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#selfreparenting A major question to ask yourself when faced with a crisis What do I need in this situation? What would a loving mother do for me in this situation? Feel your feelings and use them to create solutions. SIFTSEM Explore cognitive reappraisal and reframe. Solutions Think about love on three levels. Do you need a sister in this situation? A mother, a friend, a brother, a grandmother? A...

What is standing in the way of you and a healthy relationship? 1. Background Situation The past Behaviour 2. Management plan Knowledge is not what heals. Applying the knowledge practically daily is key. Rome was not built in a day 3. Executing the plan Love on three levels Starting and commiting Acting in your best interest Avoiding self-betrayal Second level Accountability Boundaries Practicing d...

Hope Gap

Blind spots in relationships 1. Us and them instead of us versus the problem. 2. Being the victim 3. Personalisation of feedback 4. Not accepting feedback 5. Not doing anything wrong 6. Being negative and complaining 7. Entitlement leading to abuse 8. Forever after myth..

Good morning Remember Meditation Gratefulness Deep breathing Tapping Catharsis Laughter Affirmations and Self-hugs Set an intention Throughout the day Segment intending, mindfulness, forgiveness, kindness, healthy eating, boundaries, appreciation. Feel those feelings and SIFTSEM. Bed time reflection Praise yourself. Hug yourself to sleep An entry for your journal Whatever you choose to do today wi...

Physical abuse Religious bypassing The church and abuse Sons of abusive fathers Everything has consequences The love above The grief of loss Forgiveness Letting go

If someone is not arranging or accepting to meet

Episode 29 Trauma on the screen Film : Sparkle Starring Whitney Houston Worldwide Fans Jordin Sparks Carmen Ejogo Tika Sumpter Michael Epps The Real Mike Epps Omari hardwick A Friends abroad- Relationship School for women on a life mission original edition Themes Single parenting Strict or protective parenting Cognitive distortions in parenting Pressure to marry Pressure to succeed Talented people...

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Episode 28 Trauma on the screen

#selfhealersdiaries The contest for the good guy label Following a relationship break down, a contest might ensure, as to who is right or wrong. The contest might be about which one of you is better or worse. This comes from a need to be right in some cases, so you might want people to see you as the good guy. Alternatively, you might take all the blame due to self-doubt. It can feel like there is...

Trauma on the screen : Lovehard

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Damage with Jeremy Iron

Trauma on the screen: Film- Phantom Thread

Minimising adverse impact of own own self-split

Towards conscious relationships Mirror and match

Accept what is happening, not how you want things to be

Obsession , Isolation. Crimes of passion

Drama is a relationship killer In romantic relationships and friendships, being dramatic can be your undoing. Drama shows up as adaptive behaviours that you developed in your young years to be heard, acknowledged and understood. Whenever you want to make a point and you do not feel that you are likely to succed, you might find ways to push your agenda. Drama can be a turn off to people around you....

Themes: Rejection, obsession, crimes of passion

#selfhealersdiaries Overcoming learned helplessness Access your inner resources Seek support to learn decision making. Use tools and feel your feelings. Learn solution focused rumination You are capable, able and in a position to choose what is life giving just as you are choosing what you are doing presently. The only difference is that you have learned certain behaviours and practised them for a...

#selfreparenting Why we need tools 1. The shortness of life. 2. Life is only now 3. Life will happen and people will do what people do 4. You cannot control others, only yourself. 5. To be human is to feel and think. We are wired to think negatively, and we need tools if we are to live peacefully. 6. You cannot run away from negative emotions and thoughts. You need them for clarity. 7. A knee jerk...

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