Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

0:49 Robin reads the first question from listeners. Hi, I’m a school counselor in an elementary school. The return to school has many parents, myself included, anxious. With that said, how do you suggest I coach parents on supporting students prior to the return date? We know kids are picking up their cues from the adults. They’re surrounded by and many times those adults are unintentionally feedi...

0:31 HOW TO HELP SIBLINGS STOP FIGHTING “How to best deal with sibling fights being stuck at home for such an extended time. All the extra emotions everyone is feeling siblings are fighting way more than usual. What can I do?” 0:54 Lynn differentiates between the two kinds of sibling fights. One is that it’s mostly verbal and yelling and calling each other names or arguing over who gets to sit whe...

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

For our summer bonus episodes, Lynn is answering listener questions.  "Help. I do not recognize my newly turned 13-year-old, she is exhibiting behavior I never would have anticipated. She has a thrill for adrenaline and constantly asking me about stupid things I did as a kid, and I feel like I'm mourning the sweetest little girl I've ever known. She recently confessed that she has attempted cuttin...

 The research shows this pandemic has been disruptive to our families in significant ways. It's putting our marriages and relationships to the test. Collegial coparenting is critical.  So as we share the parenting load, there are traps we all fall into with our partners and spouses. Lynn talks about asking for help in the right way, dropping defensiveness, resentment, and learning not to take the...

Summer's here, and after our spring, we all would like to have some special summer moments outside with our families. In this episode, Lynn Lyons discusses how to handle common reactions from children. Maybe your child is anxious the virus and doesn't want to ease back into normal activities. Maybe your older kids are wanting to be too social or not social enough. We unpack boredom and its connect...

This has been a crazy 2020. I mean, things were changing month by month, then week by week now, day by day, and kids are feeling more emotional. Maybe you're seeing an uptick in their anxiety, they're a little more withdrawn, more depressed, maybe there's an increasing feeling of anger or fear or frustration about what's going on in the world with the virus and with the protests. So today, we're g...

As the world reacts to the Black Lives Matter movement, we discuss how emotional management can help white people handle white fragility and why families should stop the cycle of raising colorblind children. We provide additional resources for our listeners to read, watch, and listen to for themselves and their children. Articles for Therapists, Teachers, and Parents An Invitation to White Therapi...

What did you learn about handling anger, sadness, and worry as a child from your family? How does that affect your parenting? We unpack our family baggage in this episode to see how we can stop dysfunctional generational patterns and give our kids the space for healthy feelings. This is a very special episode about three of the most powerful patterns that shape not just our relationships with our...

Mom guilt, burnout, and stress over remote learning has most parents exhausted these days. Hear psychotherapist Lynn Lyons share ways to manage these common pandemic parenting stresses. In this bonus episode, we asked listeners to share what they needed help with most, and Lynn delivers strategies to make days smoother. 1:38 We address burnout and how to fill an empty tank is small breaks. 6:56 A...

Our sleep is very illustrative of other things that are going on. When we opened it up on our Facebook group and asked people if they had questions, we got a lot of responses. So, for anybody who's listening and who's wondering whether or not the sleep issues that they're dealing with in their family are unique, the answer is no. They are not. 3:42 Our first section of the show, Lynn offers guidan...

Helicopter parenting isn’t just about being nervous at the playground. Helicopter parents is a loaded label, and we define it in this episode as a hovering parent trying to control an outcome. 4:27 WHEN WE CAN’T GO TO THE ER AS EASILY We discuss the pragmatic balance of reducing the risk of physical play during a pandemic when the same medical care isn’t as straightforward of an option. 7:19 HELIC...

You've finally gotten your little one to stop asking you to wipe his bum. Or you've finally gotten your teenager to be able to handle things without huge emotional disruptions. And now, the behaviors are back. Parents, that's called regression. It's a normal part of development. It's normal under the most usual of circumstances. And it's certainly normal during this time of pandemic parenting. 1:2...

As states try and determine the safest schedules to reopen businesses and schools, parents will want to think about an eventual transition back to normal and which family quarantine habits will be tough to break. We didn't have time to prepare when we were thrown into this traumatic change, but we can prepare for our journey out. Full transcript available on our website. 1:37 Lynn identifies the i...

Parents must attempt to manage their emotions in front of their kids. Lynn talks about how to handle powerful moments of anger and panic in an an ideal way as well as how to conclude unintentional emotional outbursts in a positive way to model emotional literacy for your kids. What is emotional vomiting and why it is a destructive habit. We also talk about the trap of unhealthy reassurance, even w...

What important family event are you missing out on? All of these events, these milestones, these celebrations, they’re being canceled and postponed. And it’s not just the actual event. It’s all the fun, the excitement, all the preparation, all the anticipation. In this episode, we find silver linings in ways to teach our kids critical life skills in adaptability and managing disappointment. We tal...

0:05 THE STUCK-IN-THE-HOUSE PARENT We’ve got stay-at-home parents; we’ve got working full-time parents. We have entered into a new category of parenting. This is the stuck-in-the-house parent. This is our first episode ofA Mom’s Retreat podcast with Lynn Lyons (my sister-in-law). This podcast has stepped in to take the place of in person parenting retreats we began in the fall. Lynn explains why w...

Hi, This is Lynn Lyons, and I’m a psychotherapist focusing on anxiety and families. I’ve been in practice for close to 30 years and have traveled the world speaking to thousands of parents about how to best manage anxiety.  Even prior to 2020’s unprecedented events, anxiety has been impacting more and more families. Now, we all face uncertainty that fuels worry.  As parents, we’ll need to up our g...