Finding Love After 30

In today's episode, I'm getting real about why dating apps aren't actually the problem, and how the strategy you've been using is. In this episode you'll learn: Why treating dating like a numbers game is keeping you stuck The difference between collecting matches and actually filtering for the right person How to use your past dating experiences to identify your core values How to weave those valu...

If you’ve tried visualizing, journaling, affirmations, or “manifesting” your dream relationship, and you’re still attracting the same type of men or relationship pattern, this episode is for you. In this episode, Shonda introduces a concept she calls The Belief Gap : the space between what you want in love and what your nervous system and subconscious actually believe is safe and possible. You’ll...

If being single feels especially triggering for you (engagement announcements, weddings, breakups, or the pressure of feeling “behind,”) this episode is for you. Today I'm breaking down a concept I teach all of my coaching clients: clean pain vs. dirty pain, and how confusing the two is what keeps so many women stuck in anxiety, shame, and dating spirals. In this episode, we cover: The difference...

In this episode, I’m joined by marketing expert and single gal in Denver, Lindsay May , for a super honest convo about what it actually looks like to keep dating when you’re tired, triggered, or over the apps. In this episode, we cover: How Lindsay healed from a toxic relationship and eased back into dating Why dating apps can feel so draining—and how to treat them as a neutral tool Meeting men in...

In this Thanksgiving episode of Finding Love After 30 , Shonda gets real about how hard the holidays can feel when you’re single, surrounded by couples, and dodging questions like “So…are you seeing anyone?” She walks you through why gratitude is not pretending everything is fine, but a grounding practice that helps regulate your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and actually make you more avai...

If you're heading into the holidays single and already dreading the “So… are you seeing anyone?” questions, this episode is going to feel like a deep exhale. I sat down with my friend, confidence coach Elyse Conroy, for a raw, hilarious, and honest conversation about navigating the holidays when you’re the only single one in the room. We talk about: Why those invasive questions from Aunt Mildred f...

If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything to find love — dating apps, social events, staying “open”— yet it still feels like nothing’s working, this episode is for you. In today’s episode of Finding Love After 30 , Shonda shares how to shift from chasing love to attracting it by becoming the woman who’s already a match for the kind of relationship she wants.  In this episode, you’ll le...

You can’t swipe your way into secure love if your nervous system is stuck in survival mode. This week, I’m getting real about what happened when I was forced to slow down — and what it revealed about my own patterns around productivity, self-worth, and why "resting" in life or taking a break from dating can feel so damn triggering… especially if you’re someone who’s always doing the most. We’re ta...

What if your greatest heartbreak could become your most powerful transformation? In this raw conversation, I sit down with my dear friend Meagan Norris – former lawyer turned life and divorce coach who revolutionized her entire life after her divorce. She shares how she left a marriage that looked perfect on paper but felt deeply wrong in her body, and transformed that pain into purpose. But this...

In today’s episode, I’m sharing a juicy story from my single days—when I unintentionally created a dating challenge that completely changed how I showed up in love. Spoiler: I didn’t meet my husband during the challenge, but it was one of the biggest shifts that helped me become magnetic and emotionally grounded in dating. You'll learn: Why anxious energy is repelling the exact type of man you wan...

In this episode of the Finding Love After 30 podcast, we dive deep into a topic that so many of you have been asking about: how to meet high-quality men in real life, without relying on dating apps. If you're tired of swiping and feeling frustrated with online dating, this episode is for you! I’ll be sharing my top strategies for meeting men offline, but before we dive into the “how,” we’ll focus...

Episode Summary: In this episode Shonda welcomes special guest and business coach, Lauren Ciesco. Together, they explore how the principles of embodiment, emotional healing, and inner guidance apply to attracting your soulmate (and soulmate clients if you’re a business owner). Lauren shares her personal journey of going from emotionally unavailable to open-hearted in dating, and how that parallels...

If you're single and Dreading Valentine's day then this is for YOU! I'm sharing my recent masterclass: Non-Sucky Valentine's day. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

 Download the Worksheet for this episode HERE After a weekend in NYC (where I may have cried every ten blocks), I had a massive realization about what actually matters when it comes to meeting an amazing man.  In this episode, I’m sharing: ✨ The surprising truth about the year before I met my husband (and why it was just as amazing as the year I met him) ✨ The biggest mindset shift you nee...

In this episode, we’re diving into one of the most overlooked yet powerful aspects of dating: inner safety . If you’re tired of dating feeling like a high-stakes game where you’re always waiting for validation or reassurance, this episode is for you. Inner safety is the sense of calm, security, and self-trust that comes from within. It’s what keeps you grounded, confident, and able to navigate dat...

This week I’m interviewing life and business coach Lindsey Mango about how she created her DREAM relationship! In this episode Lindsey breaks down: The biggest mistake she made in dating when she was single  How life coaching helped her realize that her boyfriend at the time wasn’t “the one”  How she intentionally created the life of her dreams BEFORE her husband showed up What her bigge...

In this week's episode I'm breaking down the importance of self-confidence when you're dating over 30 AND I'm giving you my hack for showing up securely as your most confident self to your next date! No more second guessing yourself, waiting around for him to ask you out again, and no more settling. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Fol...

In this week's episode I'm giving you a peak into my personal life and breaking down why you need to take a break from dating, and what you need to do instead if you want to find love this year! Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

This week I’m giving you a peak into a client’s journey to find love, how she became magnetic and started attracting better quality men (and more opportunities in her career and life!) and the sneaky way she started self-sabotaging. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

In this week's episode I'm breaking down exactly why you need to stop chasing a "spark" in dating if you want to find a healthy, committed relationship - and what to look for instead! Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

This week we’re talking about the popular dating advice to “date in your league”. If you’re frustrated with the types of men you seem to date (ghosters, bread-crumbers, chads, d-bags) then the best strategy might be to change your league! Listen to find out how! Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for...

In this episode I’m unpacking the frustrating world of mixed signals in dating. Inspired by a thought-provoking quote I saw on Instagram, I’m sharing my insights to help you interpret those mixed signals and I’m giving you a fool proof texting strategy for when this happens to you.  Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda o...

In this episode I'm breaking down a unique theory about dating that will help you stop feeling like you’ve wasted time on the wrong man. Whether you've faced heartbreak, ghosting, or situationships, this perspective will offer you comfort and motivation to keep moving forward and stay in the dating game with an open heart so can find your person.  Want expert guidance on your love life? Book...

Ashleigh Renard is the best selling author of the book "Swing" - a new genre of HOT SELF HELP! We're talking all things finding empowerment in relationships, dating and the bedroom. You can find Ashleigh on Instagram here Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.

In this episode I'm giving you some life updates and breaking down why you need to stay unattached + cultivate your intuition in dating if you want to stay sane and find your person. Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here! Follow Shonda on Instagram and Tiktok for more inspo and dating advice.