Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast

How much in common do you have to have with the person you’re dating? Do opposites attract, or do birds of a feather flock together? Ali & Roark discuss a HuffPost article “8 Things You *Don’t* Need To Have In Common With Your Future Spouse” and answer a few listener questions as they parse through what important commonalities are, and which ones matter less. As always, they share their person...

We hope you’re ready to go steady with this podcast, but whether you are or aren’t, Ali & Roark are here to talk all about defining the relationship (the DTR talk). After being asked this question a whole bunch, they finally break down the concept of what it means to be “exclusive.” Also, they discuss how to initiate a DTR and how to handle it if it doesn’t go your way. In the personal updates...

It’s the social media sequel! This time around, Ali & Roark talk about how to navigate social media pitfalls while in a relationship and after a break-up. For example, how to handle a partner who refuses to post photos of you. When (if ever) to delete photos of your now ex. And whether you should block your ex. Before addressing these questions, and many more, Ali talks about BEING IN FRANCE (...

This week, Ali & Roark tackle how social media affects early dating. Is it weird if someone doesn’t have social media? How do you handle someone asking for your social media handle before you’ve gone on even one date? And once you’re ready, do you need to discuss posting your new partner on the grid? First, Ali gives an update on the Aussie and shares about the latest potential matchmaker date...

It’s another Grab Bag week where Ali & Roark take your questions submitted to @findingmrheight on Instagram. This round, topics include: how to move forward after a break up, dating in a new city, and setting boundaries in a new relationship. Before they answer questions, Roark discusses communicating her needs within her relationship and Ali fends off TikTok trolls regarding a text interactio...

It is another jam-packed episode this week where Ali & Roark dissect how to build the most right-swipeable (yes, that is a word now) dating app profile. They go over Ali's philosophy for which photos to use and debate the merits of various prompts on Hinge and Bumble. Listen to this episode with your profile open and see if you can upgrade yours! But first, Ali reveals a big decision regar...

This week, Ali & Roark are thrilled to welcome Jonah Feingold (@jonahfeingold) back on the pod! They had the pleasure of watching Dating & New York – Jonah’s debut movie as writer and director – and then getting to chat with him about it. Jonah shares about his creative process, tells an incredible casting story, and discusses rom-com tropes. Before bringing Jonah on, Roark has a big perso...

Hey Listener, big question for you… Did you know this is Ali & Roark’s tried-and-true Bumble conversation opener? Filled with practical advice, this episode is all about how to get messages going and grab someone’s interest on the apps. As usual, Ali & Roark both share their personal updates – including Ali’s first matchmaker date. Also, they both open the archives to share some OG phone-t...

Ali & Roark have a big one for you this week! First and foremost, they have launched a Patreon (cue the confetti)! If you want to become a Patron and have access to exclusive, additional podcast content as well as a private Discord channel head to this link: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. Thank you in advance for your support!! In this week's episode, not only do Ali & Roark have som...

Ali & Roark think you’ll enjoy this podcast only if you’re smart, cool, and can hold a conversation. Did that statement make alarm bells go off? It should, because it’s an example of negging! (And to be clear, we would never say that for real, we love you all!) This week’s topic is negging: the back-handed compliment aka an insult that unfortunately permeates dating. But first, Ali & Roark...

Have you ever asked yourself: do they like me? If so, it may because you’re receiving mixed signals. Ali & Roark are here to discuss what it feels like when someone you’re dating is running hot and cold. They answer listener questions about the confusion of having a strong in-person connection but lukewarm texting; and what it’s like to date someone who behaves like you’re in a relationship bu...

This week, Ali welcomes on Ilana Dunn of Seeing Other People (@seeingotherpeople) to co-host while Roark takes the bar. Ali has about a million personal updates this week ranging from ghosts to phone throwing moments. Then, Ali & Ilana get into how friendships impact dating relationships. For example: how to handle friends who don’t like your new person, and how to handle it when you don’t lik...

Ali & Roark are back to answer as many of your questions as possible in another Grab Bag Episode! But first, both share personal updates and discover Roark has a lot in common with Ali's exes. They read a *chef's kiss* listener submitted Phone Throwing Moment, and this week's Weird or Nah triggers what will inevitably be a podcast mainstay: Ali's Anger. Then, in this lightning...

Have you ever been lovebombed? Would you like us to describe it to you? Well, Ali & Roark are here to do just that. Before Topic Talk, both Ali & Roark have dating updates to share this week! Then, they define lovebombing and talk about how tricky it can be to separate it from genuine affection and interest. Both share their own experiences being lovebombed and address how to set effective...

I think we got a situation, here! Well, a situationship that is. Ali & Roark delve into the messy topic of relationships that aren’t quite relationships, but they’re also totally relationships. We said it was messy! As usual, Ali & Roark share their personal updates including Ali’s fun first date and Roark’s CRIME story. Then, they tell stories of their own experiences with situationships...

Ali & Roark finally finish the first date trilogy and address after the first date. How do you tell if you’re into someone enough for a second date? Who should send the first text? Should the text say thank you or something else? How much texting between dates is appropriate? Who should set up date two? They address all these questions and more! If you want to send in a "weird or nah"...

Ali & Roark have wanted to do an episode focused on LGBTQIA+ dating for a while now, and Pride Month felt like the perfect time! As always, they start with their updates. Ali is *accidentally* perpetrating CRIME and has an all-time phone throwing moment and Roark ran into an ex at a coffee shop. Then, they have two amazing guest segments. First, Ariella Serur, @queerdatingcoach on Instagram, c...

Ali & Roark have an emotional discussion this week as they tackle grief in dating. As always, they start the episode with their own dating updates and delve into a canine-related “weird or nah.” The conversation about grief begins at around 25:30, and given that this can be a difficult topic, they both understand if this is an episode you’d prefer to skip. During “Topic Talk,” Ali opens up abo...

Ali & Roark thought discussing the first date would be two episodes, but turns out it is a trilogy! In Episode 14 they covered everything before the date and in an upcoming episode they will tackle after the first date. But first, in this episode, they answer a bunch of listener questions about going on the first date itself. Topics include: how to keep a conversation going and how to end a da...

Ali & Roark could not be more excited to have Logan Ury on the podcast this week. Logan is a behavioral scientist, dating coach, and author of How to Not Die Alone. Basically, Logan gives Ali & Roark a coaching session as they talk through the three common dating tendencies that may be holding people back, how to keep your standards high while optimizing your search for the traits that rea...

Ali & Roark are together this week for a second grab bag episode. You read that right - Ali & Roark are literally together! They had a blast recording this one in-person in New York. Both girls went on first dates this week (some more promising than others), and Ali received an apology text from an ex from five years ago. After sharing their updates, they take a bunch of listener questions...

Ali & Roark are back this week for part one of two episodes on a very important topic: the first date. In this episode, they discuss everything leading up to the date (part two will be about the date itself). They start off with updates - Ali had her first first date in a hot minute, and Roark had a non-dating related phone throwing moment. Then, they walk the listeners through how to get from...

It's Ali & Roark's longest episode yet - and for good reason! They welcome on Ilana & Jonah, the duo behind the Seeing Other People podcast, to discuss everything surrounding being friends with an ex. The four swap stories of times they've attempted to remain friends with people they've dated. And they tackle several listener questions: such as the difference between being...

It is a Mother's Day extravaganza as Ali & Roark welcome their moms to the podcast! As always, Ali & Roark start the episode with their own updates. Roark has been chatting with "Hinge Standout Guy" and Ali has been having egg-freezing related phone throwing moments. Next, they bring on Trude & Christine! Ali's mom Trude and Roark's mom Christine share their dating...

This week, Ali & Roark are seeing red! Flags, that is. They start by defining a red flag: how is it different from a dealbreaker, and is a yellow flag even a thing? Then they go through how to spot common red flags in dating app profiles, in early messaging or texting, and once you've started dating. In the process, Roark reads Ali two listener emails. One wants to know how to recognize a...