Find love after 40 with Renée Suzanne

You’re a nice person, well-educated, responsible and in great shape. You’re a catch. Maybe you’re working on a few things though. You want to lose 5 pounds, struggle with depression or have 7 cats. And you think that once you deal with whatever the thing is, you’ll find love. This is never true. There are tons of women out there who are struggling with whatever you’re worried about who have a wond...

I often talk to women about pining away for unavailable men and it brings me back to my own single years. I used to be the poster child of pining away for men who weren’t interested in dating me. I once refused to even try to date for YEARS because I was sure the guy I was crushing on at the time (who didn’t even live in my state anymore and was living with another woman) would come around I wish...

Do you want a man to chase you? I used to think I did. It sounded way more fun than me chasing them. Which I had a tendency to do back in the day, with terrible results. So I thought that having a man chase me would be very refreshing. It’s what all the dating books said should be happening. But the only men who ever chased me were the men I didn’t want. And I started to become someone I didn’t re...

Ah the allure of the man who has a lot going on. So much on his plate. He’s successful at work, spends time at the gym, has friends, family, maybe he’s even a Dad. And you understand what it’s like to be successful and busy, so you give him the benefit of the doubt. After all, you don’t want to date someone who doesn’t have a life. But there’s a difference between someone who has nothing going on...

Here’s a quick tip that will revolutionize your dating life if you use it: Ask men to call you on the phone before you agree to meet them. Do this a couple message exchanges in, not after weeks of messages and texts. Please, don’t let them text you on and on and on. There’s so much that can go wrong with that and I’m not going to go into it here, but just try doing this and see how effective it is...

Your dreams matter. You have the right to want anything you want, just because you want it. You have the right to go for whatever your dreams are in life and I hope that you will. Your dreams aren’t just for you. They are for everyone. Just because your dreams don’t fall into your lap doesn’t mean they’re not meant to be. You get to decide what’s meant to be. Every movie you’ve ever seen is about...

If you want to find love, you need to make time for it. How much time? Around 30 minutes a day to spend on dating sites/apps and talk to men plus a couple hours on the weekend for dates. This adds up to around 5 hours a week. If you don’t have 5 hours a week to spend on dating, you DON’T have time for a relationship. Every one of us in this world has 24 hours in each day and we must choose our own...

If I had a dime for every time a woman has told me she reconnected with a guy she knew when she was younger and things went south, I would be SO RICH! Can this work out sometimes? Of course! But it most often doesn’t and here’s why: When you let your feelings of attraction run the show instead of asking the right questions, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. Vetting the men you date an...

You might balk at dating online, but it’s the way to go now, and it’s easier than ever before. It’s estimated that over 300 million people worldwide are now dating online. It’s the best, easiest and fastest way to meet someone. Your future significant other is on one You simply cannot be everywhere One in 5 new marriages starts with an online introduction Statistics suggest that relationships that...

In early dating, most men really do try to be straight with women. The problem is, we often don’t want to hear it! In early conversations and/or on a first date, a man will often try to tell you things that he thinks you might have a problem with so that you won’t move forward if it’s a deal-breaker for you. So lean in and listen hard when he says things like: -I’m not looking for anything serious...

Dating sounds like fun until you go on some bad ones. After a few disappointments, you may start to wonder if it’s worth it. I promise that it is. Dating is the best and fastest way to get into a relationship, so it pays to learn how to do it effectively. Here are 5 of my favorite tips: 1. Write a really good profile I cannot stress this enough. Your profile is all a man has to go on until he meet...

If you're a single woman over 40 who wants to find a great guy, this podcast is for you! I'll be sharing practical, actionable dating advice that actually works every single week. I learned this stuff the hard way in my 20 years of trying to date which extended well into my 40's when I finally figured it out and met my husband on Tinder. I'll tell you what works, what doesn't and why so you can fi...

After over a decade of online dating and apps, and then becoming a dating coach, I’ve seen a lot! And read a TON of dating profiles. These are my top pics for things guys you don’t want to date say in their profiles: Drama - even the word itself doesn’t belong in a bio. I’m looking for an independent woman - may as well read “I’m cheap, broke or just plain stingy.” A giver will not write this in h...

5 signs you've found a keeper You don’t need a crystal ball or a fortune teller to know where things are headed with the man you’re seeing. Look for these 5 signs to tell you whether you should start thinking about taking down your profile or keep swiping. He shares your relationship goals This is huge. There’s simply no point in dating any man who doesn’t. Find out what he’s looking for early and...

According to Google, 50% of people over 40 are single! So if you’re feeling alone, there’s proof that you’re not. This also means that there are plenty of single men over 40 out there as well. Decide what you want Having a good dating experience starts with deciding what a good experience is for you.  Embrace dating sites and apps This is the quickest way to meet new people.  Be sure to write a gr...

Love is NOT all that matters! You can love a lot of people and that doesn’t mean they are good for you or that you should stay with them. I see women stay with men who are terrible for them all the time because they love them. Men who: Don’t make them a priority Only see them once a week or less Are ambivalent about them Refuse to commit to them Insist on seeing other women or leave their profiles...