Finding the Guardian of Your Soul

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Benjamin came up with the phrase “guardian of the soul’ when co-writing Handbook for the Heart , which Lisa coincidentally read before meeting Benjamin! When you are the guardian of someone’s soul, you love them through their whole journey, even if that means you don’t always end up together. You give them nourishment, encouragement, and support. Lisa and Benjamin...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Tara describes her breakthrough call with Lisa and what made her ultimately commit to the course. Tara had never had a serious relationship before and was wondering if she would be alone forever. The pandemic gave her a break to pause and ponder why she was choosing to stay single. What did Roy first think of Tara’s profile (written by Benjamin!), and how did it d...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: What are ways our anger pushes men away and turns them cold and distant?  What are better ways to show you are disappointed and let down?  When a man is scared of getting in trouble or being shamed, he will either do something out of obligation, or he just won’t do it.  What causes good men to seek comfort in an external relationship, and what does it have to do w...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: What exactly are bioidentical hormones?  Dr. Prudence shares examples of clients who got back their life (and libido!) from getting their hormones checked and taking action.  Dr. Prudence sees women whose hormones start changing, as early as their mid-30s. What are some symptoms of perimenopause and menopause?  Dr. Prudence describes how birth control affects our...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Why would Lisa do away with the therapeutic model of dating?  What does it mean to take 100% personal responsibility in your relationship?  Taking personal responsibility does NOT mean enduring any type of abuse.  Lisa and Benjamin talk about the ways they “process” without the long and draining hours of actual processing in their relationship, and how it makes th...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: We want to be optimistic and tell ourselves that we are growth-minded, but if we don’t have the right tools, we will keep needing to learn the same lessons over and over.  Putting in work is great, but it has to be the right kind of work that gets the results you are looking for. What happens when you’re stuck in a loop, thinking that whatever guy you’re with now,...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: How do we maintain our autonomy in a relationship?  What does it look like to lose yourself and your identity in a relationship, and how do hormones and anxiety play a role?  Lisa and Benjamin describe a few typical scenarios that occur when the intimate bond starts prematurely.  Once we become sexually or chemically bonded, we can start to lose ourselves.  In a r...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: What are some of the top excuses women give for not finding the right man?  How do you know if YOU are emotionally and spiritually ready to call in The Guardian of YOUR Soul?  We get back what we put out. Lisa talks about how to shine your light from the inside out and become a woman that attracts quality men.  Why it may be time to throw that long list of things...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: When we look at most relationships, we don’t see the kind of love that TV and the movies have told us we deserve.  How does the fantasy of love leave people disappointed, when in actuality it’s the deep connection and friendship that is really what should be sought after?  Working with Lisa and Benjamin can help you get out of the fantasy world and into the right...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: What are the ways we self-sabotage our own success, whether it’s in a career, or finding and keeping a good man.  How can you get past self-sabotage?  Why do we even self-sabotage ourselves in the first place?  We want these great love affairs and dream of the perfect man, but if you aren’t ready for it, you’ll push him away without even realizing it.  Lisa talks...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: From The Four Agreements, not taking anything personally and not making assumptions are such powerful habits for dating.  Why women find it so difficult to date multiple men at once in the early stages, and a reminder that you aren’t doing anything wrong if you haven’t had the exclusivity agreement yet.  Do you need to tell all the guys you are dating that you are...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: When looking for a coach or mentor, be sure to choose someone who has something you want, who can model how they got there and they do it in a style that speaks to you.  Lisa talks about a client who needed to realize that being in a relationship was going to add way more to her life than be a burden to her.  What is the problem with the therapeutic model of relat...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Instead of realizing that it is their pattern and their doing, avoidant men will often lead women to believe it’s their fault.  The cycle of a man leaving when he feels claustrophobic then running back to their ex, then back and forth again, is maddening! What can you do about it?  How this behavior can also be a way of self-sabotage and proving that there is no o...

This week, Lisa welcomes Debbie, a shining example of what happens when you follow the steps in Lisa’s 12-week Emotionally Naked Dating coaching program and put in the work. You find the Guardian of Your Soul, like Debbie did in Marc!  Debbie talks about what made her choose Lisa as a coach, and how she was successful in business, took care of her life and seemed to have it all, except a real, tru...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Can a man really feel the subtle energies of masculine and feminine on a date?  A dream date that lasted for hours, yet he never called! What’s up with that?  What is bell jarring, and how can it create the most special and unique feelings for you and your date?  If you start to feel that things are going too far, you always have the power to say no.  Playfulness...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: The first woman showed signs of an emotional bypass. What exactly is that?  Acknowledging your feelings doesn’t mean you have to spiral into a dark place. It just means that you allow yourself to feel what’s really going on in this particular part of your life.  What about the money part? What if the money for coaching and investing in yourself seems too much or o...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Yes, it’s possible to have a full life with hobbies, family, and friends, but the Guardian of Your Soul will desire a relationship as a priority.  How does your inability to fit a man into your life trigger his fear of giving up his freedom?  Lisa and Benjamin decode what it really means if you keep hearing you are intimidating men.   What if it’s your man that do...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Yes, it really does matter why you broke up when determining if you should still be friends with your ex.  The clear boundaries to set when staying friends - not friends with benefits!  Why it’s so important for exes that co-parent to try and be as amiable as possible.  Being friends will not work if one person is secretly hoping for something more! How did Lisa g...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Why has this book and movement struck a chord in so many people?  Lisa and Benjamin break down the 5 Love Languages: words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, physical touch, and receiving gifts.  Benjamin explains his additional love languages: silence and physical space! Lisa shares how she honors those for him.  What are some other huge love language...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Is your version of how your man “should be” holding you back from meeting a really great guy?  Why you should broaden your view of what a successful, spiritual, and wealthy man looks like.  Benjamin is Lisa’s greatest teacher and the man who walks the talk the most of any man she’s ever met, but she had to do the inner work on herself to fully be ready for someone...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: What does over-strategizing look like? How does it show up in ways you may not have thought about or noticed?  Dating feels so stressful! How can I have fun and actually enjoy myself? How to make your texting more friendly and less urgent and needy.  The less you strategize, the better you can weed out the avoidants and only put energy into those who match your in...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Okay, so where can you really meet people out in the real world?  How can you and your other single friends help set each other up? What about your friends already in a relationship?  Working from home? Lisa provides some ideas to get you out of your home office and into a great setting to meet men.  Before you give up on online dating, Lisa talks about some simpl...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Why “working on yourself” doesn’t always guarantee that the work will translate over to your relationship.  What most people have wrong about “doing the work” and why they are spinning their wheels with little to no results.  How do Lisa and Benjamin help their clients become the best version of themselves so they can step out and find an equal partner?  Why is it...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Instead of denying the aging process, how can you embrace it?  What has Lisa learned in her 60 years that she wishes she could tell her younger self?  Ask yourself - what do you want to do with your remaining years? How can you make the most of every day, week, and month?  Lisa talks about the pivotal moment where she hired a business coach, and how it turned ever...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: How can a man and woman truly support one another in a way that makes the other feel free yet taken care of?  What does it mean when a man feels that his life is going to be more expansive, and how can you give him that gift?  What does it feel like to a man when they feel as though their personal freedom is being taken away? How do you not limit a man or take awa...