Freedom from Attachment

The problem child. The difficult one. Black sheep. The one who just couldn't get it right. It’s really not your story, even if you feel it deep inside. I thought it was my story for years. Being the scapegoat in your family means you have all sorts of peculiar labels that don’t belong to you. Like a pair of ill-fitting shoes, you made it work as you were hobbling along. Let’s talk about how percep...

I bet you’re self-aware if you are reading this; you’re probably highly sensitive too and perceptive. Your awareness developed from observing the narcissistic parent in your life. Growing up with a personality-disordered parent doesn't just leave marks, it truly is a “normalized” operating system; the guilt, the shame, the belief that their chaos was somehow yours to fix. In having been on a spiri...

Being stuck in survival mode is to be a human being. Survival starts at birth, you have needs to be fulfilled or you won’t survive. Survival equals attachment. A cosmic connection utilizing spiritual intelligence has absolutely NOTHING to do with survival. Accessing it and moving into love and nonattachment is a beautiful commitment to thriving. Holding on to what you fear losing, will keep you in...

What is “the thing” you are waiting for that you may not think you’re waiting for? I never thought that survival was such an overarching theme to my daily life. All that “had to” or “necessary,” was just an outpouring of survival. Life is f-ing short, if you’re like me you may not realize the amount of survival you’ve invested in rather than the good stuff. And doing the same shit, different day?...

Are you waiting for your life to be perfect before you let yourself enjoy it? Waiting for the relationship to work out, the job to come through, the problems to resolve? Bullshit. You're wasting your life. Nobody is perfectly happy all the time. You're going to have anger, sadness, exhaustion, and happiness all mixed together. That's being human. Your circumstances might suck. Your roof might be c...

You think it's the person. The weight. The job. The relationship status. You think if you just solve that one thing, you'll finally feel okay inside. But here's what's actually happening: you're using that external problem to avoid the deeper feelings you don't want to touch. If you wait for everything to be okay before you have fun, you're going to be waiting till the 12th of never. Give yourself...

Tracy calls you out on your bullshit–the "I don't care what people think" persona you keep alive while secretly waiting for someone to make it safe before you take a risk. She breaks down how avoidants stay stuck in a comfortable box, never developing real self-worth, always waiting for something to rescue them. A relationship, money, the universe. Something. Here's the truth: nothing is coming to...

Something new for you! Check this out–Tracy shares part of her experience and view on romantic relationships. Right out of her new book, Tracy uses clay to demonstrate an activity from her new book, Unboxed: Four Doors to Abundance. She walks through the difference between the fantasy relationship in your head and what real love actually requires—spoiler: it's messier, harder, and way more fun tha...

After 800+ episodes diving deep into attachment theory, Tracy's making a shift. Freedom from Attachment is becoming UNcomplicated. Why? Even after all that work, she was still treating herself like “what’s wrong?” The age-old question lingering from birth… what needs fixing? Ya know when things are happening that suck or it seems difficult to have what you want—some of us go to “what am I doing wr...

You think you're being nice. Accommodating. A good partner. But here's the truth: people-pleasing is killing your relationship. Every time you don't speak up because you're afraid of conflict, you're building distance. Every time you sacrifice and keep a mental scorecard, you're choosing resentment over love. Distance is not love. In this episode, Tracy gets raw about what really blocks intimacy—a...

Are you waiting for someone to change? Expecting a relationship to finally fill that emptiness inside? You're blocking love. And you don't even know it. Most of us grew up without a manual on how to actually build a relationship. We watched dysfunction. We learned to attach instead of love. We created expectations that keep us stuck. And here's the kicker: nothing outside of you will ever fill you...

Does it feel like you're constantly striving to be enough but never quite reaching that point? Maybe you've been told that the key to feeling worthy is to keep achieving more and more, but deep down, you still struggle with feelings of inadequacy. The pain of not feeling like you're good enough can impact every aspect of your life, from relationships to work and your overall well-being. If you're...

Think attachment is about love? It's not. It's about greed, power, and control. Whether you're hoarding love, money, or status—it all comes from the same place: feeling empty inside and thinking that getting the thing will finally make you whole. We excuse behavior in others when we think it benefits us. We make our lives complicated with our own bureaucracy—rules and patterns that keep us stuck o...

You know what we all do? We look at people through the filter of what we want them to be. Your parents. Your kids. Your partner. Even yourself. We're so busy projecting our expectations, our fears, our own experiences onto everyone else that we never actually see them. And here's the kicker—they can't see you either. Not really. Not if you can't see yourself. This isn't about getting people to und...

Yes, there is good in all of us. But that doesn’t mean you should ignore red flags in a relationship because you want to see the good in people. And it certainly doesn’t mean it’s your job to make those red flags go away; to shine that diamond in the rough! When you tell yourself what an amazing person you are for seeing the good in someone, that’s your ego talking. It’s the false part of yourself...

Are you constantly beating yourself up for past decisions? Judging every choice you've made and wondering why you feel so isolated? Here's the truth: We judge because it was meant to keep us alive. But now we use it to tear ourselves apart. And that harsh inner critic? It's keeping you lonely as hell. When you're constantly judging yourself, you don't want anyone close because you're terrified the...

Having a hard time? Yeah, everybody goes through hard times. You're not alone. But here's what gets lost when life feels like a shit show: kindness to yourself. Not the bullshit "be kind to your neighbor" stuff—real kindness to YOU. When everything's falling apart, we get lost in all the circumstances and stories instead of asking: How can I be kind to myself right now? Most of us can think those...

Are you exhausted from trying to make everything happen? From kicking down doors and forcing your way into opportunities that never quite pan out? Stop. Just stop. You think you're being proactive, but you're actually running from yourself. Every time you force something—a relationship, a job, a business opportunity—you're telling the universe you don't trust it to deliver. You're saying you're no...

Are you stuck in your comfort zone, waiting for someone or something to rescue you from yourself? You're not alone. So many of us live in what Tracy calls "the box"—that familiar prison where we feel safe but never truly alive. We tell ourselves we don't need approval. We act like we don't give a shit what anyone thinks. But deep down? We're still waiting. Waiting for the right person to make it s...

Are you exhausted from forcing everything to happen? From pushing through goals that leave you feeling empty once you reach them? Most avoidants live like they're perpetually on fire—reacting, controlling, forcing outcomes because "easy" feels dangerous. But here's the thing: all that forcing keeps you from the very flow state that would actually get you where you want to go. In this episode, Trac...

Do you crave connection but keep everyone at arm's length? You might be what Tracy calls an "accidental asshole." You're not trying to be a jerk. You built that wall as a kid to survive. But now it's blocking the very thing you want most. You date with one foot in, one foot out. You need drama to feel anything. When someone actually wants to love you? Boring. Or terrifying. Stop waiting for someon...

Are you fun? Do you have a spark in your eye or are you just a sad sack? You put on your dating face. Your interview face. You're all excited and lighthearted at first. Then what the fuck happens? You turn serious. You start complaining. You focus on what's not happening instead of asking yourself - does this actually work for me? If your happiness depends on external circumstances, you are screwe...

Shit happens. That's life. But here's the thing—just because life throws curveballs doesn't mean you have to marry the stress that comes with them. Tracy gets raw and real about her own recent struggles. Unexpected life events. Emotional turmoil. The guilt that creeps in when you think you should have it all figured out by now. Sound familiar? In this episode, Tracy explores: * Why we choose to st...

Tired of the endless cycle of self-help promises that never deliver? You consume podcast after podcast, read book after book, seeking that magic formula for perfection. But here's the truth nobody wants to tell you: you're chasing a fantasy. The "fake Candyland bullshit goal" is what's making you feel like crap about yourself. One day you're on top of the world, the next you're spiraling. What cha...

Do you find yourself saying things like "we can only talk once a week" or "it's too late to make plans now"? You might be disguising control as boundaries without even realizing it. Here's the truth: rigid rules in relationships come from fear. Fear of being taken advantage of. Fear of losing control. Fear of trusting the flow between you and another person. In this episode, Tracy explores: * Why...