For the Rest of Us

Episode Summary:  In this episode of "For the Rest of Us," Tolu introduces the show's first guest, Simone Saunders , a therapist and content creator. They engage in a candid conversation about the complexities of adult friendships, addressing everything from making new friends to navigating the growth and changes within existing ones.  To submit your anonymous questions, please click thi...

In this episode, Tolu reflects on the importance of taking solo trips, and how it helps to rediscover oneself and build confidence. Tolu addresses a listener’s dilemma about feeling anxious and disconnected in a relationship, helping us differentiate between intuition and anxiety. She wraps up with a celebration of solo travel, offering her top tips, destination recommendations, and encouraging yo...

After a busy March, Tolu is back! In this quick life update, she talks about the chaos of the "fire horse" year that is 2026, the growth of her therapy practice, and leaning into delegating by hiring an operations and marketing coordinator. The main focus of this episode is inspired by a TikTok video Tolu made that went viral (over 500k views!). The topic? Overfunctioning in relationships. Tolu ex...

Episode Summary: As promised in the previous episode, Tolu is here with the tales from Japan! In this chatty episode, she spills all the details from her recent 15-day trip to Japan. She covered everything from the intense jet lag to the surprising food finds. She also dives into a listener's dilemma about turning 30 and feeling "behind" in life. Tolu shares her perspective on letting go of societ...

Episode Summary After an unexpected and longer-than-anticipated break, Tolu is back to kick off 2026! In this chaotic but honest life update, she dives into the main theme for the year: why mental health cannot be an afterthought in your 2026 goals. She shares how stress physically manifests in the body, her new weekly routine for regulation, and practical prompts to help you build a sustainable f...

Episode Summary Surprise! Due to a scheduling math error, Tolu is back with a bonus episode to close out the month. In this life-update-heavy episode, she reflects on a major career milestone: providing mental health support for the Canadian Race Relations Foundation event in Calgary on November 27.  Tolu then tackles a relatable dilemma about outgrowing friendships in your late 20s and 30s,...

In this cozy episode, Tolu welcomes listeners to the "wind-down season" as the year 2025 comes to a close and the first snow falls in Calgary. She shares exciting life updates, including a creative sprint that led to the rebranding of her group therapy practice, Ashay Therapy . The episode tackles a listener's dilemma regarding a supportive but emotionally unavailable partner, offering advice on i...

In this episode, Tolu speaks about the burden of being the "responsible one," often known as "Eldest Daughter Syndrome." As someone with the same experience, she explores why eldest daughters feel "parentified" and breaks down the psychology, cultural layers, and trauma responses behind this dynamic. She also provides practical, actionable tools to help you find support, and help yourself. To subm...

Episode 1: Why I Started For the Rest of Us and What It’s Really About In the very first episode, Tolu introduces her new show, "For the Rest of Us," a podcast for everyday people trying to figure life out. Tolu shares the personal and professional journey that led her back to podcasting, what you can expect from the show, and the meaning behind its name. This episode is about new beginnings, find...

"For the Rest of Us" is a new podcast for everyday people trying to figure life out. Host Tolu is here to remind you that you can access ease and peace, even in the middle of life's challenges. If you've ever felt like you're just trying to get by, learning to slow down, or figuring out what healing looks like when you weren't taught to talk about your feelings, this podcast is for you. Join us as...