Natalie Hoffman

Flying Free

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Flying Free is a support resource for women of faith who need hope and healing from hidden emotional abuse, spiritual abuse, and narcissistic abuse. Because of misogynistic theology taught in controlling and spiritually abusive churches, many Christian women find themselves in destructive marriages where there is an uneven power dynamic. Male partners use their status as a husband to gain power and control over a woman’s mind, emotions, body, social life, finances, and more. When she tries to get help from her equally abusive church environment, she is betrayed and re-abused. Flying Free offer...

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Natalie Hoffman

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How to Help Kids Heal From the Effects of Emotional Abuse in the Home [24] 20.06.2019 32:24

Emotional abuse traumatizes both the victim and her children. What does she need to help those children recover and heal from the effects of emotional abuse in the home? Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com I'll send you (free!...

Co-Parenting with an Emotionally Abusive Man [23] 13.06.2019 43:07

Dealing with an emotionally abusive spouse is hard enough, but what if you share children? How does their abuse affect the kids, and what can you do to alleviate these effects? Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com I'll send you...

But Maybe God Will Do a Miracle and Change My Husband! [22] 05.06.2019 38:33

In episode 22 Natalie and Rachel answer four questions from listeners: 1. Why do I still keep hoping my abusive spouse will change? 2. Are there book suggestions for abusive men? 3. Should I "take up my cross" and suffer - or get out of abuse? 4. Help me deal with all the sad feelings I have living with abuse! Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you ar...

Why the Church is Often the Most Dangerous Place for an Domestic Abuse Survivor to Get Help [21] 31.05.2019 34:40

The church is sometimes the most dangerous place for a woman to go for help when she is in an emotionally and spiritually abusive marriage. Here's why. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com I'll send you (free!) the first chapte...

The Difference Between a Normal Marriage and an Emotionally Abusive Marriage [20] 23.05.2019 34:40

In this episode, Rachel and Natalie compare and contrast their former marriages to emotionally abusive partners and their current relationships with emotionally healthy men. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com I'll send you (f...

Is Self-Care Selfish, or is it a Sacred Duty? [19] 17.05.2019 31:43

What exactly is self-care, and why is it important? Is self-care selfish, as so many Christians seem to think? In this episode, Natalie talks with Sarah McDugal about why self-care is actually a sacred duty. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources: Find Sarah on her website, WildernessToWild.com , Facebook , Instagram , and YouTube . Grab S...

When Your Older Kids Side with Their Abusive Father [18] 10.05.2019 45:39

In today's episode, Rachel and Natalie answer three questions from listeners. How do I forgive my abuser? How do I deal with the emotional pain of losing my marriage? Why do my older kids side with their abusive father? Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more...

Is it Your Christian Duty to Surrender to Emotional Abuse in Your Marriage? [17] 03.05.2019 32:49

Can a Christian woman in an abusive relationship take action against the abuse? Or is it her duty before God to surrender to it? These are the questions Rachel and Natalie discuss in today's episode. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfr...

I Can't Be Perfect Enough for My Husband [16] 23.04.2019 33:14

Have you felt weighed down by impossible, always-changing standards of perfection, depending on who you're dealing with? Rachel and Natalie discuss the insanity of this common tactic of the enemy to steal your joy and neutralize your power. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive...

During Separation, How Do I Cope With an Overwhelming Workload and No Support? [15] 17.04.2019 32:50

When you separate from an abusive partner, you find the peace that comes from not being in close proximity with emotional/spiritual abuse. However, as your to-do list grows exponentially, so your support declines. Here are some ways to cope with that. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally...

Christian Women, You Don't Need Permission to Make Your Own Decisions [14] 09.04.2019 14:05

Learning how to make decisions for your life is difficult if you've always let everyone else decide for you. Today we talk about four important truths you need to learn in order to start making necessary change in your own life. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, l...

What Happens When You Set Boundaries with an Emotional Abuser? [13] 03.04.2019 30:01

So you set some boundaries, but then you get the kickback. Let's talk about that! Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage , whic...

How to Set Healthy Boundaries to Keep Yourself Safe [12] 26.03.2019 27:43

Rachel and Natalie talk about what boundaries are, where we allow others to cross our boundaries, where we cross the boundaries of others, and how to set healthy boundaries in order to have nurturing relationships with ourselves and others. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive...

How Do I Know If I'm Doing the Right Thing by Leaving My Emotionally Abusive Husband? [11] 19.03.2019 27:27

Natalie answers some of the most common questions women of faith in destructive relationships ask. Questions like "how can I be sure I'm doing the right thing by leaving my abuser? What if he can change?" "How can I protect my children?" And more! Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally dest...

What Christian Women Need to Look for in a Counselor [10] 11.03.2019 35:14

Finding a good therapist can be a critical part of your healing journey. Not all therapists are created equal, and many are re-abusive. How do you pick a counselor? How do you end a counseling relationship when it's going poorly? Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage,...

What Does the Bible Say About Divorce and Remarriage? [9] 19.02.2019 31:53

In Episode nine we discuss divorce and remarriage in the Bible with Cindy Burrell of hurtbylove.com. Can Christians get divorced and remarried? What does the Bible actually say about this important issue? And why is this information not widely understood? Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources: If you are a Christian woman who thinks you ma...

Waking Up to Emotional Abuse so You Can Focus on Healing [8] 13.02.2019 37:18

In episode eight, Rachel and Natalie discuss unhealthy ways of coping with emotional abuse as well as better ways of coping that will enable you to detach and refocus your mind and energy on healthier things that will build you up and help you heal. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally de...

The One Thing Every Healthy Relationship Must Have (and why!) [7] 06.02.2019 28:57

What is the number one thing that makes a relationship great? I'm going to tell you, and I'll also give you ten reasons WHY this one thing trumps everything else. Without this key ingredient, a relationship is unhealthy and even destructive. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructiv...

What Do You Do If You're Married to a Fool? [6] 29.01.2019 49:24

What is a fool? How does the Bible define a fool? And what is a woman of faith to do when she realizes she is married to one? Join Rachel and Natalie as they talk about how to deal with the fools in your life. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https:...

How Do I Know if My Church is Spiritually Abusive? [5] 21.01.2019 55:53

Emotional abuse survivors often face spiritual abuse in their churches when they go forward to get help. Why is this? And what can women who have suffered this secondary abuse do to recover and heal? Natalie interviews pastor Jimmy Hinton for some insight into this tragic problem. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources: Check out Jimmy's w...

Is Suffering Really One of God's Purposes in Marriage?n [4] 08.01.2019 40:16

Is marriage designed by God to be a crucible of suffering for the Christian wife? Or is there a higher purpose for marriage? Rachel and Natalie discuss the devastating consequences of believing the wrong things about Christian marriage. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive mar...

Misogynist Theology Causes Emotional and Spiritual Abuse in Homes and Churches [3] 08.01.2019 42:02

In this episode, we visit with Rebecca Farris, mother, wife, and company CEO about misogyny in the church and how demeaning attitudes toward women perpetuate abuse at church and in the home. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com...

How Can You Still Honor Yourself in an Abusive Marriage? [2] 23.12.2018 36:03

Women who have lived in destructive relationships give away their voices and their honor in order to placate their abusive partner. In this episode, Natalie and Rachel discuss what it means to honor yourself. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https:/...

How Can You Tell if Your Abusive Partner Has Changed? [1] 12.12.2018 42:25

In this episode we hear from Bob Hamp of Think Differently Counseling as he talks about what kind of change you need to look for in a destructive relationship. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources: Connect with Bob on Facebook and Instagram If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn...