Finding the Guardian of Your Soul

What You'll Hear In This Episode: Lisa and Benjamin discuss core values and how they are similar and different to preferences.  When you find the Guardian Of Your Soul, it will be a relationship where you help each other grow and become the best version of yourself.  Lisa and Benjamin talk about how the Emotionally Naked Dating Program helps many women clarify what they want and narrow it down in...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: How you can fit in a meditative exercise to the future Guardian of Your Soul even if you have other plans this V-Day or have no dates at all.  For two people to find each other, their worlds must align.  How Lisa went from feeling lonely and sad many Valentine’s Days ago to grateful for the thoughtful and very romantic Benjamin.  Other holidays like birthdays, Tha...

What You'll Hear In This Episode: How Vanessa found Lisa through another friend who had taken the course and why she decided to invest in herself.  How is her new relationship different from all the others? What were some of Vanessa's favorite parts about the 12 Week program?  Fine isn't good enough when you want to find love, even as a successful and busy woman!  Vanessa is busy and a Type A, and...

What You'll Hear In This Episode: Lisa shares how she learned to open up and truly get emotionally naked. When we open up and share something, we wait to see how it's responded to and how it's received.  How working with Lisa and Benjamin can help you share your emotions in a vulnerable way that doesn't make the man want to back out the door and run away.  Being emotionally naked can be light and...

What You'll Hear In This Episode: Janet had already done a lot of inner work, behavioral change, and meditation, but Lisa and Benjamin's course was different.  How did Janet overcome the initial resistance to signing up and investing in the course?  How working with Lisa and Benjamin helped Janet unravel her early relationships and let go of the stories she was telling herself.  Janet built more t...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: What was happening in Lisa’s love life when she decided to work with Lisa and Benjamin?  Lisa talks about what stood out about Lisa and Benjamin’s message from the beginning and what was the deciding factor to invest in herself and commit to the program.  If you are a busy woman with a demanding job, you aren’t alone. Instead of letting these things be obstacles,...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:  Cassie’s definition of an avoidant man, and how it differs from an emotionally unavailable man.  The level of intensity is different for every man as to what they can or can’t handle, and what things trigger that withdrawal.  How women can become addicted to how kind and nice he is in person, that they accept inconsistency when apart.  You’ll be waiting for the l...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Everyone gets rejected, even McSteamy.  Being a “masculine man” is not about being impervious to emotions.  Men are just as terrified of rejection as women are.  How being afraid of rejection often keeps a man from approaching a woman, and what you can do to welcome the right type of man to court you. What Benjamin really thought of Lisa’s joke to him about “makin...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: What are the signs that the man you are involved with or just met may have a porn addiction?  How is porn addiction different from other addictions?  Why people can’t “just stop” their addiction, especially one to porn.  Why men tend to have porn addictions, how it affects their rewards system and dopamine levels, and how it disrupts their whole life.  How a man’s...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: The natural progression that occurs when a man is into you, instead of things feeling chaotic and frenetic.  When a man really likes you, things will feel more relaxed and open than secretive and mysterious.  How throughout their courtship, Benjamin always made sure Lisa felt safe, listened to, and really seen.  When you are the Guardian of someone’s Soul, you are...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: A few of the tell tale signs that you may have a fear of commitment.  Almost half of all Americans don’t have a significant other, possibly even more in recent years. But what if I commit and get let down AGAIN?  What about the notion that as soon as you commit, you’ll lose your independence?  How being in a good relationship with a man that is respectful and your...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: What does it look like to be someone’s back up girl?  But if I bring up what I need, won’t that make me sound desperate or pushy?  How staying as someone’s option is a sign of low self-esteem.  Do men actually know what’s happening when they put a woman on the backburner?  Sometimes women confuse drama with love. Why you should never go beyond six months before sa...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Why do we hold on to relationships and people, even if they weren’t that great?  Can you really let go of a relationship that you’ve invested so much in?  What about the fear that you’ll never find someone like that again?  A few of the many ways holding on tight to an old relationship costs you.  How working with Lisa and Benjamin can help you press the reset but...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: What does it mean to be ambivalent?  Why do many women make everything else besides finding a partner a priority, when in actuality they deeply crave finding a partner.  What’s so good about having a partner to go through life with anyway?  How judging men and being closed off to connections with good men is really a sign you’re ambivalent. How being afraid to rec...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Love doesn’t have to be an either/or experience. In fact, good relationships should help you in every aspect of your life including career and spirituality.  Isn’t a relationship all about compromise?  The FIREWORKS myth, and why it’s okay if you don’t feel crazy sparks on the first date (or even the third!).  A few listener questions and statements including one...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Wei talks about his journey coming out of a marriage and seeking therapy to get clarity and support on his parenting. This led him to feel ready to get out there and take the next step.  The best relationships don’t always start out as huge fireworks. They build from a foundation of friendship over time.  Leanne talks about how Wei makes her feel heard and taken c...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: How first date fashion can get in the way of making a connection with a man.  What you or your girlfriends may think is cool and sexy may be overwhelming for a man, especially at first.  What does a man think when he sees a woman that is overdressed?  When a woman is dressed like a movie character or Halloween costume, men don’t see the real “her”, but instead an...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: First, let’s define anxiety.  What if you don’t really feel anxious in general, but just when it comes to dating and relationships?  How anxiety can show up in everything from our thoughts, body feelings, or unprocessed emotions.  The real cost of not dealing with your anxiety. Why do powerful and successful women still struggle with so much dating our self confid...

- Why it’s essential to learn about attachment theory. - What does it look like when someone is either anxiously attached or avoidant? - Why do women tend to be more anxious in relationships? - How do you know which one you are, and can you be a mix of them? - What are protest behaviors? - How Lisa observed a love bomber and got herself out of it with a clear conscience. - What is Lisa’s “One Conv...

- How to get into a positive mindset even before you arrive on the date. - Dating can feel like an adventure, it doesn’t always have to feel like you’re on a treadmill! - Do you really need a dating coach? How can it help get you out of your rut? - What does Lisa mean by taking the “feminine lead”? - Why are you repeating patterns or stuck in the past when you feel ready to move forward in love? -...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: - How to create vulnerability in the context of trust and safety, without sharing every detail of your life. - Some specific examples of what you could share on a date that is vulnerable and will help a man feel closer to you while still leaving some room for subtlety. - Instead of interviewing your date, we learn to receive and reciprocate. - The art of playfulne...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: What does over-strategizing look like? How does it show up in ways you may not have thought about or noticed?  Dating feels so stressful! How can I have fun and actually enjoy myself? How to make your texting more friendly and less urgent and needy.  The less you strategize, the better you can weed out the avoidants and only put energy into those who match your in...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:   Is your version of how your man “should be” holding you back from meeting a really great guy? Why you should broaden your view of what a successful, spiritual, and wealthy man looks like. Benjamin is Lisa’s greatest teacher and the man who walks the talk the most of any man she’s ever met, but she had to do the inner work on herself to fully be ready for someone...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: How does an avoidant man’s behavior shift from the beginning of dates to when things get a little more comfortable?  What makes an avoidant man want to get in a relationship in the first place?  Women rationalize this behavior more when he’s “nice”. These nice avoidants seem to have every piece except for the consistent interest and commitment, keeping a woman sti...

What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Okay, so where can you really meet people out in the real world?  How can you and your other single friends help set each other up? What about your friends already in a relationship?  Working from home? Lisa provides some ideas to get you out of your home office and into a great setting to meet men.  Before you give up on online dating, Lisa talks about some simpl...