Fight Me

Send a text Big moves don’t just change your address, they change your story. We sit down with Olivia as she prepares to trade senior year in Guatemala for freshman life at an art school in North Carolina, and we get honest about the mix of joy, nerves, and problem-solving it takes to cross cultures and start college strong. From finding a creative community to setting up money habits that prevent...

Send a text Arguments rarely explode; they accumulate. We pull apart the tiny moments that quietly drain a marriage, sharp tones over breakfast, mismatched expectations on a windy day, a sarcastic “I don’t know” - and show how curiosity and quick repair turn them into connection instead of distance. The theme is practical and hopeful: most ruptures aren’t fatal when you catch them early, name what...

Send a text Ever wonder why the first years of marriage feel both magical and maddening? We open the door to our early days together, moving to a new city right after the wedding, building routines from scratch, and realizing quickly that the real work wasn’t furniture or schedules. It was learning how to move from me to we without losing ourselves or each other. We talk candidly about the fights...

Send a text What if staying informed didn’t have to feel like a daily stress test? We jump straight into the question of how much news is enough, comparing an opt-out approach that protects mental space with a neutral-first routine built around short daily briefs, measured sources, and strong filters. The tension between those two styles opens up a bigger conversation about algorithms, cable news...

Send a text Ever leave a call certain you were ignored, only to realize the format and your state stacked the deck? That’s where we start: a three-person coaching session, one of us driving and audio-only, and a story that morphed from “I was dismissed” into “what really happened here?” We unpack how missing nonverbal cues, split attention, and a hunger for validation can twist the read on even we...

Send a text The new year opened with warmth, travel stories, and a sky full of fireworks, and that energy sets the tone for everything we’re building next. We take a clear-eyed look at 2025, naming what worked, what didn’t, and the surprising places we found momentum: a Nebraska birding haul, real talk about forced heat and allergies, and the steady practice of dating each other even when life get...

Send a text What if the most generous thing you could give isn’t money, but a chance? We kick off with playful family sparks, music versus screens, Christmas movie sacrifices, and The Office episode hot takes, then pivot into the heart of our series: how sharing talent, skill, and influence can change a life. Olivia walks us through her path into sound engineering, from a teacher who trained and t...

Send a text What if the way you think about people when they’re not around is shaping you more than it affects them? Jami goes solo to dig into generosity of thought, assumption, and hope, showing how small shifts in our inner dialogue can create huge changes in peace, relationships, and results. This isn’t about pretending everything is fine; it’s about building tactical optimism, questioning sna...

Send a text A spilled cup sets the tone, and then we zoom out to the big stuff: a pristine Superman No. 1 found in an attic selling for over nine million dollars, a Titanic pocket watch stopped at 2:21 a.m., and what those artifacts teach us about how time preserves what we protect. From there, we get practical about generosity that isn’t about money, it’s about attention, presence, and the choice...

Send a text Want to see what generosity actually does when it lands in a real place with real needs? We open part one of our series with a candid look at life as support-based missionaries in Guatemala, how monthly gifts keep our family afloat, how a pandemic turned highways into ghost roads, and how food bags and open doors led to something bigger than we imagined. We trace the arc from a single...

Send a text What do your weekend rituals, first concert, and secret talents reveal about you? We swap questions and pull back the curtain on our lives, sushi Saturdays, VIP movie nights, and that post-gym coffee that sets the tone. We talk about why a crowded city walk can reset a week, how sports now serve as a light backdrop rather than the main event, and why a good series can still surprise us...

Send a text What if disappointment isn’t the end of the story but the beginning of a better one? We dive into the messy, everyday realities of marriage and dating, where unspoken expectations clash with real people and real seasons, and offer a path from silent frustration to practical hope. Instead of chasing an idealized script, we show how to translate “the gap” between fantasy and reality into...

Send a text When did “I’m so busy” become the default greeting? We’re pulling that thread and rebuilding something better: meaningful margin you can actually feel. We talk honestly about why saying no is hard, how guilt warps our calendars, and what it takes to turn life from reactive to intentional. Along the way, we share funny high school excuses, night-shift war stories, and the moments that t...

Send a text The most honest moments in parenting show up where control ends and trust begins. We sat down to map that messy, meaningful stretch between childhood and early adulthood: teens who want to self-solve, parents who want to protect, and the space where both can grow. From chaotic Guatemalan roads where our daughter learned to drive to the quiet car rides back from the gym with our son, we...

Send a text What if your calendar told the truth about your relationships, who fuels you, who drains you, and where you’re giving your best hours? We dig into a practical, honest audit of your friendship circles and show how small, clear boundaries can protect your peace without shrinking your heart. Between bursts of dad-level humor and a few life-in-Guatemala stories, we map inner circles, spot...

Send a text A big dream should energize you, not paralyze you. We open with a few playful “would you rather” sparks (Oscar or Olympic gold? Unicorn horn or squirrel tail?) and then dive into the real engine of progress: breaking a bold vision into the next doable step. Jami shares a raw, practical account of navigating five knee surgeries over two years, from bilateral distal femoral osteotomies t...

Send a text The scariest health problems rarely shout, they whisper. We open up about family history, cholesterol that crept higher than expected, and the mental gymnastics that make us delay tests we know we need. What starts as playful would-you-rathers turns into a grounded look at resistance to change, why exercise alone didn’t move the numbers, and the simple routines that actually did. We wa...

Send a text Are you driving your life or just along for the ride? This powerful question sits at the heart of our exploration into the stark difference between living a default future versus creating a generative one. Like Bill Murray in Groundhog Day, many of us find ourselves stuck in cycles we didn't consciously choose. We wake up one day wondering how we ended up where we are, often blami...

Send a text Guatemala's Independence Day traditions stand in stark contrast to what most Americans might expect. While the United States celebrates with brilliant fireworks displays, Guatemalans mark their freedom with torch-running ceremonies and the playful (if somewhat aggressive) throwing of water bags at runners. The symbolism runs deep – flames of freedom carried through communities whi...

Send a text Ever wondered what happens when a leadership coach and executive trainer breaks her own feedback rules with her husband? Welcome to the raw, unfiltered first episode of "Fight Me," where hosts Jami and Chad Bader dive straight into the messy reality of their most recent disagreement. After 18 years of marriage and raising two teenagers while running a nonprofit in Guatemala,...