FreedHearts

Today we’re doing something very special.  We’re going to revisit the most popular episode we have ever done !  It was first broadcast in October 2020. But now, two years later, it’s even more important than ever.  It’s about one of the deadliest teachings in all of humanity. In all of human history. And, unfortunately, it’s a teaching that seems to have become normal today. Send us a private mess...

There are lots of issues in the news about gender, and about transgender children. We talk a lot about the binary teachings on gender and sexuality that are so prevalent in the patriarchal, nonaffirming church. These false teachings have led to so much harm to marginalized people. So much hate masked by false teachings. We are NOT going to let hate win, and part of that is helping free our hearts...

We’ve all seen the increasing divisiveness in our culture over every little thing! It’s funny, they used to make jokes about how a church can split over the color of the carpet! Well, now that religion and politics seem so entwined, these private divisions have spread into the general public, and we continue to divide over Every. Single. Thing. A mom brought us a verse she saw a religious leader u...

We hear it every day… horror stories from LGBTQ+ people, and other outliers, about how they have been mistreated by families, so-called friends, community… their lives have been ruined.  And the people, the churches, who have done this just explain it away, ignore it. Frustrating. Infuriating. People are so easily ruining lives.  In this episode, we talk about a Mom who is so blinded that not only...

Actually, it is NOT complicated, or confusing, or nuanced. It is simple. The Bible IS clear: There is NO condemnation against people who are LGBTQ+ or against same-sex relationships. You are NOT the ones who need to defend your beliefs. The non-affirming church is! They ignore the truth of Scripture, and they ignore the devastating, deadly impact of their false teachings.  In this episode, we are...

Deconstructing faith means tearing down ingrained, false, damaging, nonaffirming beliefs, and replacing them with empowering, inclusive, affirming beliefs.  This leads to a deeper faith, being more in love with Spirit, and being more aligned with the simplicity and love of Jesus! It helps us be more free. And who doesn’t want you to be free??  People who want to control you! And they are trying to...

The author of Harry Potter has lost her freaking mind on her indefensible attacks on our transgender community. So why are we talking about Harry Potter? Because: just to push away Harry Potter and all that it’s meant to us—even as we rightly push away its author—may not be the best option for us. We don't have to let her steal this from us. The stories are ours! We’re here to help navigate n...

In this powerful episode, we are going to go deep on the idea of honoring yourself. I hear from people all the time who doubt who they are—who aren’t sure if it’s okay to be who they are! They look in the mirror, they ask people around them, they read scriptures, they ask God, and they never find peace because even when they hear a YES, YOU’RE GOOD! they don’t believe it!  Beloved, the Spirit will...

A phrase we hear a lot is codependence. Many of us are probably in a codependent relationship – which is not healthy – not the ideal – and we don’t even know what that looks like. What that means. Codependence can be a slippery term, and it can be tough to define. Today we talk about if we more codependent than we think, and how we can set ourselves, our hearts free.  Send us a private message. *N...

There’ve always been absurd ideas, and those who believe absurd ideas. And no amount of counterevidence will make any difference.   ‘Absurd’ comes from the word for out of tune, dull, irrational .    Religion, political groups, subcultures, continue to maintain and endorse many absurd ideas. So much so, that they have become normal! So, let’s take a look at a few.  This is going to be fun! Send us...

Have you heard the term intersex? Do you know what it means? You might, or maybe you are not sure. Have you met an intersex person? You probably have and you didn’t even know it. For all of us, it’s time to be quiet and listen, It’s time to learn. In this special episode, we want to give up the mic so-to-speak, and share with you the stories and insights of intersex people about everything from co...

Ever wonder what God REALLY thinks of your LGBTQ+ child, friend or family member... or what God really thinks of YOU?? We want to address the ultimate question today. The big one.   Often we are so scared of the answer, we don’t even want to go there.   But hear me now… you have NOTHING to be afraid of. Nothing!   Beloved, You really need to hear and take in the answer to the question : “What Does...

When someone comes out – it often changes everything in relationships.     Sometimes for the better as they get deeper, richer, more authentic, more inclusive and accepting.  But sometimes not, and these relationships - parent-child, friends, family – that we considered a given – may now seem unsure and shaky. And at times, they are unsafe.   But how do we know?  How can we tell if a relationship...

How do you think people feel about the IRS? I can tell you the answer: People don’t love the IRS. It’s intimating—it wields unrestrained power, and you have no recourse—it’s virtually impossible to fight back.   Let’s be honest, a lot of us have the same experience with religion . Hurt so badly by manipulative false teaching given with unrestrained power, and then told it’s just the way it is. We...

Sometimes we feel like if we take care of ourselves, focus on ourselves, love ourselves – it means that we are NOT doing that for others. Wrong! But, we often feel guilty for taking care of ourselves. So we don’t!  It can even make us resent serving others, especially compared to false expectations placed on us. So, we want to talk today about if we can please ourselves AND please others. Send us...

Every day via email, social media, comments we get questions from non-affirming Christians that are supposed to stop us in our tracks.  Stump us.  Be unanswerable .  Recently, someone shared two questions from their pastor.  Did they stump us? Nah. Are they unanswerable? Nope.  Does this sounds familiar?? Religious leaders approached Jesus with questions they thought would undo all his teaching –...

Many of you came out of the church - out of nonaffirming religion.  The evangelical church, denominations.     And many of you are now deconstructing your faith. Discovering what the Bible does and does not say about a lot of things including LGBTQ.  God has gotten bigger.  The universe, spirit has gotten more personal. It is beautiful! As we have said: When we open the box we have God in, all hea...

What do you do when you and your spouse disagree about your LGBTQ+ child?   This is such a tough situation because the issues that divide are often deeply-held beliefs. You know the ones. I am pretty sure it has cost you relationships – but what happens the relationship at stake is your marriage?   Big, difficult, scary. Yeah. A special, important episode.  Send us a private message. *Note: INCLUD...

What does and does not work when talking to non-affirming evangelical Christians?    It can certainly be tough and frustrating.    We are dealing with patriarchal, moral-majority driven false teaching. All taught with God’s name attached to it – and grave consequences if you don’t just fall in line.   But we, like a growing number of people, were surprised when we opened that box we had God in.   ...

We visit the FreedHearts Inbox and answer three tough questions that affirming people often wrestle with.    We are gaslighted with these. Manipulated. But they are false at their very core and they DO have answers that bring us peace and clarity. In this episode, we talk about these three questions you have certainly heard and may have yourself… and we answer them! Send us a private message. *Not...

We hear from so many people who have been deeply wounded by parents, by family, by friends, by those in the church who claim to speak with God’s voice.     Deep wounds. Physical, spiritual, emotional.   Sometimes there is an apology from the person who did the wounding, but sometimes that is just not enough. Does an apology mean we have to reconcile?? Absolutely not!    We’re often made to feel gu...

Selfcare is so important, now more than ever.  A listener wrote us about being triggered by something and going into a full blown panic attack. Scary. Things like that, and even the rapid pace of deconstruction, can cause a lot of stress. And we often forget to take care of ourselves.  So, in this episode, we want to talk about what effective selfcare looks like. Beloved, you deserve it!  Send us...

In this very special episode, we’re going to share something that came from the mom of a transgender daughter. (With her permission, of course.) She wrote it to share with her pastor, with anyone, who is trying to sort out transgender, gender nonconforming, nonbinary—trying to understand what that community, and their families, go through. This is an incredibly powerful story. It is beautifully wr...

Our transgender children and family members and friends are beautiful. And beloved. Living their authentic lives. What an amazing truth. Amazing stories. Amazing beauty.  False teachings, binary thinking, denial can cause us to miss it all – and cause great harm to those we love. Don’t deny the beauty of being transgender!  Send us a private message. *Note: INCLUDE YOUR EMAIL ADDRESS if you'd...

Some Christians mistakenly suggest that if you take the Bible seriously, you must stand against the existence – as well as the health and even humanity of transgender people. Actually, the OPPOSITE is true! In this episode, we are going to talk about how the Bible AFFIRMS transgender and gender non-conforming people.  And, how misinterpretations and binary thinking cause people to follow harmful f...