourself mid-roast... but the target is you ? You call it "being real," "staying sharp," or "pushing for better"—but what if that inner critic is actually holding you back? In this episode of I've Changed My Mind , host Khalia Deborah Stokes unpacks the toxic self-talk we've normalized, and shares how she learned to challenge the chatterbox in her head. The one that said she wasn't enou...

Changing your mind about asking for help—and why it's the bravest thing you can do. For years, I believed real strength meant doing life alone. I wore hyper-independence like a badge of honor — until it started to break me. In this episode of I've Changed My Mind , I share the story behind how I became self-sufficient in the most self-sabotaging way and why asking for help isn't a weakness... it's...

"From shadows of shame to the light of love, I'm reclaiming every piece of me that was lost—because I deserve to embrace the beautiful life I was always meant to live." In this episode, I'll be discussing how I changed my mind regarding the importance of revisiting my past in order to move forward and healing the younger me.

"When I felt the most successful in my life, I felt the need to step back and take my worth back from my success." In this episode, I will discuss how I have decided to do less during a time in my life when people might have expected me to push harder.