Friends Abroad Relationship School Podcast

Explore these mindsets to improve your relationship outcomes

When they are not responding as well as you expect here is what you need to know!

Want to get married and he is not proposing. Propose to yourself and commit to yourself.

What might seem like a small fight, might be a big trigger for them.

#selfreparenting Learning from a relationship where your needs are not being met. Your self-relationship does not depend on what someone else is doing. You cannot control them. If you try to fix someone into stepping into a role you assign them, you are in a bind. It dies not work. If a partner is not meeting your needs, they help you to recognise what you want. They help you create the relationsh...

Unmet needs Unmet needs. Autonomy, Acceptance, Independence, Freedom, Attention, Love, Safety, Fun, Consistency, Respect, Peacefulness, Predictability, Being liked, Be needed, Being valued. Being right, Being treated fairly, Being in control. Feel included., To be understood, Love. New challenges, Order, Balance.

We review the abandonment trauma, dysfunctional coping strategies and the way children might respond to some seemingly harmless traumatic behaviours

#selfhealersdiaries Lack of emotional safety leads to a lack of emotional connection Why your partner might shut down or react in your relationship. Both the insecure attached and secure attached people have a need for safety in relationships. Physical safety means they are in a safe environment, which includes how their body is treated in the relationship. 2. Emotional safety means their needs an...

Respect yourself. Were you used and abandoned?

Let go of control

Infidelity and continuing with a date despite a partner showing up or not.

Monitor these red flags online

Do not settle or feel less than

SIFTSEM to heal your anxious attachment style.

Avoid Uninspiring communication

#selfhealersdiaries Every so often I notice someone struggling in their relationship to get over a break up and seeking letting go or detachment (Stoicism based) recommendations. I found out the best way to create a response based on Stoicism is as follows. Use the Stoic Rules 1. The underpinning rule I feel for all of them is the dichotomy of control. It helps us create a quality life when we pra...

Reflecting on the trauma and impact on relationships and other areas of life in this powerful movie

#selfhealersdiaries Forcing outcomes through passive-aggressive behaviour online! If you have your boyfriend or partner on Facebook , be conscious of your posts. If you have a problem, in your relationship, avoid posting passive-aggressive content. If your partner posts something avoid trying to correct them online. If your partner expresses a viewpoint, do not guilt trip them because you feel the...

#selfreparenting A raw truth about relationships You might meet someone who promises you forever after. Somewhere along the lines they drop the dream for another. It is not personal. It is relational. Something they did not want showed up in the system. It is something for you to learn from. Someone you meet might spend time with you and say they do not want a relationship. After breaking up with...

How you communicate your needs matters.

#selfhealersdiaries Disrespected in your relationship? They talk to other people about relationship while in a relationship with you. 2. They talk about you with other people without involving you. 3. They talk about you in your presence without including you. 4. They make decisions which you normally make together without you, and without telling you what they have done. 5. They do not consider y...

#selfreparenting The missing element in our existence. Why we might struggle when we want to improve our lives. Missing Tools in the psychological existence. Introducing SIFTSEM TOOL A self-management, self-parenting, trigger assessment, objective evaluation, root cause analysis, self-soothing , cognitive restructuring and solution focused tool. 24 Unmet needs Autonomy. Acceptance. Independence .F...

Why do men people leave relationships with people they might have made promises to or women they love? Lack of peacefulness Cannot do anything without you complaining. You are criticising him constantly. You are negative. Cannot do anything without you trying to control outcomes. You try to tell him what to do. You do not give him space. You do everything for him to make him feel wanted and loved....

The pyschological environment you are creating.

Weekly we will bring you a movie and we will discuss trauma and relationships in the movie