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Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re talking values based dating with Kelsea Warren! Picture this:  you date based on timing, chemistry, or pressure—like friends settling down or feeling like you’re running out of time.  While this can all be very real, what if dating wasn’t about chasing a spark or checking boxes, and instead was about grounding yourself in your values? What if clarity...

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re diving into a topic that I know many of you wonder about, but don’t always say out loud:  friend crushes.  You know the feeling—when someone who started out as “just a friend” suddenly makes your heart race, or when you catch yourself asking: could we be more? To explore this fascinating—and sometimes complicated—dynamic, we’re joined by human connec...

Coming up on this episode of Flirations, we’re joined by Carly Ann, a therapist and attachment expert, here to have a conversation with us about the anxious/avoidant dynamic in dating! We’ll talk about why this duo happens so often in dating, how to spot the difference between lovebombing and genuine interest, are they avoidant or not interested, and how anxiety shows up in the dating process. We’...

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re answering one of the biggest questions in dating! Are we actually connecting — or just attaching? Joining us Dr. Janine O’Brien, a psychologist, educator, and trauma-informed relationship specialist, who helps people untangle their attachment patterns and build more secure, meaningful relationships. We’ll unpack how to spot the difference between lov...

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re going into the world of codependency with Vanessa Bennett! Vanessa is a licensed marriage and family therapist, a sought-after speaker, co-host of the hit podcast Cheaper Than Therapy, and author of the new book The Motherhood Myth . Her work shines a light on how generational trauma, societal expectations, and personal experiences shape the ways we...

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re joined by Dr. Lisa Wade, a sociologist, assistant professor at Tulane University, and the author of the landmark book American Hookup: The New Culture of Sex on Campus.  Her groundbreaking research draws from the intimate, real voices of college students and reveals that hookup culture isn’t just about casual sex—it’s a social system with its own rul...

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re joined by the marvelous Lily Womble—a feminist dating coach, former top matchmaker, host of the Date Brazen podcast and author of Thank You, More Please: A Feminist Guide to Breaking Dumb Dating Rules and Finding Love .  Lily is on a mission to help us break free from the beliefs the patriarchy has embedded in our love lives—and to ask for more.  In...

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re going straight to the source of transformation—the subconscious mind. Joining us for this conversation is Natalie Stavola, a certified hypnotherapist, coach, author, and speaker with a deeply personal story of healing—from addiction and self-sabotage to empowerment and purpose.  Natalie helps people rewire limiting beliefs, release emotional blocks,...

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re joined by speaker, creative force, and bestselling author Amber Rae, author of Choose Wonder Over Worry and her new book, Loveable, One Woman’s Path from Good to Free. In this memoir, Amber shares how one day, four years ago, while married, she looked into the eyes of a stranger and fell instantly in love. What ensues is a raw story about breaking up...

You know what Flirties, I have a question for you. Have you ever met someone and just knew they were the one? Maybe it was instant chemistry, maybe it was a slow burn, or maybe it was heartbreak that cracked you open in a way nothing else ever had? Well today, we’re diving into the soul-level stuff—those invisible forces that draw us to each other, shape our relationships, and sometimes, break us...

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re talking practical optimism and how this grounded, science-backed approach can help guide us toward more fulfilling connections and loving relationships. Joining us for this conversation is Dr. Sue Varma, a board-certified psychiatrist, clinical assistant professor at NYU, and the author of Practical Optimism: The Art, Science, and Practice of Excepti...

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re crossing the pond and getting into it with none other than Tom Stroud!  You may know Tom from Season 1 of Love Is Blind UK and his podcast Why Do Men…? and today, we’re going beyond the pods as we talk about what it was really like dating through a wall and how vulnerability, oddly enough, came more easily without eye contact or seeing who you’re tal...

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re joined by breakup recovery and relationship coach Lucy Price, who is here to help us turn heartbreak into healing and a breakup into a breakthrough! If you’ve ever found yourself crying on Facetime with your friend, rereading old texts, stalking your ex’s socials, or wondering how the hell you’re supposed to move on when it wasn’t supposed to end thi...

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re joined by Israa Nasir, a psychotherapist, speaker, mental health advocate, creator of the digital platform Well Guide, and author of the brilliant new book Toxic Productivity, here today to have a conversation with us about what it means to feel enough in a world that constantly tells us otherwise. Inside the episode, we’re exploring how hustle cultu...

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, Flirties, we’re joined by one of Australia’s most sought-after dating coaches — it’s Mark Rosenfeld. He’s one of Australia’s top dating and relationship experts, author of the book Make Him Yours: Beating the Odds of Modern Dating, and over the course of his career, he’s coached more than 50,000 women in love, dating, and connection. We start the episode w...

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re talking all things queer and gay dating with the incredible Nathan Serrato! Nathan is a trauma-informed coach and host of the Queer Conscious podcast, helping LGBTQ+ individuals and couples build thriving, intentional relationships rooted in self-worth, communication, and emotional intimacy. Inside the episode, we explore the beautifully complex, som...

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re welcoming someone whose work has helped thousands of people move from stuck to aligned, it's the brilliant Britt Frank. A licensed neuropsychotherapist, trauma specialist, speaker, and bestselling author of The Science of Stuck and her brand-new book Align Your Mind, her insights have been featured in NPR, Forbes, The New York Times, and Esquire—and...

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re getting intimate—literally—with certified sex and intimacy coach, Court Vox. Court is the founder of The Body Vox , a somatic sex educator and has been featured in Vogue, Men’s Health, Allure, The New York Post, and more.  He’s worked with individuals and couples all over the world, helping them build deeper awareness in their bodies, relationships,...

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations is the iconic Rebecca More! Adult industry legend, one-half of the unforgettable Cock Destroyers, star of Slag Wars, and soon competing in an Ironman, today we’re going beyond fame to talk about reinvention. In this conversation, Rebecca shares her journey of stepping away from porn and adult work, grieving the loss of her dear friend Sophie, and navigating...

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re getting real, raw, and radically open with the incredible Tricia Wise.  You may know Tricia as the @safe.slut across social media, Tricia is a master aesthetician, reiki practitioner, sexual health advocate, herpes stigma breaker, and meme queen—and today, she’s joining us to talk about something that, depending on the type, affects over 3 billion pe...

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re defining the relationship, ya’ll, with Carleigh Ferrante! Carleigh is the creator and voice of @mostlydating on Instagram and host of the Mostly Dating podcast, having built a community of over 200,000 with her honest takes on dating and relationships. Whether you’re feeling things out with someone new, stuck in dating limbo, or ready to move from ca...

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, Fernie is back on the show for our summer solstice dating horoscope! With a brand new season comes new energy for dating, romance, flirting, and cosmic possibility. Joining us today is Flirtations’ in-house astrologer, fortune teller, and magic mystic, Fernie, here to read the stars and pull back the planetary curtain on what this season has in store for o...

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we welcome Dr. Shanté Holley to the show! Dr. Shanté is a certified life coach, writer, professor, and host of the podcast The Whole In Your Heart podcast on YouTube. Specializing in guiding individuals through the complexities of healing, wellness, and personal development, today we have a conversation for you about the art of surrender. We explore how to...

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re going to have a cheeky good time with the fabulous Jana Hocking! You might know Jana from her spicy columns in the Daily Mail, her time behind the scenes casting and producing The Bachelor, or her wildly popular 'saucy secrets' series on Instagram, where no confession is too hot to handle. In this episode, we talk about everything from orgasm camp to...

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we welcome Erica Turner to the show, the creator of The Relationship Reset on Instagram and the Secure Dating Playbook, to have a conversation with us about communication in early dating! We open the show with how to reset the relationship we have with ourselves and reframe some common experiences we might have out there dating. Experiences like feeling li...