Finding the Throughline with Kate Hanley

This week on the podcast, this first full week of the new year, I’m doing things just a little bit different in that in each episode, I’m posing one question to ask yourself to help you process 2020 and wrap your head and your heart around 2021. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

New Year’s Day is a super potent time for setting the tone for the rest of the year. You want to do something on this first day of 2021 that blazes a trail for how you’d like the rest of the year to go. I've got a simple guideline that helps you do just that. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It can be very heartening to give yourself credit for all the many things you’ve been taking care of, and recognize yourself for your accomplishments--big, tiny, and everything in between. It can help show your ego that you actually deserve to rest, and normalize why you might be feeling so tired. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Something that makes this whole process a lot more effective is processing what’s come before, so that you don’t have to keep carrying it around with you. My dear friend Paige Chapman, a self-care coach and owner of the virtual yoga studio Mama’s Wellness Joint, talks us through the tools she uses to do just that in her monthly new moon and full moon ceremonies. Learn more about your ad choices. V...

One of the best ways to restore yourself is to sleep. Now, sleep is a huge topic that could fill many episodes. Just for today, I’m going to talk about the number one way to make sure you get the rest you need. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week is the final week of 2020. Normally, I’d be talking to you about finishing strong, or taking stock of the year that just happened, or setting goals for next year. But this is not that time. This final week of the year on the podcast is about restoration--restoring yourself, your energy, and your spirit. No plans to make. No goals to set. Just refilling the well. Learn more about your ad...

To keep things short today, so that no matter what plans you do or don’t have to celebrate Christmas or not celebrate Christmas you’ll have a few extra minutes, I’m sharing a poem I recently discovered that has been like a balm for my soul. It's short, and wonderful. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Anxiety is often the result of living in the future--thinking about what hasn’t happened yet, perhaps even dreading it, or just trying to anticipate what might be coming down the pike. The way out of anxiety is to pull your attention back to the present. Here's how. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There are two supplements that crop up in articles and books, as well as in the scientific literature, over and over as being important players in brain health, mood, and in things like depression and anxiety. But most of us don't think of them as mental health support. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the coaching world anxiety is often described as excitement without breath. So let's do a REALLY easy--and calming!--breathing exercise to help redirect your body and your attention away from anxiety. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A fairly common trigger of anxiety is thinking about all the things that are left to be done. We want to feel like everything is taken care of before we allow ourselves to settle down and just chill. But here’s the thing: That’s never gonna happen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So often, when you are feeling anxious, if you examine the thoughts you’ll find that you’re pre-living out an imagined situation--and generally not a positive situation. It's like you're rehearsing unhappiness. Here's how to stop. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Taking a page from project management, today I’m talking about scheduling your worry time so that you can put up some boundaries around your attention without having to try to stop worrying altogether, which is a pretty tall--as in impossible--order. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m interviewing the fabulous Leigh Medeiros, author of The 1-Minute Writer, a developmental editor, and a creativity coach. and someone who has lived with at times severe anxiety for over 30 years for her tips on anxiety's lessons, as well as how to work with it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There are two spots on your body that really help quiet the swirling thoughts of anxiety according to Traditional Chinese Medicine. Today I talk you through how to find them and stimulate them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When something feels as high-stakes and as interior as anxiety does, it’s really helpful to shine a light on it and observe it, which helps you see it as something that is separate from you. That's what we're doing today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Rolling with tough times requires acceptance. Which might seem like you're giving up, but really it's just laying down your resistance. When you can access acceptance, you get to stop putting effort into trying to change things you can’t change. (Which is exhausting, plus futile.) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Alone time is also how we catch up to ourselves, process our emotions, and just be, without having to respond to anyone. For those of us quarantined with other people--especially parents with kids--it is also scarce. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s a lot harder to be patient and thoughtful -- and honest! -- with your kids when you're with them all the livelong day. Today I’m happy to have my friend Judi Ketteler, author of the book Would I Lie to You? Here with us to talk about how to be honest with kids without being TOO real (especially when you're stressed out). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you overrelying on the F bomb? It's awfully easy to do... but it’s a slippery slope, and the next thing you know you can be dropping F bombs all over the place, including when it's just not appropriate. (Been there!) (Caution: There is cursing in this episode.) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

These are intense, extreme times. Everyone is triggered. And that means it's really hard for us to have empathy for each other--and for ourselves--thanks to something called 'amygdala highjack'. Here's a way out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You don’t get to say how the people you love handle their stress. You do get to talk with them about it, but you don’t get to tell them how to do it. Here's what you can do instead to truly support them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Right now, it’s impossible to make plans. And our pre-COVID lives already feel like a distant memory. Where does that leave us? Right here, right now. And for the vast majority of us, that is someplace we are not at all used to being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You probably think you KNOW what to do when you’re stressed. But Carey Davidson, author of The Five Archetypes, says that the things we typically to do try to calm ourselves down actually only make our stress WORSE. And, naturally, she shares what to do instead that will actually bring us back into balance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's take an objective, non-judgmental, genuinely curious look at the things we are using to numb out now. Like, oh, I don’t know… WINE. Because while there’s a time and a place for everything, if you’re automatically choosing to numb instead of feel, it’s gonna start taking a toll. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices