Finding the Throughline with Kate Hanley

Let's take an objective, non-judgmental, genuinely curious look at the things we are using to numb out now. Like, oh, I don’t know… WINE. Because while there’s a time and a place for everything, if you’re automatically choosing to numb instead of feel, it’s gonna start taking a toll. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Black Friday, instead of focusing on buying what’s on sale, you think about your holiday spending as a way to express your gratitude for the businesses that sell the things you buy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It may take a little more mental flexibility to be grateful this year, but the things you appreciate will be even more meaningful. Because having things taken away from us tends to highlight what remains, and forces us to appreciate stuff that we might otherwise overlook. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m talking with Polly Campbell, author of How to Live an Awesome Life and You: Recharged, who is a great source of guidance for personal development in the real world. (And keeps it real for us lazy folks.) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Here's a fun Jedi mind trick for you: Rehearse the gratitude you’ll feel in the future as a way to get yourself motivated to do something that feels hard, scary, or even boring today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If thinking about gratitude as something just horribly virtuous is not appealing, you can think of it as an exercise in attention. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our hidden beliefs have a lot of sway over what we do and think, and if you haven’t gone looking for them, ever, or in a while, you’re in for some real a-ha moments. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A way to get out of the black and white thinking that goes hand in hand with judgment is to embrace the concept of maybe. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To really break judgment down, today I’m interviewing Suzanne Kingsbury--founder of Gateless Writing, a method of teaching the art and craft of writing that melds brain science, Zen practice, and craft tools. A cornerstone of Suzanne's teaching is that your best thinking is accessed by getting past the critical, ego mind--which is also the source of all those judgments you secretly make about othe...

While you may know that to assume makes an “ass” out of “u” and “me,” are you aware of how many blanks you subconsciously fill in every day? Whenever you do, you mistake opinion for fact. Luckily, there’s a way out of this. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A crucial part of the journey to being a better person is to examine your biases--the things you judge without even realizing. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes, impatience can be the spark that lights a flame on your doing something different--no matter how scary or big or hairy it may feel. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Understanding what’s underneath your impatience is an important piece of learning to work with it more skillfully. I’m sharing five possible sources with you today, and I’ll cover one more, which is kind of a biggie, tomorrow. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m talking with Kelli, who was my coach for years and who taught me so much about patience for her take on what it's all about. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's talk about what you can do BESIDES get impatient when you’re waiting for something big to happen; something that affects the realities of your life, like waiting to hear back from a job interview. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Waiting for the election results and heading into winter after we’ve already been dealing with a pandemic for nine months certainly is a big ole invitation to get impatient. But even in the grooviest of times, patience can be challenging. So let’s take a look at it, starting with those little things that can give you an eye twitch. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hard times feel even harder when you hold yourself to a standard that made sense when things were basically normal. You've got to cut yourself some slack. But how?! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Although it’s tempting to tell yourself, “I can’t wait until this is over so I never have to think about it again,” there will come a day when you will miss parts of what you’re living through now. And recognizing those parts now will help give you strength, courage, and hope. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m talking with Brooke Thomas about how the tough times are an invitation to re-connect both with our bodies and with who we are at our core. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Something that can make hard times feel harder is when what you’ve always done to get through the tough stuff stops working. It happens to everyone. So what do you do now?! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you’re nervous, or feeling some aftershocks from the 2016 election that you’re not looking forward to reliving, or angry, or insert your own response here, I think it’s helpful to think about what you can do to feel good on election night and the days after. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Getting out of your head and shifting your focus to something other than your thoughts is a powerful antidote to cynicism. Today I share three ways to do just that. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

he four most dangerous words in the English language are “I already know that.” Deciding that you know better is a recipe for staying stuck and feeling disconnected from others. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I interview Shelley Moench-Kelley, author of the brand-new book Here’s Your Pill, Kitten, about how a freak accident led to her spending three months as the youngest resident in a nursing home, and how that tough experience helped her have more faith in and more compassion for her fellow humans. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There’s something you can do when you notice yourself thinking that some particular person or people in general suck, something that keeps you open to possibility and helps you trust that life is happening for you, and not just to you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices