Fresh Perspective

Why are we so hard on ourselves, and why doesn't it help? And when you stop being hard on yourself, why doesn't that help either? When something isn't working in your life, when you're not making progress on the thing that matters, you ask yourself why. And I think one of four voices talks. Three of them will keep you exactly where you are, and might even make it worse. I would like you to be able...

In this episode I explore burnout, and I start with two questions. What specific burnout warning signs should we pay attention to? Which red flags should we watch out for? Because you might still be functioning, you're getting things done, and the problems are already present beneath the surface. Here are three of the signs I see working with people. Your exhaustion doesn't change after rest: you...

I'm going to give you six reasons we lose momentum. Three of them come from the research, and three of them come from what I see in the work I do with people. Pick the one that's most relevant to you, and use it to get your momentum back. Momentum doesn't work like a ramp, starting small and building. It works more like a smile. High at the start, low in the middle, high again at the end. The midd...

There's a lot about my thirties that I regret, and regret deeply. I could tell you that I've made peace with that, but really I haven't. At the end of 2007 I had been married for about five months, I'd quit full-time ministry and we'd moved to Cape Town. Three major life changes all at once. Not something I would recommend. I had sponsors, so there wasn't money pressure. I had a lot of different o...

Nothing is wrong and you still feel stuck. Career fine, bills paid, and still restless. Why do I feel stuck when nothing is wrong? I know what to do and I'm still not doing it. Those two questions tend to arrive together, and they arrive with guilt, because you have a pretty good life and you are supposed to be grateful for it. You are, unfortunately, very normal. In this episode I show you the tw...

You will get stuck again. Not maybe, guaranteed. The final episode of the Getting Unstuck series is about what to do when it happens, because coming back is the skill: the observer and the giver of meaning, structure as your friend, and the four step comeback. Watch this episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JWQNvOCifPQ Free: see where and how you are stuck with the RUT Diagnostic: h...

Two options in front of you, months at the crossroads, and every person you ask leaves you exactly where you were. In this fourth episode of the Getting Unstuck series: what you are actually collecting when you ask around (confirmation, not information), the two questions that work like a brake you are pressing yourself, the guarantee hiding inside the word right, why the first hard part convinces...

You sit down to start, and all of it arrives at once. The thing is not too big. You are lifting all of it at the same time. In this third episode of the Getting Unstuck series: what overwhelm actually is (the carrying, not the task), the next visible move, the two-minute test, and the deciding-once principle that makes starting almost automatic. Watch this episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.c...

You do not procrastinate on everything. You procrastinate selectively, and the more something matters, the harder it gets to start. In this second episode of the Getting Unstuck series: what you are actually managing when you procrastinate (it is not time), why caring turns a task into a test, the trade behind every snooze, and four steps to catch it happening. Free Pattern Breaker workbook: https...

Have you ever known exactly what you should do, and still not done it? That is not laziness. It is a loop: discomfort, avoidance, relief, cost. In this first episode of the Getting Unstuck series I walk through the loop, the five fuels that drive it, how to map one of your own in five honest sentences, and the small interruption that starts rebuilding self-trust. The free Unstuck Loop Map: resourc...

n this episode, I explore why shutting down and blowing up are often not opposites, but two different ways of avoiding the deeper emotion underneath. Using the image of a firebreak, I unpack how emotional maturity is not about suppressing what I feel or unleashing it on everyone around me, but learning to stay with what I feel without becoming overwhelmed by it. I talk about numbing, anger, emotio...

In this episode of Fresh Perspective, we explore a powerful shift in how we handle life’s challenges: are you reacting like a thermometer, or responding like a thermostat? When the world heats up or cools down, do you let it decide your mood and actions, or do you set your own tone from within? Through simple language and real-life examples, Francois breaks down the four things you can always cont...

To work with me personally please visit getclarity.co.za In this episode of Fresh Perspective, Francois explores one of the most common and quietest struggles many of us face: being relentlessly hard on ourselves. Beneath the surface of high standards and self-discipline often lies fear, fear of failure, rejection, or not being enough. Francois unpacks how the inner judge masquerades as responsibi...

For more resources. In this episode of Fresh Perspective, we take a closer look at one of the most subtle traps of modern life — the feeling of progress that comes from staying busy. Francois explores how our endless checklists, colour-coded calendars, and constant activity can quietly become a form of productive avoidance. We tick every box, respond to every email, keep the engine running — yet d...

To work with me: Book a Private Consultation or take a Complimentary assessment.   This episode explains that the uncomfortable emotions we avoid are doorways to the breakthroughs we want. It distinguishes three ways we engage with feelings — intellectualizing, intuiting, and instinctual sensations — and shows how overthinking keeps us stuck. Practical advice: pause when you notice anxiety or tens...

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For a Complimentary Life Coaching Assessment click here. In this episode of Fresh Perspective, we explore the profound concept of freedom and its intrinsic connection to the present moment. Through insights from Viktor Frankl and Krishnamurti, we discover how freedom is not something to be achieved in the future, but an inner liberation available in the now. By facing the present moment and not be...

Visit getclarity.co.za for more resources. In this episode of Fresh Perspective, we continue exploring our most important relationship, our relationship with time. After looking at love in the last episode, today’s focus is on joy. But not the shallow joy of distractions or quick fixes. The deep, soul-filling joy that can only be experienced in the present moment. We explore the paradox that the p...

If you ever need my help, simply go to getclarity.co.za In this episode of Fresh Perspective, we delve deeper into the idea that our relationship with time is our most important relationship. We explore how being present in the moment allows us to experience powerful human states like love, joy, and freedom. The episode discusses how fear of intimacy with the present moment often leads us to dwell...

To unlock more of your potential go to: getclarity.co.za   In this episode of Fresh Perspective, we explore the concept of the most important relationship in your life and discuss why it might not be what you initially think. Join us as we embark on a journey to understand the significance of your relationship with time. This topic is part of an ongoing process of writing a new book, delving deepe...

In this episode of Fresh Perspective, we delve into the profound impact of the inner voice on shaping identity. Your inner dialogue, whether subtle or striking, sculpts your sense of self over time. We explore how repeated thoughts form beliefs that can limit, justify, or empower you. Learn how to distinguish between these voices and beliefs, and discover practical tools to redirect your inner cur...

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— — — 🇿🇦 SAFFA-EXCLUSIVE OFFER 🇿🇦 If you're a South African anywhere in the world, get free courses on personal development and relationships as well as access to community-exclusive webinars and events. ➡️ Click here to join or find out more. — — —   Labelling your emotions empowers you to do something about them. Dr Mareitjie Smit introduces us to the concept of 'languishing,' the state between...

— — — 🇿🇦 SAFFA-EXCLUSIVE OFFER 🇿🇦 If you're a South African anywhere in the world, get free courses on personal development and relationships as well as access to community-exclusive webinars and events. ➡️ Click here to join or find out more. — — —   Hear from three Questers how the Clarity Quest helped them find clarity, courage, and accountability, transforming their lives and relationships.  ...

— — — 🇿🇦 SAFFA-EXCLUSIVE OFFER 🇿🇦 If you're a South African anywhere in the world, get free courses on personal development and relationships as well as access to community-exclusive webinars and events. ➡️ Click here to join or find out more. — — —   If you're not using conflict to grow your relationship, you're missing out. Learn how to peel back the layers of communication in your relationship...