Fix Yourself First with Dr. Kristie

Is your anxiety affecting your relationship, or do you have worries that prevent you from dating or pursuing relationships? Do you experience increased anxiety around sexual intimacy? Do you rely heavily on your partner to reassure you or calm anxious thoughts? Do you avoid serious conversations with your partner because you are afraid of conflict? Do you constantly fear that your partner is going...

Have you ever heard or thought that taking care of yourself means you're a selfish person? If you take time for yourself, set boundaries, or put yourself as the priority then you are selfish. In today’s episode, Dr. Kristie talks about the benefits of focusing on yourself and the reasons why taking care of yourself isn't selfish. When you take care of yourself, everyone around you benefits and thi...

If you want to change the feelings of not being good enough or worthy enough, being lost or alone, and generally feeling very down about yourself? Today’s episode Dr. Kristie Talks about the 3 simple tweaks to prove that you're good enough. Covered in this episode: ➡ What if I told you there were three things you could do today with just a little bit of time that would change how you see yourself?...

Are you living in your values? If you stop and consider it, everything you do is always influenced by your values. Most of us need a wake-up call to return to what we value as a person. Instead of being stuck and living into other people's values and might be struggling to live what we truly value. In today's episode Dr. Kristie talks about what your values are, what's important about them, and th...

Our Guest Nicola Harrison is the author of two historical fiction novels, Montauk and The Show Girl (August 10, 2021). Born and raised in England, she moved with her family to Southern California when she was 14. She is a graduate of UCLA and received her MFA from Stony Brook. Prior to writing novels she worked as a fashion journalist in New York City and now lives in Manhattan Beach, California w...

Have you ever thought about how you show up specifically in your relationships? Dr. Kristie talks about these three roles as they relate to a few key areas of your life, including self-care, boundaries, communication, conflict, and sex and intimacy. Stick around until the end, and learn more about these three roles if you want to have a healthy relationship with yourself and others. Covered in thi...

How healthy are your boundaries? In today's episode, Dr. Kristie shares the 9 signs that you may have unhealthy boundaries. If you feel that you struggle with creating boundaries, you should pay attention to your gut and instincts. Because if you're a people pleaser, if you struggle to say no, if you want everyone around you to be happy all the time, and you'll do anything in your power to make it...

5 Most Common Relationship Issues and How to Fix Them Relationships can be difficult, but most of the time, we make things more harder than they need to be. You don't have to do that any longer. Dr. Kristie talks about the list of those five things you're going to watch out for and then suggestions on how to address each level. And hopes that you take those suggestions to make changes for yourself...

Intimacy and your Very Best Self with Victoria Brown In this week's episode, I'm sharing with you an interview by Victoria Brown on her Very Best Self podcast. She is New York City based Senior SoulCycle instructor, Under Armour Athlete, Certified Life Coach, and Founder of the Very Best Self Squad (VBSquad). Her fitness and mindfulness career began in Los Angeles, spread to Washington, DC, and no...

To divorce or not to divorce can it work with Dennis Vetrano Sometimes, relationships don’t work the way we want it to. There are a lot of factors that can lead into the fallout of a relationship, whether it be falling out of love, mutual agreement of moving on to different partners, or a realization of a different path. In this episode of Fix Yourself First with Dr. Kristie, we’ll be talking abou...

Are you struggling with making a connection with somebody? Do you feel embarrassed when it comes to talking about sex with your partner? Pushing them away whenever the topic arises? If so, it's time to explore your attachment style. In this episode, I'll cover the influence of attachment styles on your relationships, how they were formed in your childhood, and how this relates to adulthood. Unders...

Ways to Stop Arguing and Resolve the Issue If you're in a relationship (or have been in one in the past), you know how difficult it is to work through conflict. Depending on your relationship's health, you either resolve the issue or get deeper into the conflict cycle. Your days of constantly arguing are over because, in this episode, I'll help you to stop arguing and start resolving your issues....

Relationships are all about giving and taking. Feelings, communication, and actions need to come from both partners. No one in a relationship wants to feel neglected or cared for. However, couples sometimes face the problem of giving too little and taking too much. Partnerships without equality are problematic. That's why Dr. Kristie will talk about the real benefits of equality in relationships i...

In this episode, Dr. Kristie talks about past and current relationships as well as the importance of exploring our needs, wants, and desires. Also in this episode: Patterns of self-sabotage The fear of what others would think The advantages of being vulnerable as well as its challenges Trust Issues Taking a look inward and stop pointing the finger at others Get ready to stop making relationships h...

Feeling bored in your relationships is worse than having arguments. There are many reasons why couples get bored with each other. It could be a lack of effort. It could be routine. Whatever the reason is, you are not alone. Boredom is a common problem couples face, especially those in long-term relationships. But you don’t have to bored. Luckily, in this episode, Dr. Kristie talks about simple and...

According to the National Association for Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders, approximately 30 million Americans live with an eating disorder. If you or someone you know belong to this statistic, then this episode for you. Sarah Gottfried joins us to talk about her journey of overcoming an eating disorder. What started of as wanting the perfect physical image and innocent simple dieting, sp...

Have you ever had someone hurt you so bad but felt like there’s nothing you can do about it? I want to let you know that you have the power to do something about it. How people treat you is 100% in your hands. That's the philosophy behind Fix Yourself First is to take this power, embrace it, and gain control over yourself. In this episode, I’m sharing with you how to change how people treat you, f...

Where there are human beings, there are relationships. And where there are relationships, there is sex. For every human being, there is a different turn-on. Some people respond to the different parts of the body, but there are also many people who get turned on by erotica. Erotic literature and stories have given many people permission to explore their own feelings and sexual fantasies without sha...

Have you ever felt out of control or so anxious that you felt disconnected from your body? Maybe you felt so angry that all you could do was cry. So, how do you regulate your emotions? Emotions themselves are neither good nor bad, but our experiences with them can be difficult or painful. When we don't know how to deal with distress, we might turn to unhelpful patterns—avoiding or fixating on nega...

Have you ever wondered what your purpose in life was? Or, struggled to find what you're passionate about? You're not alone. Almost all of us have wondered about this at some point. But, the goal is to take action on our purpose. In today's episode, I'm chatting with Christie Rocha, mental health-obsessed podcast host, millennial mom of 2, and entrepreneur, about her journey of finding her passion....

If you’ve ever been through a hard breakup or divorce from a toxic relationship then you know how difficult it is to imagine finding happiness again. Join me for a conversation with Lisa and Chris, co-founders of Been There Got Out, to discuss their journey of finding love and hope after high-conflict divorces. They started with a friendship that soon developed into a loving and romantic relations...

Have you ever wished you were more confident in how you communicate? That when you talked, they listened to you and took you seriously. That you didn’t get questioned, dismissed, or skipped over when you speak up. Well then, you’re ready to speak up with confidence. In today’s episode, I’m explaining what is confident communication and how to build it. I'm covering: - What is confident communicati...

When was the last time you were full of fear? Last week, I was full of fear and I’ve learned that my fear stems from anxiety and a harsh inner critic, including unrealistic expectations of myself. So, this episode is perfect timing because we’re talking about embracing our fear. I'm chatting with speaker, author, and leader, Alexa Glazer. She guides humans to radical resilience through self-accept...

64% of Americans claim that they are very happy in their relationship with a partner or spouse and 50% claim that they are satisfied with their sex lives. How accurate do you think this number is? Can you relate? Are you happy in a relationship or satisfied with your sex life? Regardless if your single or in a relationship, in this episode, we’re covering the different types of intimacy and how to...

When did you learn what intimacy means? Have you ever thought of how your current definition of intimacy may be keeping you from getting your relationship needs met? In this episode, you'll learn: - Where does our current definition of intimacy come from - The reasons we need to redefine intimacy - How to redefine intimacy - How to talk about your relationship intimacy needs whether you're single...