Freedom from Attachment

I received an email from a listener about being a walking reaction. We learned our behaviors as kids: right from wrong, manners, how to show emotions. Because of that, our decision-making is often just the reaction we're programmed to take. We're conditioned to feel a certain way. Most of us really aren’t our real selves and we have no idea who that is, and to want to meet ourselves is something w...

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of taking criticism in a relationship, looking validation from others, and fear of abandonment. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my f...

Do you like to get involved in others’ business? From reality TV to the news to your own relationship, it appears you look for drama in all aspects of your life. Let me say, the stress hormones are addictive, but they're also a distraction. Drama is a nothingburger in and of itself, instead, it is coming from a place of avoidance. You use drama to avoid the truth you don’t want to face. You may no...

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of why we are so invested in other people's happiness, the "I'm alone" belief, and dealing with your inner critic. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Cli...

What is it that some people get picked on as children, while others became the bully? As children, we all felt insecurities, but the way those insecurities manifested themselves changed our behavior. A bully feels worthless. To find validation and make themselves feel superior, they bring others down. They choose people they know can be bullied, those with the biggest insecurities. It’s almost as...

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of knowing the difference between liking someone and a repeating pattern, how to stop making fear-based decisions, and staying positive while having negative feelings. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursda...

Putting more energy, into a dysfunctional relationship so you don’t lose it, is not necessarily coming from love. It usually means a lot of fear around loss. One of the bigger fears could be that you’re afraid that all the work and suffering you have put into this relationship could mean it ends; it doesn’t seem fear. And an even greater fear is your partner would then turnaround and marry the nex...

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of feeling unworthy, how to challenge negative beliefs, and nagging. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure att...

Are you constantly judging yourself? Every decision you make, every word you say is always wrong in your eyes, unless you receive a positive response. This self-judgment keeps you from moving forward in your life, choices may feel like the last thing you can commit to in the long run—so you do what you’ve always done in the short term. Basically, you do the same thing—the proven thing every day an...

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of introducing a new partner to your family, being rescued from your emotional state, and how to date so it’s not painful. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attac...

Just like our previous Attachment Issues episode, this episode is all about answering your insecure attachment questions. Whether it's to an ex, your work, or your family, insecure attachment issues can manifest themselves in many ways. They all stem back to a fear you have. You’re afraid of not being good enough, of being found out, of being left alone. When you’re insecurely attached, you’re let...

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of letting go of outcomes, communicating with exes, showing interest too quickly when dating. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my fre...

Are you always stepping in to be the “rescuer” of others? It seems the role you play to be recognized, loved or at least not abandoned. What about with your partner? You wait around for the right moment that you can jump in and be a hero, saving him or her looking like you have enough value to that person that they will be forever indebted. You think that taking care of everyone around you will ga...

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics looking for validation, self-protective habits from childhood, and staying in reality. Want to submit your question? Click here: http://bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my f...

This episode of the Journey of Attachment is going to be different. I made a post on Facebook in January asking you for all your questions on insecure attachment, and so today's episode is my response to your submissions. When you have insecure attachment issues, you listen and intellectualize. So if you've listened to my podcast before and you've identified yourself with what I talk about, you mi...

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of anxiety, the perspective of reality and dealing with the inner critic. Want to submit your question? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attac...

Many of us do not have any idea we try to control anything outside of us, we are always just trying to feel okay. Do you try to control the people around you? Your goal is to convince them that you’re a certain type of person because you’re afraid they’ll see the real you. The fear of not being okay, because you basically don’t think you are unless someone else does has you stuck trying to control...

Earlier this month, I asked you on Facebook if you would be interested in me sharing what a coaching session with me is like. From the feedback that I got, I decided to do this one-time-only episode of live coaching. As you’ll hear, the person I’m coaching is someone that I work with already, so this is the perfect example of what actual coaching is and what my relationship with my clients is. We...

Did you grow up with a narcissistic mom? Her behavior may have been unpredictable, and you never knew what was going to set her off. She might have been manipulative, always looking for your validation and sympathy. Whether she was a malignant narcissist or a covert narcissist, her actions shaped your current behavior and your relationship insecurity. Her criticism and inconsistency made you afrai...

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of making yourself suffer, fear, and being emotionally vulnerable. Want to submit your question? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment r...

The hard truth about insecure attachment is that it doesn’t just affect your personal relationships. It affects every part of your life, including your career. Whether you’re struggling with boundaries at work or micromanaging your coworkers to feel validation, all your behaviors stem from fear. You’re afraid that your colleagues will see you as a failure, or they will criticize you. I’ve been in...

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of dream interpretation, feeling responsible for others, and setting boundaries with friends. Want to submit your question for Tracy's FB Live? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here...

Do you know what impostor syndrome is? Perhaps you’re familiar with it in your professional life, it means the fear of being found out for being fake or phony. The you which you present isn’t really who you are or you feel others will not think it is who you are. For me, I always waited for people to find out I was a bad person, even though nothing about me is…it’s what I dreaded, personally and p...

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of feeling like everything is against you, hidden anger and people pulling away. Want to submit your question for Tracy's FB Live? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my fre...

Are you stuck in an anxious-avoidant loop? No matter how much you “think” you want a relationship, you find excuses not to date or in a relationship, you look for problems with your partner. Oh wait! There’s more. You may find yourself dating, which you do trepidatiously, and voila there’s chemistry. You feel the pangs of anxiety and know you’ll be hooked by dinnertime. Whether you are the pursuer...