Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

Shame & Soul How do you support your children who feel shame very intensely? They feel shame so intensely that it might include self harming practices. What do you say when children say "I feel no worth?" Or "I can't believe I did that," or "I'm so stupid." How do you support your children who handle their mistakes in such a way that's self-punitive, and they're unforgiving with themselves? Also,...

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Silliness has never been a more a critical parenting tool than in 2020. Here's how to use it to make manage your anxiety and make your kids feel safe. Creating "joy" with your family may sound like too much pressure, so we break it down to a few 2 minute increments of joy. And we discuss the toxic humor to avoid. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.  Don't Miss the Anxiety Audit for 2021! Re...

For some families, holidays bring out their toughest dynamics. How do divorced parents manage a blended holiday putting their kids first? What if you have a house of angry teenagers with one of them recently in crisis? Is it possible to enjoy your holiday at home when all they want to do is fight?  The digital picture frame Lynn references is on Amazon. New episodes arrive Friday at 5:00AM EST.  J...

What if COVID is giving you a pass this year that relieves you? What if you're glad to miss a family holiday? One listener hates Christmas because of her overbearing and difficult mother? How do you set boundaries with your parents? And is it ever too late? Manage Your Kids' Screen Time The Circle lets you set daily limits for different apps and social media. It also controls your kid's Wi Fi sche...

Santaphobia is real. Santa can freak some kids out. How do you help your child who’s afraid Santa will bring COVID into the house? How do you help the child who doesn’t want to hear anything at all about Santa? And how can the Santa story creep into toxic territory when used as a threatening or shaming tool? Do you do that? What’s a healthy way to talk about Santa? Manage Your Kids' Screen Time Th...

What if your kids are freaking out that they can't celebrate their December holidays in the usual way this year? What if you are? Parents have an exceptional burden this year trying to make magic when they probably don't feel it. How do you manage the disappointment everyone feels and find inspiration to make the best of a situation this December? Manage Your Kids' Screen Time The Circle lets you...

If you have an anxious tween or teen who didn't like joining in before, how do you support them in a pandemic with remote learning? And another parent asks about her six year old's struggles with blaming others and finding friends. What do you say to the child who says, "Nobody likes me?"  Books mentioned in this episode: Playing With Anxiety by Lynn Lyons and Reid Wilson Outsmarting Worry by Dawn...

Parenting isn't easy in the best of circumstances, and 2020 has challenged every parent to support the emotional health of their kids and themselves.   Flusterclux represents that feeling of overwhelm and tells parents how to better manage their worry and big feelings like anger and sadness so that they are modeling healthy emotional awareness. Lynn Lyons, therapist, author, and speaker is one of...

Just because your Thanksgiving table will have empty chairs this year, doesn't mean that your family's dynamics aren't with you. What did you learn about handling anger, sadness, and worry as a child from your family? How does that affect your parenting? We unpack our family baggage in this episode to see how we can stop dysfunctional generational patterns and give our kids the space for healthy f...

"It'll be okay." "Everything will be fine." "I'm right here." Our kids turned to us for reassurance, and anxious kids ask for a lot of it. When we tell them everything will be fine, it feels like the right thing to do in the moment. But is it? How does our well-meaning reassurance interfere with our children developing critical psychological skills? And what should we do instead? We'll answer that...

We'll hear a lot of hype about gratitude with the holidays coming. We'll go over how gratitude is proven to help you and how you may have been thinking about it all wrong. What are gratitude's powers? And what are its limits? And one listener asks what to do for her usually studious freshman, who's suddenly indifferent to high school and grades this year.  Recommended talks on gratitude Brian Doyl...

Anxiety is loud and messy. And it's physical, and it brings with its diarrhea and vomiting and headaches and tummy aches and hives, and all sorts of physical symptoms that can really confuse kids and parents alike. 2:08 Robin references Lynn's video that breakdown the physical process of anxiety for kids.  19:23 The Circle lets you set daily limits for different apps and social media. It also cont...

When your middle schooler is the opposite of a perfectionist— dirty hair, dirty room, indifference to academics, we discuss. And how do you parent your anxious kids in front of unsupportive in-laws? We’ll answer that question in this week’s episode of Flusterclux with Lynn Lyons, the show for real talk about worry and other big feelings in parenting. 1:01 Robin asks Lynn a question from a listener...

Winter is coming; let's talk about how to prevent depression. While 2020 has put anxiety center stage, there are risk factors that can bring about depression, too. What are they? And if you have them, what can you do? We'll answer that question in this week's episode of Flusterclux with Lynn Lyons, the show for real talk about worry and other big feelings in parenting. 15:16  Lynn references Micha...

:40 Lynn cites the American Psychological Association research, 68% of adults say currently that the election is “a significant source of stress.” 19:39 Lynn references a past episode that talks about when parents argue and model a resolution verses the vitriol of political debates among family members. 29:04 And Robin recommends all three seasons of Long Way Up starring Ewan McGregor and Charley...

1:13 We’re going to do a progress report for students this fall. 4:04 HOW TO SUPPORT YOUNG LEARNERS THIS FALL 7:15 MIDDLE SCHOOLERS AND REMOTE LEARNING 13:01 HIGH SCHOOL, COLLEGE, and ACADEMIC PRESSURE 17:56 Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a Circle to manage your kids’ screen time at home.  18:22 A LISTENER QUESTION: THE CHILD THERAPIST RELATIONSHIP “I have a 17 year old daughter with gene...

0:55 Lynn mentions an eating disorder called avoidant restrictive food intake disorder that came out in the latest edition of the DSM five, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual Fifth Edition of Psychiatric Diagnosis. 6:22 Robin shares a parenting hack to introduce new fruits or vegetables to young children. 8:47 Robin suggests a game called eat your face, where you take a variety of cut up fruits...

1:09  Lynn describes the connection of perfectionism and anxiety in adults and kids she treats and suggests parents start looking at themselves and the messages around perfectionism they are sending. Robin references the book The Conscious Bride. 11:23  Lynn mentions the episode when she refers to the marital snort. 13:52  Lynn discusses the connection between perfectionism and procrastination and...

Lynn references the three prior episodes on the arc of diagnosis in anxiety and depression and what to notice in your child and what to do if you have a diagnosis and helping your child get the best treatment. 3:02  Robin mentioned in one of our first episodes the powerful that when children see us being playful, it’s telling them that they are safe— that the world is okay. 3:45  Lynn references a...

Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Suggested Reading Don't Say That Depression Is Caused by a Chemical Imbalance Stressors and chemical imbalances: Beliefs about the causes of depression in an acute psychiatric treatment sample. Suggested Viewing Lynn Lyons' Teen Anxiety and Depression Webinar Michael Yapko's Keys to Unlock Depression:  Why S...

1:00 Lynn provides an overview of getting a child a mental health diagnosis and asks th4e questions all parents should consider. How do you get one? Do you need one? 8:26 Lynn explains the right way to think about a diagnosis and its role in treating a child or teen. She explains a child’s diagnosis is often a family diagnosis and references the book Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents that give familie...

Parenting isn't easy in the best of circumstances, and 2020 will challenge every parent to support the emotional health of their kids and themselves.   Flusterclux represents that feeling of overwhelm and tells parents how to better manage their worry and big feelings like anger and sadness so that they are modeling healthy emotional awareness. Lynn Lyons, therapist, author, and speaker is one of...

Show Notes 0:34 Lynn and Robin discuss the new season of Flusterclux and describe who the podcast is for. Lynn describes emotional management as a goal for her therapy clients and her own family and why it is such a critical skill to strengthen relationships and prevent loneliness. 6:10 Robin and Lynn discuss the reason behind the name change from A Mom’s Retreat to Flusterclux. 8:46 Robin asks Ly...

Show Notes :037 Robin reads the first of three listener questions in the episode. the first question. A mom asks how to help her six-year-old son who says other kids hate him. Lynn provides guidance on improving social skills as a life-long challenge, learning to take criticism, and learning to play with more flexibility. 12:06 The second listener question involves a family who experienced a traum...